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Getting frustrated with myself! Wondering how others feel

kirsty100kirsty100 member
in October 2015 Moms
I'm getting so annoyed with myself, everything I could and used to do I can't. I know it comes with pregnancy, having to prepare myself for the pain everytime I move in my groin is starting to really get to me, not being able to move like I used to I know it's almost over and I'm so greatful to have this baby but shit I didn't realise it was going to be so hard! I feel like I'm carrying a big hard stuff ball on my stomach that won't allow me to move properly. I just want to get things done that would normally be a very simple task now they seem like the hardest thing in the work even walking is hard! The pain never ends haha.
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  • SandraD1119SandraD1119 member
    I completely feel the same way. I have gone into full on crazy nest mode but my body can't keep up, super frustrating. We're getting so close, almost done!
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  • Gingerella8Gingerella8 member
    I hear you! DH and I took a walk tonight and it took twice as long as normal . I just couldn't walk at a normal pace and felt completely exhausted after.
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    Yes. I'm so done. I can't wait to have my baby on the outside.
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  • dparker721dparker721 member
    I understand how you feel. For me, I feel useless. I'm doing the best I can to keep up with laundry, cleaning, etc. while getting everything prepared for baby but it's a struggle. DH has been super busy with work lately so I don't want to add too many things to his to do list, but the groin pain and shortness of breath are getting to me!
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  • angela_angelangela_angel member
    dparker721 said:

    I understand how you feel. For me, I feel useless. I'm doing the best I can to keep up with laundry, cleaning, etc. while getting everything prepared for baby but it's a struggle. DH has been super busy with work lately so I don't want to add too many things to his to do list, but the groin pain and shortness of breath are getting to me!

    This is exactly how I feel!!!!
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  • AshleeM7784AshleeM7784 member
    Ugh, I feel you. I'm on bedrest and my nesting urge is kicking in. It's so hard to just lay here in the couch and think about all the things that have to be done before the baby arrives and not be able to do any of them! I feel so helpless. I'm doing way too much online shopping because that's the only thing I feel like I can do to prepare. I can't even take care of my 18mo old son, which is heartbreaking. I have lots of help, which is wonderful, but he'll come up to me on the couch and say "mama outside!" And try to pull me to the door and I want nothing more than to go out and play with him but I can't! 5+ more weeks of this might kill me!
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  • kirsty100kirsty100 member
    I feel better im not the only one!!! The nesting is bad I have always been clean neat person but it's 100000 times worse. my boyfriend tells me to sit down and relax but I can't because in my mind there's ten million thing that need to be done! It annoys me the most I have things I need to do and can't do until he gets home from work haha when in normal circumstances I'd be able to do it on my own. Can't wait for this baby to Pop out!!!
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    I'm also finding my nerves are totally on edge. Wondering if my symptoms are normal and should I go in for this or that, is the baby going to be early? On time? Late? Every second is filled with either school, housework, getting ready for baby, and paying attention to baby's movements to make sure he's doing okay throughout all this. I don't get one second not to worry about something lol. My nerves are shot.
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  • rm0niquerm0nique member
    I never felt any of this with my first. I never had this heavy pressure or pain down there either so I'm also getting annoyed! Feeling so exhausted.. ugh....
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  • plumpousplumpous member
    I try to be as useful as possible because DH has taken on so much. Yesterday I tried to wash some dishes that aren't dishwasher safe and it probably was ten minutes of effort but my lower back pain started bad and I had to go lie down and he cooked dinner. I really wanted to help him with it but just couldn't. It makes me feel so guilty. DH is the best and encourages me to rest but I hate dropping everything on him.
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    cmjn94 said:
    I'm also finding my nerves are totally on edge. Wondering if my symptoms are normal and should I go in for this or that, is the baby going to be early? On time? Late? Every second is filled with either school, housework, getting ready for baby, and paying attention to baby's movements to make sure he's doing okay throughout all this. I don't get one second not to worry about something lol. My nerves are shot.

    oh yes this is totally me. my nerves are going crazy. this past weekend i was flipping out because i only felt the baby move once in a couple of hours, but i wasn't actually doing a count or lying down or anything, all of a sudden i just got really nervous and starting poking him and he wasn't responding. i was sooooo worried and my husband had to calm me down, have me sit down and drink water and eat something sugary and sure enough he started moving around just fine again. and last week i had myself convinced that i had pre-e because i had some minor swelling in my hands. i can't concentrate on anything!!! my husband keeps telling me baby is 37 weeks (well 36 + 5), he has made it all this way, he will be fine... but i am nervous. just want him to be here!! 
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  • KLHauck12KLHauck12 member
    plumpous said:

    I try to be as useful as possible because DH has taken on so much. Yesterday I tried to wash some dishes that aren't dishwasher safe and it probably was ten minutes of effort but my lower back pain started bad and I had to go lie down and he cooked dinner. I really wanted to help him with it but just couldn't. It makes me feel so guilty. DH is the best and encourages me to rest but I hate dropping everything on him.

    Dishes are hard! I find washing things by hand makes my lower back ache....I think because my belly doesn't allow me get close enough to the sink so my arms are outstretched holding onto the pan. I told my husband I needed him to wash the pans because one was a heavy dutch oven and I didn't think I could do it. What I feel a little guilty about are the almost daily back rubs I have been asking for from my husband!

