Anxiety about visitors who I don't know very well.

meowcat84 · September 2015

Even though I am only 25 weeks pregnant I'm nervous about who will be visiting. I just want close friends and family and can't imagine how uncomfortable I will be having to breastfeed in front of people. My FIL just befriended this old lady at his +55 community center. She is a very nice much older lady, met her only twice but seems to go everywhere my FIL goes including my nieces birthday party and patted my belly, which I didn't like. She seems lonely and wants to be included but at the same time I'm nervous about her arriving at my hospital room after I deliver. I have a feeling she will be there, maybe because I hear a lot of horror stories or having just coming back from visiting my close Friend who gave birth, she told me her mom invited her friends and boyfriend after being asked not to bring lots of people. She faked falling asleep. I'm fraid of this happening and rudely tell this elderly woman I don't know her very well for her to be here. I don't understand why some people must feel involved in an intimate moment when they hardly know you. I've also been very irritated during this pregnancy. has this happened to anybody on this site?

redfallon · September 2015

Are you talking about only at the hospital or at home, too? At the hospital you can have a list of people who are allowed to visit and only those people can be allowed to your room. Also, if you don't want to BF in front of people, you don't have to. At the hospital, the nurses can tell everyone to get out when you need and want some privacy. Your DH/SO can also do this for you. You can keep the visits very short, as well.

Or forego any hospital visitors if you want. You don't have to tell anyone that you were in labor or that you had a baby until you get home.

ChiccoBeanz · September 2015

Maybe speak to your DH about this and sitting down with your FIL and discussing this. Let him know it isn't personal, but that you'd like to keep the hospital moments private between family and close friends. If she and your FIL hang out all the time, she will have an opportunity to meet the LO, so it shouldn't be a big deal. I hope this works out for you guys.