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Things you wish someone would have told you.....

Jame414Jame414 member
in November 2015 Moms
I always thought being a stm would be easier than ftm bc you'd know what to expect. ...that your body would just know what to do.

I didn't realize...no one mentioned....how painful a second pregnancy can be after having had a C-section....even years afterwards. Getting up and down out of a chair, turning over in bed, walking, putting on pants. You don't realize how much lower abdominals are required to lift your legs. Adhesions are the devil....ouch!

Is there anything you wish someone would have mentioned?
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  • taykerslaketaykerslake member
    The tail bone pain and the leaking boobs. Nobody told me I'd be in so much pain after working an 8 hour shift on my feet only 6 months in. And that all my bras would need extra protection from these squirt guns I've grown
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  • KatieSetlerKatieSetler member
    oorl11052015 said:

    How much discharge I would have... Honestly that's been the worst part besides hip pain that feel likes a train just ran over you...

    Yep. Discharge. Super gross.
    Baby number 1 on the way!
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  • nbpa3027nbpa3027 member
    The cramps after the baby is born for the second one from the uterus going back down were a million times more painful the second time around! And now I am told that they get worse with each baby and I am terrified! I didn't need any pain meds other than Advil for my recovery with my daughter, but I did need something stronger for those damn cramps/contractions!
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  • PetitNightingalePetitNightingale member
    The discharge, I agree is gross ^. 

    Also the weird phantom pain. I feel like someone is kicking me in the stomach from the outside, it's excruciating. 


    Do unto others. 
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  • WeirdAliceWeirdAlice member
    YES to the abdominal pain. My incision spot at times feels like it's being kicked through and tylenol hardly helps anymore.
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  • solitude1984solitude1984 member
    I wish someone had told me about the extremely painful leg cramps that you get. Oh, and as pp said, about the copious amounts of discharge also.
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  • HeatherFaye718HeatherFaye718 member
    Uh the fact that I feel like I've been kicked in the vagina repeatedly. Especially after a long day at work.

    Also that RLP can feel like someone rubbed icy hot on the inside of your abdomen.
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  • BowWowBowieBowWowBowie member
    Butt cramps. 
    And baby hiccups. I never felt those with my DD. 
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  • MoonUnitNuggetMoonUnitNugget member
    First tri bloat and how god awful you feel about your body until you really start to show.
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  • KatieSetlerKatieSetler member
    MoonUnitNugget said:

    First tri bloat and how god awful you feel about your body until you really start to show.

    Your not kidding. I knew I might bloat. I didn't know I'd be so bloated and consistently uncomfortable
    Baby number 1 on the way!
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  • japostolovajapostolova member
    No one told me about tight itchy skin when you re in your 3 rd trimester, Inflamed angry hemroids that never went away from pushing #1 out, the urinary incontinence after a vaginal delivery - absolutely awful. My muscles kept getting better but they will never be the same as pre pregnancy. I will always laugh and fear getting to the bathroom on time. Also felt like I had gotten run over by a Mac truck the morning after delivering... My body just ached and everything hurt :/
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  • PetitNightingalePetitNightingale member
    They promised me my vajajay would go back to normal....so much for that pipe dream. 
    Do unto others. 
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  • urby87urby87 member
    modanz1 said:
    PetitNightingale said:
    They promised me my vajajay would go back to normal....so much for that pipe dream. 
    Huh? Your "vajayjay" has strayed from normal?
    Yeah, um...  I've never heard that it wouldn't (aside from people who have no actual experience with post-baby vagina).
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  • PetitNightingalePetitNightingale member
    dogsombrero said:
    They promised me my vajajay would go back to normal....so much for that pipe dream. 
    So you have had a kid before? Otherwise how do you know what your vagina will be like after deliver. Round and round the story goes. As a STM for those FTMs reading this your vagina will not be mangled, stretched out or whatever horrifying things you are imagining. It will be different for a while or forever but it will be okay. Within 6 months everything was normal for me in terms of comfort etc.
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    The story, as you put it, hasn't gone anywhere. Your fanatical obsession with proving I'm up to something is causing you to seriously misinterpret what I said.

      I was referring to the post above mine about the incontinence after giving birth, which no one so far has warned me about. That's all. 
    Do unto others. 
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  • natalknitter15natalknitter15 member
    oorl11052015 said:
    Do for all of you Orange Is The New Black fans out there.... Does anybody remember the vagina episode where Sophia taught everybody about their vaginas... Yup this made me think of that...
    I thought that season as a whole was lackluster, but God, I loved that episode! :) 
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    urby87 said:


    PetitNightingale said:


    dogsombrero said:

    PetitNightingale said:

    They promised me my vajajay would go back to normal....so much for that pipe dream. 

