Sorry for being whiney (altered post)

KristinaD217 · September 2015

I realized that my prior post was very whiney. Yes it sucks to have so much animosity thrown at me, but it's not a big deal.

Overall, I think That this ppd is making it such a bigger thing than it really is. Do I feel like I look good, no. But it doesn't matter.

candicejeff2013 · September 2015

I don't find anything wrong with people telling me I look good B-) lol

Starynightsky24 · September 2015

Why does it bother you?

. I'd just say thank you and be done.

toccoaparker · September 2015

Consider me jealous too! I'm feel like a lump

KristinaD217 · September 2015

Because they are so hateful about it.

KristinaD217 · September 2015

And I don't feel good about my body right now

jlsweets · September 2015

Meh I think you're making a big deal out of this. Just say thank you and move on and be happy people are saying that you don't even look like you were ever pregnant! Don't sweat the small stuff.
I've personally said to friends that look so good after pregnancy Ike, "wow didn't you just have a baby?!". I don't think people are being hateful when saying that.

cseley321 · September 2015

Agreed, it's most likely meant as a compliment. I've seen a few mothers who bounced back well and I told them they look great. I don't see how that can be hateful..

lethanne · September 2015

Take it as a compliment and move on. You are lucky!

tarheelgirl8 · September 2015

I agree with the others that you should try to take it as a compliment. But I can see how if it was the same person/people saying it over and over how it would get a little old. Especially if they are saying it in a mean way (even if it's only a pretend, joking mean).

bpwife&mama · September 2015

I wish someone would say that to me. They just say "don't worry, you just had a baby. It will go away.".

mkillian27 · September 2015

I wish someone would tell me I look really good for just having a baby.I don't care how they say it or how jealous they are. I think I look great, but it would be nice to hear it from someone else.

CaliforniaDream87 · September 2015

Wait, you're irritated because people are telling you that you look good? Oohhhhkay.

breezymeema7 · September 2015

Call me vain...I love people telling me how good I look for just having a baby.

Boslove · September 2015

What is your problem with your body? The average person won't know you are feeling self conscious and probably think they are complimenting you. Try not to turn it into a negative, even if their tone seems snarky. Worst things could be said.

kelseyrayay · September 2015

I wanna be told I look good.

even though I have a muffin top..

deleted22152218 · September 2015

I understand where you're coming from. I was always naturally thin and could basically eat whatever I wanted without gaining weight. I grew up getting a lot of the same kinds of comments, and I understand that while technically they are positive ones, these kinds of comments can feel very negative when coming from a place of resentment. It can almost make you feel guilty, in a way-sort of like you got a hand out that others did not receive and they certainly aren't happy about it. Its normal not to know how to take these compliments. That being said, I say you might as well brush it off and feel good that others think you look great. Now is a time to enjoy your baby and heal. Forget any extra stress. Edit to add: count your blessings!

JNOVA2015 · September 2015

Are you seriously complaining because you don't like the way people are saying you're pretty? Woah...talk about first world problems.

Lalala2326 · September 2015

I wish people would say that to me... I bounced back pretty good after my first baby, but this one I'm finding much harder... I would just say thank you and move one even if they did sound hateful about it...

heath3er · September 2015

i also love compliments and people saying how good I look for being a week after birth.
You should be happy about that!

archetypeblonde · September 2015

OP I see what you mean, there is a difference between a compliment and someone using your success as a way to make themselves feel inadequate. It puts you in an awkward place and it isn't easy to respond to those kind of "compliments". It may feel strange in the moment but try to just say thank you and move on from the topic.

shaunnar053 · September 2015

My MIL first thing she said to me a week after I had my son "Damn eat a cheese burger! You're loosing the weight too fast!" I was actually flattered... Lolol.

lap018 · September 2015

So you get on a birth board with mostly post partum women (and a few extremely over it over due pregnant women) to complain that people are saying you look too good to have just had a baby. Just to clarify, what exactly were you wanting us to say about it? Imma just waddle on (yes still effing the size of a planet) and say that you should just say thank you I feel very blessed next time....... :-w

KristinaD217 · September 2015

Guys, I'm flabby, I have steech marks everywhere, I stink (no matter how much I put on deoderant or shower) I have acne out of the wazoo and people aren't saying I'm pretty. They are saying I'm skinny. Which isn't true. I may seem that way, but I still weigh a duck ton. I still am somewhat swollen. Can I ducking help that because my boobs are huge I seem skinny. No. So other people need to duck off and stop being such asses about it. I can't help what my body does and I'm tired of people being dicks about it. That's what I was saying.

Damn, y'all are probably thinking that I must be a magical unicorn who can pop out a baby and look fablous. If that were the case, I wouldn't be bitching about it. :P

KristinaD217 · September 2015

And yes, I'm really touchy right now. I'm dealing with ppd. So yeah, looking back, it's not that big of a deal. Annoying yes, but not a big deal.

Boslove · September 2015

Hang in there!

emmacake08 · September 2015

@KristinaD217 I get why you're feeling stabby. I've noticed some people can't give a compliment unless it's couched in an insult type manner. I always assumed people that can't just give a compliment straight forward to be insecure but maybe that's me jumping to a conclusion. I'm sure you do actually look great! We all birthed a human (or 2 for some bump gals) so our bodies are pretty awesome, deflated tire and all

I remember after my CS thinking "hey atleast I know I just lost 8.5 pounds"