    Otherwise I'm trying to do as much as I can....and I'm still getting most things done...but the floors have suffered. Sweeping & vacuuming aren't happening (unless hubby does it). Those hurt my back pre-pregnancy....I can't handle it now!
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  • dparker721dparker721 member
    The two "chores" I hate now are getting clothes out of the dryer and trying to reach anything above the first shelf in the cabinets when putting away dishes.
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  • plumpousplumpous member
    Vacuuming... oh thank goodness for the invention of robots. We have a Neato and I can't imagine life without it.
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  • Krysta6Krysta6 member
    Yes I'm mostly useless thanks to my back pain and pelvis pain. Dh has been great, I only unload the top rack of the dishwasher (if he wants help) because it makes my back kill. What was the worst was I couldn't reach in the washing machine to get the clothes on the bottom -- I was kind of jumping and trying not to smoosh the baby... Totally useless
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  • perrysaurusperrysaurus member
    I have been feeling very useless. Idk how, but Monday I cleaned and organized from 10am till 9pm, it was incredible. My back was KILLING me directly after, but not the next day at all. I'm struggling to get that drive back :/
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  • kirsty100kirsty100 member
    I've over done it with cleaning and stuff a few times, once I sit down or if I'm in bed and need to get up I can barely walk? My legs just won't let me and the pain! Oh the pain is terrible!! Anyone else have this??
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  • babykitcatbabykitcat member
    I'm wondering if I've dropped because if I spend to much time on my feet I have pressure in my pelvis, feel like someone punched me in the crotch and have to pee every 2 minutes. If I have not dropped yet and it gets any worse I might just live downstairs and save DH from the complaining.

    I have a pretty short torso and I feel this adds to it.

    On the other hand I saw my friends new born today and I actually forgot about the pain for a bit :) this WILL all be worth it. It just might seem to take a long ass time....
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    kirsty100 said:

    I've over done it with cleaning and stuff a few times, once I sit down or if I'm in bed and need to get up I can barely walk? My legs just won't let me and the pain! Oh the pain is terrible!! Anyone else have this??

    Absolutely! Only add hips to legs and you've got it.
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  • swelniakswelniak member
    Yes, I could have written this myself. I'm pretty independent and this is #2 for me, so I know this is how it goes at the end, but it's still so frustrating. I can only make it halfway through vacuuming our house before my back is on fire and I have to take a break. Some days I'm so sore and I didn't even work out or over exert myself physically. Just a few more weeks...

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  • mommy_wife_nursemommy_wife_nurse member
    Yes!!!!!! My brain is in full-on nesting mode but my body is saying STOP!! We are buying a house and closing date is set for Nov 2nd or earlier.. (Due Oct 20th) All I want to do is pack, have things ready, keep the current house clean.... Why is it so hard to keep up even with an easy schedule?!? :( so overwhelmed!
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    meghan82 said:


    cmjn94 said:

    I'm also finding my nerves are totally on edge. Wondering if my symptoms are normal and should I go in for this or that, is the baby going to be early? On time? Late? Every second is filled with either school, housework, getting ready for baby, and paying attention to baby's movements to make sure he's doing okay throughout all this. I don't get one second not to worry about something lol. My nerves are shot.


    oh yes this is totally me. my nerves are going crazy. this past weekend i was flipping out because i only felt the baby move once in a couple of hours, but i wasn't actually doing a count or lying down or anything, all of a sudden i just got really nervous and starting poking him and he wasn't responding. i was sooooo worried and my husband had to calm me down, have me sit down and drink water and eat something sugary and sure enough he started moving around just fine again. and last week i had myself convinced that i had pre-e because i had some minor swelling in my hands. i can't concentrate on anything!!! my husband keeps telling me baby is 37 weeks (well 36 + 5), he has made it all this way, he will be fine... but i am nervous. just want him to be here!! 


    Haha you are describing me and my husband perfectly! LOL my husband is so calm and collected; it's probably good. Keeps me grounded.
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  • jennaebbsjennaebbs member
    See, for me it's more about the pregnancy brain! I am so forgetful or I'm just not thinking while I do things. It's like I'm on auto-pilot and then I end up screwing up whatever it was that I was working on. So I have to do it twice. That's frustrating. The BH are getting slightly worse so it makes it hard to sleep at night sometimes. Like right now for example...3:30 am and work at 6 :)
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  • fletcherj1fletcherj1 member
    I am there with you 1000% I even go to physical therapy because of the lack of free movement and other painful problems caused by pregnancy. My first pregnancy was not anything like this. Walking standing its all a no go. I cant wait to have this bundle of joy and be as normal as possible. This is until my body goes back to pre baby normal.
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    cmjn94 said:
    cmjn94 said:
    I'm also finding my nerves are totally on edge. Wondering if my symptoms are normal and should I go in for this or that, is the baby going to be early? On time? Late? Every second is filled with either school, housework, getting ready for baby, and paying attention to baby's movements to make sure he's doing okay throughout all this. I don't get one second not to worry about something lol. My nerves are shot.

    oh yes this is totally me. my nerves are going crazy. this past weekend i was flipping out because i only felt the baby move once in a couple of hours, but i wasn't actually doing a count or lying down or anything, all of a sudden i just got really nervous and starting poking him and he wasn't responding. i was sooooo worried and my husband had to calm me down, have me sit down and drink water and eat something sugary and sure enough he started moving around just fine again. and last week i had myself convinced that i had pre-e because i had some minor swelling in my hands. i can't concentrate on anything!!! my husband keeps telling me baby is 37 weeks (well 36 + 5), he has made it all this way, he will be fine... but i am nervous. just want him to be here!! 
    Haha you are describing me and my husband perfectly! LOL my husband is so calm and collected; it's probably good. Keeps me grounded.

    yep that is us... i know the feeling, it is great to have someone who is calm because i am not, lol. i am such a worrier. i keep saying it will be better when baby's "on the outside" and i can see him/hold him/check on him but my hubby's like, you know you will still find things to worry about! 

    pregnancy brain is hitting me hard now too. i am way too preoccupied to focus on anything. i am normally not such a birdbrain. almost there!!!
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