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painful sex?

KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
edited August 2015 in October 2015 Moms
Poor dh has been really neglected this pregnancy :( although hes been a trooper. Weve done the deed only a handful of times in the last few weeks. Im 31 weeks now and it feels like hes rubbing up against something in there. Only position ive been able to find that relieve thays is missionary..total opposite from what everyone else says. It doesnt feel like its my cervix hes hitting but something toward the front. Anyone elae having similar issues?
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  • SballerinaSballerina member
    I have had discomfort at times too. General pain due to dryness and/or sensitivity possibly of my cervix. Missionary, as long as he supports his weight with his arms has been relatively comfortable for me too. Maybe you are swollen and/or have a varicose vein there? Try using lubricant. Sometimes it's the only thing that helps me stay comfortable. Also ask him to thrust very slowly at first. Oh and finally, see if he can make the whole day or at least several hours very romantic in tone (cute and flirty texts, getting something done for you without you asking, rubbing your shoulders, etc.). I think I tend to be more physically ready when I've had hours of emotional foreplay, and not just physical foreplay right before.
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  • kmama37kmama37 member
    I haven't had a problem till today :( I feel ya though rubbing/hitting something sharp. 33 weeks.
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  • morgy_beemorgy_bee member
    I have had success with early morning sex (can't sleep so why not?) and I have to be doggy style with a bunch of pillows propped underneath me. Maybe try a couple pillows under your hips so that it is a different angle?
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  • stephiesheldorkstephiesheldork member
    Sex just isn't something I can do very often right now. So many things go wrong when we try. Either I'm not capable of getting wet, or I have contractions during, or it feels kind of swollen and painful, or I have to pee during, or my hip cramps up. I try, but most times it ends with me apologizing and him going to sleep unsatisfied.
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  • Vstille2712Vstille2712 member
    My fear is that my poor lo is shaking around too much in there! Valid concern? Or am I just paranoid... :-S
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  • Ljconnery1Ljconnery1 member
    Geez, at least you all are trying. I have nooooo desire whatsoever. It's terrible
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  • AmandaRN03AmandaRN03 member
    I get contractions too and if I do reach the O....omg it hurts. My poor hubby!
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  • ChrissyLady1115ChrissyLady1115 member
    We are doing it every few weeks... And it's a little uncomfortable for me at first too, but we just ease into it. I had a subchorionic tear during my first trimester, so I was on pelvic rest. And SUPER paranoid!

    Hubby's been great and totally understands. It's just temporary :)
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  • sthigginssthiggins member
    I have lost all desire in doing the deed! Every few weeks I will take one for the team but it is extremely uncomfortable. I am a FTM and can truly relate to how you are feeling!
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  • SMGoodlettSMGoodlett member
    edited August 2015
    lots of cuddles! And I have to make sure to use the bathroom right before. Morning sex seems a lot easier like pp have said. I know a lot of people say to have the female on top, but I've noticed it's actually easier for us if we're in the missionary position (my hubby can use his arms to keep his weight off my belly and I don't get "stuck" trying to move around on top ha)

    I guess I'm the only one who is still getting frisky on a weekly basis? Twice a week is still common. Yikes I'm feeling like an odd ball now lol

    Edited to say I am 32+4 weeks.
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  • shineysashashineysasha member
    I havent been able to go on top or do missionary since quite early in my pregnancy, I get really sharp pains in what feels like it could be my ovaries? I have no idea but it is brutal. So we stick to doggy which works for us ;)
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  • leilei28leilei28 member
    I'm 32 wks 1 day...we have had sex all the time but I am just now getting to the point where I'm ready to give it up...it doesn't hurt until afterwards...I get soar...my stomach cramps up...and back pain like whoa!!! I'll probably be going down to once a week!
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  • midge519midge519 member
    SMGoodlett said:
     I guess I'm the only one who is still getting frisky on a weekly basis? Twice a week is still common. Yikes I'm feeling like an odd ball now lol Edited to say I am 32+4 weeks.
    We're still on an almost daily routine lol. Almost 32 weeks here. But I have found that at times my hips can't handle me on time. It can take me a little bit more to get wet but I do cum way more than before when I hit the O which he loves! I also stick to a good amount of BJ's since that pleases me as well and its less friction on my lady bits lol
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  • lucky10lizlucky10liz member
    We tried last night and it was so painful for me that I just gave up on enjoying it and focused on DH enjoying it. I feel bad, but it's just not enjoyable. I can't get comfortable and I just end up unsatisfied (unless I do it myself).  :-S
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  • SMGoodlettSMGoodlett member
    midge519 said:


    SMGoodlett said:

     I guess I'm the only one who is still getting frisky on a weekly basis? Twice a week is still common. Yikes I'm feeling like an odd ball now lol

    Edited to say I am 32+4 weeks.

    We're still on an almost daily routine lol. Almost 32 weeks here. But I have found that at times my hips can't handle me on time. It can take me a little bit more to get wet but I do cum way more than before when I hit the O which he loves! I also stick to a good amount of BJ's since that pleases me as well and its less friction on my lady bits lol


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  • SMGoodlettSMGoodlett member
    edited August 2015
    Not sure why my comment didn't show up... Anyway:

    BJs and groping are common here too. He gets excited about it, which makes me satisfied too. In the long run, it makes everything better for everyone! ;)

    ETA: I don't really get a pinchy ovary feeling at all but every once in a while my back will hurt afterwards. Nothing awful, just sore.
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  • midge519midge519 member
    @SMGoodlett I don't get the punchy feeling but I do notice baby stays higher till we're done lol
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  • SMGoodlettSMGoodlett member
    midge519 said:

    @SMGoodlett I don't get the punchy feeling but I do notice baby stays higher till we're done lol



    Mine does that too. I told hubby it's like she's hiding out til we are done. Ha. She moves up really high and my belly feels hard where she's all curled up.
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  • angela0429angela0429 member
    KristynLee15 said:

    Poor dh has been really neglected this pregnancy :( although hes been a trooper. Weve done the deed only a handful of times in the last few weeks. Im 31 weeks now and it feels like hes rubbing up against something in there. Only position ive been able to find that relieve thays is missionary..total opposite from what everyone else says. It doesnt feel like its my cervix hes hitting but something toward the front. Anyone elae having similar issues?

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  • angela0429angela0429 member
    Omg, I'm having the total opposite. All I want to do is have sex. Being on top is best for us. Use a lubricant, it's helps a ton. I've never understood why my sex drive is way high when I'm pregnant and not so much when I'm not.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    Im so glad im not alone. Its not that i dont want it..im afraid of the pain lol lucky for him i make sure he gets taken care of. Ive been open with him about it and hes supportive. He finally admitted he gets a little weirded out "poking his son in the head".....little does he know its a girl...he didnt want to know lol :)
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  • SMGoodlettSMGoodlett member
    KristynLee15 said:

    Im so glad im not alone. Its not that i dont want it..im afraid of the pain lol lucky for him i make sure he gets taken care of. Ive been open with him about it and hes supportive. He finally admitted he gets a little weirded out "poking his son in the head".....little does he know its a girl...he didnt want to know lol :)

    Does he know you know Baby's gender? Too funny!
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    He does not know! I told him i was going to find out. But i also told him i dont know..so he doesnt ask. Hes been adament to have this be a suprise from day one and i dont want him t change his mind simply because i know something he doesnt lol im afraid hell regret it
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