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Sex question

twogirlsandagreentwogirlsandagreen member
in October 2015 Moms
Does anyone else feel a little raw inside when you first start having sex? It's the strangest thing!
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  • brittanispearsbrittanispears member
    I feel a drier. But my husband said he doesn't notice a difference
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  • alisalmierialisalmieri member
    Unfortunately, yes, on the rawness. Ugh it sucks and feels so weird. I can't wait to have normal great sex again. I almost forget what it's like!
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  • tpete12tpete12 member
    I know exactly what you are talking about!!
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  • cc47033cc47033 member
    Lube is the only thing getting me through it now. It has helped a lot!
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  • kirsty100kirsty100 member
    I get that feeling at the start and after it really hurts, I no longer find it fun or pleasurable at the moment and I use lube to! I miss the sex life I used to have and actually enjoying it!
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  • ems028ems028 member
    My bits are swollen...my husband likes this. Men are twisted.
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    I'm not sure if I'd call it rawness or dryness, but there's definitely discomfort. My husband says I don't feel any drier to him, but between that and the fact that my body won't allow me to get into any comfortable positions, it's never enjoyable anymore. I'm actually looking forward to a few weeks of no sex postpartum!

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  • DianaF84DianaF84 member
    We haven't had sex since the middle of june.. hubby's wanting me to get induced so the 6 week postpartum wait is done sooner, lol. Hes the one that decided for us not to have sex in the first place, so I tell him he's gotta wait till babys good and ready to come out.
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  • ahoneycutt12ahoneycutt12 member
    Definitely the same here but I think it is from the increased blood flow and sensitivity in the area in general....
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  • LimieLimie member
    It's definitely more sensitive. But we use lots of lube and afterwards I have found that it does feel like I've been kicked lol but that's OK. Everyone said the 2 ND tri was best for sex. It's been the 3 rd for me!
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  • mandala1107mandala1107 member
    We have been having great sex until this past weekend. I just can't move like I used to and it's almost comical when we switch positions. I am suddenly extremely sensitive down there and perhaps raw feeling is the right way to describe it. Anyway, I was not enjoying myself and DH is one of those men that can't enjoy himself unless he is pleasing me, too. He doesn't like to have sex just so he can climax. Needless to say, we're probably done having sex for a while. We made it a lot farther this pregnancy than my previous pregnancy.
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  • jazzybella37jazzybella37 member
    Sex for us is pretty comical, too! My sex drive is still in overdrive and I wouldn't mind it at least 3 times a week. I "get it" once a week and I cannot wait to get back to the way it used to be!  We have one position that seems to work for us at the moment and I'm sure we look like some type of circus act.  I am a lot more sensitive down there lately.  However, it makes masturbation awesome! 
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  • shycoconutshycoconut member
    After sex my body is all kinds of uncomfortable. My poor cupcake feels all rough and like someone tried to smash it with a frying pan.
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  • whitemn04whitemn04 member
    The only way I can breathe during the process is being on top and then I just feel like a beached whale. Hubby is afraid to go down there especially after he heard me talking to a friend about all this extra pregnancy crap makes me feel like someone blew their nose in my panties (Eewww I know). Plus seeing how swollen things are down there I wouldn't want to go near it either. Plus my skin down there feels really irritated especially after sex so it's getting harder to even get in the mood. He doesn't push too much though, so that's a plus.
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  • meredygwmeredygw member
    kassyfry said:

    What is this sex you speak of? I think it's what we did to get pregnant but now it's become this strange and unfamiliar thing

    Agreed! My husband started using the huge pregnancy positions earlier since this is our second and I got bigger faster so it's not much of a turn on anymore. Besides the fact that I'm in bed before 9:30 every night
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  • rue:Drue:D member
    I noticed it at the beginning. We haven't had sex much because I was so sick at the beginning and then it's just gotten uncomfortable. I'm actually looking forward to the day I can have sex again! Lol
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  • BlueTopazBrideBlueTopazBride member
    kassyfry said:

    What is this sex you speak of? I think it's what we did to get pregnant but now it's become this strange and unfamiliar thing

    Yes yes yes!! Last time for us was when we made this baby. Hubby is too freaked out about the baby to get in the mood. No amount of evidence or doctor's advice can convince him that it's ok. It's been so long I am a little nervous about starting up again, especially after birth and healing. We'll see how it goes.
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  • BlueTopazBrideBlueTopazBride member
    Some guys are really weird about it. I don't know if it's normal, but it's what I have been working with. I was really upset about it for a while, and honestly it still gets to me sometimes. I have realized that it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. You are beautiful and strong and amazing.

    We have had a few good talks about it and have come up with other ways to maintain intimacy. It's not easy, but we have tried to be mindful about it. It will get back to normal, but it will take a lot of intention.
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  • JAZsaxJAZsax member
    My husband is afraid to have sex now! We are due Oct. 1st and measuring almost a week ahead of schedule! So, I don't blame him, but it is really funny that he thinks that he somehow would hurt the baby. We stopped having sex about 3 weeks ago. Before then we were only "getting busy" about once every other week (which is very rare for us). I have just been out of the mood since around the 6th month, until now.
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  • fithen13fithen13 member
    With my first baby my husband didn't want to touch me at all. This time I think he has sex with me to make me feel better. When I'm pregnant I always get really insecure and paranoid if we don't have sex so I think he does it to give me peace of mind. Sex is okay until the next day and then the pain hits me and he always gives me dirty looks. His way of telling me "I told you so."
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  • ruthsurfaceruthsurface member
    So we were watching family feud last night and the question was "what do women stop doing while pregnant?". My husband shouts out "Having sex!!!" in front of my MIL and FIL. I could have died................
    Yes we haven't in a while because it's so uncomfortable. Defiantly dry and painful especially when starting, I don't seem to be turned on by anything! However I am still having great sex dreams; what's up with that?!
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  • LeabyrdLeabyrd member
    We watched the same episode last night too!!!!!!!! Hahaha I immediately looked at my husband and sarcastically grunted "sex".
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    ruthsurface said:

    So we were watching family feud last night and the question was "what do women stop doing while pregnant?". My husband shouts out "Having sex!!!" in front of my MIL and FIL. I could have died................
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    Oh my goodness. I laughed out loud and read this to my husband. That is hilarious.

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