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Letting people help

taylorharris01taylorharris01 member
in August 2015 Moms
hey mommas!

I'm feeling guilty. I've been getting a lot of help with my son. At least once a week my mom or my mother in law will help over night with my newborn. He's four weeks today. I am starting to feel like because I'm letting people help at night I'm being a bad mom. Especially because my mother in law did it two nights and then I did one night and now my mother is helping for two more nights.. Is it wrong to let them help. Normally it isn't this frequent but I really could use the sleep. My husband works so normally its just me and my son. Please no judgement I already feel like I'm a bad mom.
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Re: Letting people help

  • pinkspringtulippinkspringtulip member
    I don't think you're a bad mom! You definitely should take advantage of the help you are offered. I think being a new mom is hard and if you can get some sleep, that's amazing :)
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  • sandrabrookesandrabrooke member
    That's great! I'd do it too if my mil wasn't such a pain
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  • tarheelgirl8tarheelgirl8 member
    Don't feel bad at all!  It's wonderful that you and your LO have people in your life to love and support you.  You are very blessed!  Be thankful.  No guilt at all!
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  • taylorharris01taylorharris01 member
    Thank you for responding! I guess I just get worried about the bonding part. I can't supply enough to breastfeed and I had an emergency c section so I keep feeling like the things I'm supposed to be doing as mommy I'm not if that makes sense.
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  • kettlekittenkettlekitten member
    That's really awesome you have help. Lucky! Don't feel guilty. Make the most of the opportunity to get some rest, especially if you won't always have people to help. There's that saying 'it takes a village to raise a child,' it's not meant to be done on your own. I'm currently having the guilts as my mum is taking my older DD a lot while I get the hang of a newborn again...
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  • taylorharris01taylorharris01 member
    Thanks so much ladies!
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  • kettlekittenkettlekitten member
    Oh also feeling guilty for having the TV on most of the time when I do have the two kids on my own. Guilt guilt guilt. But I know that this phase won't last forever...
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  • cseley321cseley321 member
    If you can get the help, go for it. The way I see it is you will be well rested and more refreshed for your baby. I know I've caught myself snapping due to lack of sleep and stress and I felt awful about it. When I finally started forcing myself to nap in the morning when my baby naps, I started feeling so much better and being much more pleasant. I don't want to start off yelling like a mad woman in front of my newborn...
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  • emmacake08emmacake08 member
    Yep don't feel bad. My mom has come a few weekends and has switched with DH and helped me through the night so DH could sleep and because I have to pump all through the night. Don't box yourself in with what you think you should be doing. Just keep taking care of LO and loving them and don't worry about anything else.
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