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Warning: I'm ranting

stephiesheldorkstephiesheldork member
in October 2015 Moms
To give you a small glimpse into my life: I live with my husband and our future son's godfather. Due to recent unfortunate events we only have one car and both of the guys work (usually from 10am to at least 9pm) I'm not working at the moment due to some pregnancy complications and my due date not being far away (as if I could without a car). To save for our baby, we don't have cable or internet. I'm constantly at the house by myself watching the same 9 DVDs we own over and over and rereading books to keep myself occupied when I run out of things to clean. The closest friend I have to me lives 40 minutes away (she also doesn't have a car) and the closest family member I have to me is my mom who lives an hour and a half away. Needless to say I get very bored and lonely. My husband was actually off today and I was so excited to not be by myself for the first time in over a week. But he left for a work party (that I wasn't invited to) as soon as he woke up at 12:30 this afternoon and here I am, 10 hours later, and he's still not home or answering my texts or calls. I'm just incredibly alone and bored and it's frustrating that I can't leave this house or watch TV or go get a new book. If you made it this far, God bless you. Rant over.
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  • ROrtiz07ROrtiz07 member
    Yeah I'd be pretty pissed & upset & ranting too lol. I can't say I feel loneliness to that extent but I've lost lots friends & work since becoming pregnant. I'm a freelance makeup artist & most of my career was based on me traveling & networking. Now that I have this lovely little anchor growing in me, traveling is exhausting & just not realistic anymore. My income has pretty much been shot to hell the last several weeks & since I haven't been working much, most of my contacts have seemed to disappear. As far as men go, my son's father & I aren't together, never have been, but somehow he feels I'm his property since I'm carrying his child and God forbid I even so much as think of another man, the sky would fall but it's perfectly okay for him to date & spend his weekends with females. Different situations, same crappy feelings. Lol sorry! I guess I needed to vent more than I thought I did.
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  • stephiesheldorkstephiesheldork member
    11 hours now.
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    that's not right.  I don't know all the circumstances, but I would frankly be kind of pissed at him!!  and that's not just the "hormones" talking.  He could at least respond to you.  Sorry :(
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  • rm0niquerm0nique member
    My SO takes my car on the weekends since I'm off work just because mine is nicer and comfortable and I go crazy just those 2 days I'm home all day (since idk how to drive his car) I can't imagine what that's like for you everyday! And him not spending an ENTIRE day off with you or communicating seems a little crazy to me! So sorry you have to deal with this.
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  • stephiesheldorkstephiesheldork member
    edited September 2015
    He just called back. If he wasn't lying about getting in the car, he should be home around 1.
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  • dparker721dparker721 member
    @stephiesheldork, I'm curious if he said what he was doing for over 12 hours that he couldn't answer his phone or text.
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  • stephiesheldorkstephiesheldork member
    Word for word "sorry, my phone died on the way there and it was charging in the car"
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  • krae771krae771 member
    Do you have a local library?  At least you could stock up on new books or DVDs...  I know you can't drive there now but you could borrow the car when your husband is home.
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  • sgoodselsgoodsel member
    Some libraries have on-line books you can borrow from the web.

    My DH would be in the dog house for leaving like that and prioritizing a work party for 10 hours over spending time with me or at least allowing me to get out of the house!
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  • tbasinskitbasinski member
    Might need to have a discussion about the need for him to have the phone charged and on him at all times. Also, sit down and discuss how you are feeling, that you're lonely and look forward to time with him. Don't make it a guilt trip, just state facts and make some plans for future days off. And lastly- you should ALWAYS be invited to whatever party your husband is. Period.
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  • ameares721ameares721 member
    When my husband was behaving that way, he was entertaining another woman. Things have since gotten MUCH better for us, but I'd be suspicious of your husband's behavior. I don't mean to say that he's cheating, but there is an underlying issue if he is staying away from home for 11 hours on his day off and he's ignoring your texts. Definitely worth a (civil, rational) conversation. If it's his first child, the stress and unknown could be getting to him.
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  • beetsbeesbeetsbees member
    Have your husband give you a ride to town before work and pack for a day out once a week to buy books/movies and what not. Also Netflix will mail you movies for $12/mo.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    There is a website that will send discounted and often free ebooks. If you make a kindle account (free app) ...i believe it might use your amazon account...you can sign up for bookbub.com. everyday they will send you an email with books to download to yur device. Not always great ones..but most days im pretty impressed :)
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  • leighann1leighann1 member
    There is no acceptable reason for him to be out of touch for 12 hours. What if you went into labor or had to go to the hospital? Nope. He needs to grow up quickly and be accessible at all times, especially if you are home alone with no transportation. Do you have a backup plan for how you'll get to the hospital without him? 
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