looking for some advice on how to explain to my seven year old about breastfeeding. He asked me tonight if he would be able to help feed his baby sister when she gets here. I told him we would see but DH is concerned about explaining the ins and outs. I am a biologist and am afraid I will be too technical and give more details than necessary and DH is a smart ass who would say something like only mommie can feed cause they have the meals on wheels. Either way I am afraid of what he will share with his second grade class after this discussion. Anyone with experience explaining this or any advice on the best way to explain it. Thanks in advance
Re: What should I tell my 7 yr old about breastfeeding?
I don't think it will need much explaining. He's 7. I have a 5 yr old boy that will prolly ask once and I'll just tell him it's nature. That's how some mommies feed their babies. Just like a baby calf or puppies etc.. Lol
On the subject, but off the subject... This weekend at a county fair, we seen a woman with her shirt half off walking around the fair breastfeeding. she was in no way trying to cover up and you could literally see every inch of her size FF breast, except the nipple. It was terrible. There were children running around everywhere and luckily I seen her before my son did and I caught his attention to distract. I'm all for breast feeding, not so much for public indecency...
OP, I agree about using animals. Or you can write a short script up that you and your husband look over and agree is appropriate for your son. My nephew got the full scientific reason for his little brothers feeding at 5 years old because he's just that science driven kid. It was age-appropriate, but not sugar coated either.
On another note, a friend's 4 year old pulled my nursing cover up at the park when my daughter was a baby and I was nursing her to ask what I was doing!! It was pretty funny, I just told her I was feeding her this way because she didn't like bottles (the 4 year olds baby sister was bottled fed). Her mom couldn't believe she hiked up my nursing cover, it was funny, but they are just curious at that age!
Well first you SAW a woman not seen. But second if she wasn't walking around shirtless or openly trying to flash people she wasn't being indecent in public, she was feeding her child. And no it was not "terrible" it was uncomfortable for YOU. in which case don't look or turn away.
I am happy to have him see babies being breastfed so that he will hopefully be a supportive partner some day if he has a female partner who chooses to breastfeed. If we normalize breastfeeding for little boys we will have a generation of men who see it as normal
Baby Boy born on 1/14/13
I'm lucky because my first is so young. She'll be 18 months old and honestly if I hadn't dried up when I got pregnant this time I would most likely still be nursing her now. I won't have to do any explaining (I don't think anyways haha).
I remember when my nieces first saw me breast feed they were very curious but I just told them my daughter was drinking milk from my boob and they accepted it. They were kindergarten and grade 3 aged.
I think the animal comparison is great because he probably has seen some sort of reference to an animal feeding it's baby.
So I told him this.
Mummy will be breastfeeding your sister for a while which means instead of getting milk out of a bottle she will get the milk out of mummies breasts.
His response was "oh ok mummy. So when she's abit older will you be giving her a bottle so I can help feed her"
I said to him yes probably but the milk will still come from mums breast.
He was fine with it & then went on To play.
I believe that if your child asks an honest question & they are old enough for an honest simple answer then by all means give it to them.
If you do want to involve them, there are other ways. Helping get you burp clothes and stuff for a diaper change. If you did want to express later then he could help with that. And weaning is actually a fun time to get older kids more involved- he will find it hilarious watching baby's reactions to new tastes and it will encourage baby too!
Funny thing about this topic, we were at Babies r' us and my 6 1/2 year old daughter ran up with the WTE book opened to the breastfeeding page and was just horrified and grossed out that there was a boob on a baby....I immediately realized I have to figure out how to explain this to her.
Also, and Im sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong, but my understanding was that public indecency was the exposure of genitals. Breast tissue and genitalia are not the same thing...
There's an issue in this country with over-sexualization, and you're contributing to the problem. Way to go with that.
I'm assuming you work in lingerie. Otherwise I find it "terrible" and "indecent" to stare at a woman FEEDING HER CHILD long enough to evaluate and be offended by her breast size.
I find it disgusting that a mother, or mother to be, would say such things about another mother using her body to feed her child. Please educate yourself.
On the other topic I some what have to agree with the entire boob hung out. But that just comes from me being more modest. Personally I am all for BF and don't think we should hide. But I don't think we need to be fully exposed either. Again that is just my own personal modesty opinion. I just don't need anyone starting at my boobs while I'm nursing. I would have found a bench and sat down and covered part of my breast. Doesn't have to cover baby, my first hated being covered to. But that's just my UO. I've nursed in many public places, when shopping I just feel more comfortable doing it in a dressing room or my car.
I was appalled one day when I watched a mother walking into Walmart full boob hanging out nipple and all showing while nursing her NB (or at least under 2-3wks old). But I think that had more to do with the fact that it was the middle of freakin winter, raining out, she had on a spaghetti strap tank and baby wasn't even covered properly for the weather. They both could of gotten sick! And it's Walmart! Full of germs. Personally I think this women should have nursed her baby in her nice warm car.
It's okay to personally feel you couldn't do it but to say another woman shouldn't or can't because YOU don't like it or YOU aren't comfortable with it is what's wrong and terrible. And I'm using a general you not specific you.
But she made me try the milk, because I was curious and wanted to, I still remember the taste today and I definitely stayed away from it afterward ahah.