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When To Let People See Babies After Cesarean?

Mljones1017Mljones1017 member
in October 2015 Moms
I'm going in for a cesarean on the 21st. It will be just me and my husband for the initial delivery. But I am trying to figure out when to have family come to visit. We have VERY involved family and friends lol. We were thinking just our close family (my dad and mom and my husbands parents, also my husbands brothers and sister and my sisters and nieces and then two of my close friends) but that's all I'm comfortable having because I know I'm not going to be up to having a bunch of people. The drugs from the cesarean will probably make me queasy etc.
also i was thinking of having an hour or two after the delivery to be with just my husband and babies (having twins) because I really want to breastfeed and create a strong bond ASAP. With the cesarean and it being my first two babies I am going to be overwhelmed with learning how to breastfeed. Also i am not at all comfortable nursing in front of anyone. Is this reasonable to have people wait a few hours before meeting our girls? We really don't want to oust anyone but this is the best Plan I can come up with.
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Re: When To Let People See Babies After Cesarean?

  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    It's completely reasonable to want people to wait a few hours.

    When my son was born, I had an emergency c-section due to rapidly advancing pre-e. I know he was born at 3:17 pm, and my parents, DH's parents, brother, and one of his sisters visited at some point in the evening. Honestly I couldn't tell you how long if a lapse there was (hello, drugs!).

    Anyway, this time, I'm having a planned c-section and my surgery is scheduled for 12 pm. Knowing that it takes around 45 minutes or so, plus giving us a couple hours to bond with the baby and rest, we're asking visitors to come around dinner time, maybe even after dinner (this time it'll be my ILs, DS and maybe one of my SILs). With DS being only 2, I don't want him to have to be up really late to meet his sister, but no one is going to be invited to show up RIGHT after she's born.


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  • leenabrinae13leenabrinae13 member
    I'm going in for my 3rd c-section on the 28th, and I only allow immediate family (my mom, brother) to see the baby the first day. It's a lot going on with trying to breastfeed, getting used to the medication, and the nurses are constantly coming into the room to check your stomach and check on you. You're going to be exhausted, so just take the 1st day to enjoy your new family.
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  • kstitt0830kstitt0830 member
    Just tell everyone that you will call when it's time for them to meet the girls...that way you can decided as it happens, what you're comfortable with! It's not like they won't see them for the rest of their lives so take as much time as you need to recover, bond, and figure out breast feeding
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  • JaqiDec04JaqiDec04 member
    You are having major surgery. The drugs can make you nauseous and uneasy. It took HOURS before I could sit up in bed, because I threw up every time I did. And it was 12 hours before my nurse even let me get up and walk around (because I kept throwing up). That's not typical, but you just never know how you are going to respond.

    Your c-section is going to take at least 45 minutes to an hour, especially since there are two babies. Then, you should have AT LEAST an hour or two to get settled, recovered, the babies cleaned up, a chance to do skin to skin and to nurse.

    Visitors should be staggered, no more than a few in the room. And every time I needed to nurse DD, I just kicked everyone out. DH would hand her to me, I'd look at anyone who was sitting in the room and say "She's hungry." Then stared. If they figured it out, they'd get up and leave. If they thought I was going to whip out a boob in front of them I just said "Maybe you want to take a walk?" I didn't care about being polite.
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  • hempysanhempysan member
    I'm not having a CS but I don't plan on letting anyone visit for at least 2 hrs after my little girl is born. I've already told family this and while they aren't happy about it they so understand. If you are worried about peoples reactions don't tell them the time of your CS and just let them know when your ready.
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  • rue:Drue:D member
    I would wait at least a day or so before having visitors, especially since these are your first - because you have no idea what to expect to feel like or be going through. Tell your family that your plan is to wait at least 24 hours but you will contact them whenever you are ready for visitors. And let your nurses know that no one besides your husband is allowed in to visit until you say so.

    As far as nursing, if you have visitors in the room when you need to feed the babies, all you have to do is ask them to leave.
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