Team green doubts! We hate each others ideas!

armywife8289 · September 2015

I didn't want to find out for this one, he agreed, but I think he just is giving me my way... I'm doubting because girl name easy!!! To agree on!!!! Now boy name!!! Our son, we liked each others ideas, had a hard time agreeing, but we at least liked each others names. Now we hate each others! I'm very worried because what of its a boy and we can't agree on a name and we are in the hospital baby nameless! As things are going now we will be headed home with a nameless baby...:( or a name the other hates. Need advise! I know my fear is extreme and not likely, but seriously the only two names we like, are the others extreme NO's!!!! Maybe we should find out for this reason! We have a busy life style!! He works full time goes to school full time, we started our own business... The time we have together is little!

Beckah31 · September 2015

Just take a list of five (or better yet 3) you can agree on and wait until you see your little guy. Search around- each of you make a list (no more than 10) and then use that time to weigh out each name. Stay flexible- my little girl didn't have a name until a few minutes after she was born, but that was a high stress situation and I didn't want her to leave the room and go to NICU as Baby Girl B.
Try to relax and stay flexible. You'll know which name works when you see him.

Mizuiro007 · September 2015

This doesn't sound like a reason to find out to me. Honestly, say you found out you are having a boy, do you really think it would make the choice any easier?

For hubby and I it helped to agree first on criteria. For us it's important the name isn't popular because we have a very common last name and have both had a ton of issues with popular first and last names. At the same time we wanted easy to spell and since we went with names popular in other countries, easy for Americans to sound out by looking at it. This narrowed things down considerably.

Then we made the rule that if you really loved or hated a rule you needed a reason. Hubby was notorious for the "I just don't like it, it just doesn't sound right" kind of stuff. This rule helped us so much.

We also do better looking at combinations. Sometimes ones I liked but he didn't were easier to let go of when I didn't end up liking them paired with anything.

Past all this, I agree with PP. We've always had the one name chosen before birth but each time when we found the right names they just clicked for both of us. If you're getting frustrated, take a little break and don't discuss or think about names for a week or two then come back fresh. It's the same as sometimes needing to step away from a project and come back to it with fresh eyes.

kymmimae · September 2015

Look at old family names all of my kids are named after grandparents great grandparents and even me and my husband. Sometimes if the names have meaning it is easier to agree and besides sometimes the farther back you go the more unique the names. Any way that helped us. Good luck :-)

MrsBwIVF · September 2015

So happy you finally got in to see a doctor! I'm assuming everything looked good and you have one healthy LO growing?

april172010U · September 2015

I'd find out the sex. We had the same situation with our son and spent too much time the first day or two trying to figure out a name when I would have rather relaxed and focused on our son or choose a name before the hospital you'd be happy with. Good luck.

armywife8289 · September 2015

Heres how I figure it helping, if we find out its a girl. Problem solved. Its a 50/50 chance. But if we wait and its a girl... We stressed for nothing! Sort of! But I think your right. I still want to be surprised! We don't argue, or get hurt cuz we say hate that name, but that has only been said once or twice. And that's ok. We mostly say the just don't like it...we took a 3 month break to think of names and we still disagree. I just also know our time we have together is small. Id much rather spend it enjoying eachother not friendly debating over names! I guess we have to continue and keep trying these ideas!:) thanks y'all!:)

Nataliegz12 · September 2015

If it makes you feel any better, we know what we are having and still don't agree on any names lol... and we are having twins!

armywife8289 · September 2015

Yea. With our son we had this issue!! But we at least some what liked eachothers ideas. I thought we were having twins! So did the dr n ultrasound lady upon my babies movement, and slightly my size, as I was talking to them before the actual ultrasound. She looked for 10 min, wondering why she couldn't see another baby. Lol. I'd be thrilled to have 2, both sides of my mom and dads side have twins!:) but right now I'm glad just to have a healthy baby!!!:) I feel twin names would be hard because they have to sound right together!!! Good luck to you!!!

maiatene · September 2015

I was team green for my first and we didn't agree on a name until after my son was born. Sometimes you just need to sit with the kid to see what name suits them. Once everything was quiet and we had our time together as a family it just came to us - dad picked his first name, I chose the middle and it fit him perfectly. With this one we didn't really discuss names for either but I'm confident whatever is chosen will be the right one for baby.

Also the hospital doesn't require a name as soon as baby pops out so don't fret - everything will say baby (your last name). The only reason they ask for one before you leave is because it makes filling out paperwork (birth certificate, ss card, etc) easier. Toby Maguire didn't name his son for 6 months and even then it was only bc he wanted to take the baby out of the country and needed a passport. Worst case you have a fun story to tell.

TomekiaB · September 2015

I really like the Baby Name Wizard, they have sibling name lists so you can see what names you will probably like based on your sons name it also helps you identify your name styles which points you to names that you are more likely to be interested in I was suprised at how helpful it was at defining my tastes. I also liked that they showed what name styles were most common in various regions.

BostonBaby1 · September 2015

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