    So you have had a kid before? Otherwise how do you know what your vagina will be like after deliver. Round and round the story goes.

    As a STM for those FTMs reading this your vagina will not be mangled, stretched out or whatever horrifying things you are imagining. It will be different for a while or forever but it will be okay. Within 6 months everything was normal for me in terms of comfort etc.

    .
    The story, as you put it, hasn't gone anywhere. Your fanatical obsession with proving I'm up to something is causing you to seriously misinterpret what I said.

      I was referring to the post above mine about the incontinence after giving birth, which no one so far has warned me about. That's all. 

    Are you aware that you don't pee out of your vagina?


    DED.
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  • JennsouleJennsoule member
    I may be the only one but I have issues pooping after I had my 1st. The episiotomy cut was deep and I had some muscle control issues since. So with every pregnancy I get constipated very easily. Also my periods were actually heavier, not longer just heavier after each baby.
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    Jennsoule said:

    I may be the only one but I have issues pooping after I had my 1st. The episiotomy cut was deep and I had some muscle control issues since. So with every pregnancy I get constipated very easily. Also my periods were actually heavier, not longer just heavier after each baby.

    You aren't the only one. I had temporary nerve damage to the perineum post delivery for about a month. I couldn't feel that I had to poo until it was almost too late. So glad it went away!
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  • modanz1modanz1 member
    dogsombrero said:
    I may be the only one but I have issues pooping after I had my 1st. The episiotomy cut was deep and I had some muscle control issues since. So with every pregnancy I get constipated very easily. Also my periods were actually heavier, not longer just heavier after each baby.
    You aren't the only one. I had temporary nerve damage to the perineum post delivery for about a month. I couldn't feel that I had to poo until it was almost too late. So glad it went away!
    Oh that's really scary!!
    YCSWU 



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  • BlondeMomma92BlondeMomma92 member
    Jennsoule said:
    I may be the only one but I have issues pooping after I had my 1st. The episiotomy cut was deep and I had some muscle control issues since. So with every pregnancy I get constipated very easily. Also my periods were actually heavier, not longer just heavier after each baby.
    pineapples. i'm not ready. I can deal with heavier periods--- but possible pooping issues...oh no :(
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    thegingeravenger said:

    modanz1 said:


    dogsombrero said:

    Jennsoule said:

    I may be the only one but I have issues pooping after I had my 1st. The episiotomy cut was deep and I had some muscle control issues since. So with every pregnancy I get constipated very easily. Also my periods were actually heavier, not longer just heavier after each baby.

    You aren't the only one. I had temporary nerve damage to the perineum post delivery for about a month. I couldn't feel that I had to poo until it was almost too late. So glad it went away!

    Oh that's really scary!!
    Just when I start to accept the suck that could be post-delivery, I learn about another potential layer of it.

    Keep in mind I had a HUGE kid and a pretty traumatic birth. You'll be okay and honestly between all the other fluids leaking from you it's not really adding anything unexpected. You will probably be a leaky, hormonal, sleep deprived hot mess for a month or so before you hit your stride. As long as you can laugh maniacally at getting poop on yourself or others you'll be fine.
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  • NDimanovNDimanov member
    nbpa3027 said:
    The cramps after the baby is born for the second one from the uterus going back down were a million times more painful the second time around! And now I am told that they get worse with each baby and I am terrified! I didn't need any pain meds other than Advil for my recovery with my daughter, but I did need something stronger for those damn cramps/contractions!


    Oh no.....I didn't realize this. The uterine cramps with my first one were excrutiating :(
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  • PetitNightingalePetitNightingale member
    I had never heard of those until I joined this board, of all the things my OB mentioned that wasn't one of them. Now I'm horrified because I wanted a drug free labor/delivery experience and it's starting to sound less and less plausible. 
    Do unto others. 
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  • WeirdAliceWeirdAlice member
    Also remembering my first c-section, no one told me how much I would feel like vomiting or that I would be so tired during the process. I freaked myself out and forced myself to stay awake until taken to the recovery room.
    Not looking forward to it this time around.
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  • MadBloomMadBloom member
    One thing I wasn't expecting was the uterine cramps while breastfeeding. They don't last forever but man did they suck!

    No one mentioned the baby Blues. I'm not usually someone who cries but holy crap did I cry my face off for a good 2-3 weeks. I cried because I loved my baby, I cried because I was hungry, I cried because I was tired, I cried because I couldn't reach my water bottle. EVERYTHING set me off. Then my hormones balanced out and I went back to normal(ish) haha.
    But yea, you get hit pretty hard with a ton of emotions in the weeks after giving birth!
    YCSWU
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