Emotional after baby

Re: Emotional after baby

• yessirio member

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  You went through a lot honey, just know that is normal to feel emotional after having a baby, but if u feel like u can't handle it u should let ur doctor know. Do u have some friend or family member u can talk to?
  Just remember our hormones change after having a baby.
  Hope u feel better soon!

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• mdk2015 member

  September 2015

  That's a lot to take in and recover from. I can only imagine how you're feeling. You are not a failure! It will get better, be kind to yourself. *hug* You'll be back to yourself soon. In the meantime it's ok to cry, and cuss a little.

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• eajanvrin member

  September 2015

  With DD1 I was found many nights crying along with her because I felt like I should have known what she needed. It's a process that you are all still learning each other, you need to be easier on yourself. The best advice I got was to not focus on what needs to be done around the house but to focus on just getting to adjust to a new person in our life. It's not easy but you have to take care of yourself in this whole process too. If you need to hand baby off and go take a shower or something to just have some alone time and to reset. If you truly aren't feeling right I would also make sure you talk to your doctor.

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• missliz53 member

  September 2015

  From what I understand, it's completely normal to be weepy after baby comes thanks to those hormones. And you went through a lot! You are absolutely not a terrible mother and you didn't fail at breast feeding. Breast feeding is hard enough without having all the stuff you've been through tossed into the mix. You are doing what is best for your son and it's obvious you are crazy about him; that's a great combination for being an awesome mom.

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• Duckybears member

  September 2015

  My emotions were definitely heightened after having DS1. I remember crying because someone bought the wrong cereal.
  
  However, I absolutely agree that you should mention this to your doctor. They can direct you to new Mommy support groups, give helpful suggestions for your specific case, or perscribe something if it ends up being anxiety or pp depression.

  
  

  

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• shelbydd member

  September 2015

  Thanks ladies. I have to call tomorrow to set up my post partum appointment to have my incision checked. I should be going in Wednesday so I will make sure to talk to the doctor about it. I hope this is just the crazy post-baby hormones and that it will pass soon.

  

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• PregNancyClark member

  September 2015

  My birth class instructor said she thinks about 80% of mommies experience some baby blues and the other 20% are lying. I know she's kidding, but she works with a lot of mommies and she says it happens!
  From personal experience, I think unplanned c sections can sometimes cause a lot of emotional turmoil, and for me and my husband the aftermath bordered on PTSD.
  Talk to your doctor and remember that you are not to blame. You've done nothing wrong. You're going to be ok.

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• WDDCH member

  September 2015

  I hate the postpartum period because you're right - you can feel so "off" and not like yourself. Percocet is terrible IMO so hopefully getting off that helps a little. But being emotional is totally normal. I don't think it automatically means PPD just because you cry a lot after birth. A LOT happened in one day! Allow yourself to process and feel what you need to feel.

  

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• jessbruxanovaa member

  September 2015

  You're definitely not alone. 5 days postpartum here. Also unplanned c section. And I can't stop crying. I feel so much sadness especially at night time. Nothing feels the same, I don't feel like myself, my pregnancy now seems like a blur. It's a horrible feeling. Just know you're not the only one feeling down. Hope these baby blues go away soon.

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• heidi3189 member

  September 2015

  I agree with the other ladies. I haven't had my second baby yet but I felt like I went into an emotional shock after having my first. I was very emotional for 2 to 3 months after having him and at times felt guilty for bringing him into the world because I wasn't "strong" enough. It did pass though and having a good support system is essential. Just know that you are not a failure and what you went through to being your baby into this world proves how strong you are. That is an intense surgery. Also, I think that people get so stuck on all of the reasons why breastfeeding is the right thing to do but the reality of how difficult it is gets swept under the rug. One of the biggest lessons I've learned from being a mom is to expect the unexpected. There is no right or wrong or manual. Everyone is different and every baby is different. You are doing just fine mama. Don't be so hard on yourself.

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• chelseajeanene member

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  You are not alone, I too was induced and had to switch to a csection last minuet. I'm scarred by the experience of it and this recovery isn't helping. My emotions are out of control and it scares me so much because I've battled depression my entire life. Yesterday was our first day home from the hospital and once my DH and I were alone I had a complete mental breakdown and sobbed my eyes out for 45 mins. I was convinced something bad was going to happen to him and he would just die. I've had awful things pop into my head and would never act of them, but since I'm so afraid of postpartum depression I think I'm pushing those bad thoughts to happen and syke myself out. Don't be afraid to let your doctor know your worries. Even if you feel they're silly, just speaking it out loud helps. After I slept I woke up feeling so much better because I got my fears out in the open. Just know you're not alone and were in this together

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• hopeful87-2 member

  September 2015

  I work in mental health and what you are experiencing is totally normal. Delivery and being a new mom can be very traumatic for people. I work at a women's center and see many people struggling with feelings like this post partum. You are not alone in this and your feelings are very common-- this is a huge life transition, plus you have limited sleep and increased hormones (it's like a perfect storm!). If you don't get a response from your medical provider that you feel validated from I would look into a post partum support group in your area or seek out a counselor even if just to check in with one or two times.
  
  Remember--- self care! Whats one thing you can do today to take care of yourself? If you had a friend in a similar situation what would you say to your friend or do for your friend? (I'm guessing like most people, you would be much more kind to your friend than you are being to yourself). Watch your thoughts and try to notice when you are speaking negatively to yourself. Try to catch yourself when you are beating yourself up mentally and reframe your thoughts as you would if you were speaking to someone you love. Especially as new moms we all need to remember to take care of ourselves so that we have energy left in order to care for others. That is not selfish, it's necessary!

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• str13 member

  September 2015

  I agree that you're absolutely normal. But I think you definitely should tell your OB on Wednesday. Also it wouldn't hurt to talk to a counselor/therapist. They can help you sort all your feelings out and help you begin working through them. You went through a lot! Birth in itself is a tremendous deal, but then you had an emergency c-section!

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