"Throw a fit" Friday ;-P

Re: "Throw a fit" Friday ;-P

• MegStark member

  September 2015

  I agree. I like having my body to myself. AND as we approach 3rd tri, I'm reminded of some of the things coming up that I'm really not looking forward to. Example - it's difficult to wipe after going to the bathroom. Oh well, small price to pay. 

  
  

  
         
  

          
  
  

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• courtney198078 member

  September 2015

  MegStark said:

  I agree. I like having my body to myself. AND as we approach 3rd tri, I'm reminded of some of the things coming up that I'm really not looking forward to. Example - it's difficult to wipe after going to the bathroom. Oh well, small price to pay. 

  I'm glad I'm not the only one with this issue. :-?

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• momotheflyinglemur member

  September 2015

  @MegStark You are right it's a small price to pay for a beautiful little baby, but lordy me, I am tired of wearing that happy face. I work the front desk at my job so it is part of my duties to appear amicable and friendly. I also don't like being pitied, no one in my family knows how to show empathy, only sympathy.

  

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• rmarie13 member

  September 2015

  I would like to throw a fit about our roomba. DH got it to "help me" keep up with the cat hair because it's just out of control no matter how many times I vacuum and sweep. After a hard days work and just wanting a nap I get home to a stinky apartment. First thing I notice, the cats bowl is turned over and empty. Then I seen tiny pieces of dried cat crap on the floor. The roomba ate my cats expensive food and then smashed and dragged cat crap all over my apartment. I'm assuming a fine layer of cat crap is covering my floors. The litter box cleanup is no longer my job, for obvious reasons, so DH really dropped the bomb on that one. I'm pissed that a machine that is supposed to be "helping" me is making me have to mop and disinfect my whole shitty apartment.

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• RSB1982 member

  September 2015

  
  

  momotheflyinglemur said:

  I want my body back to myself. Yes, feeling baby move is kind of magical most of the time, but I don't like having to share my innards with another person. Everything is pretty daunting to me as a FTM but because I don't want anyone fawning and doting over me I don't say anything. I have no doubt that I can do this but I am fussy right now. Also, It would be so nice if everyone would stop telling me to "just enjoy it" or that it's "one of the blessings of being with child". Just shut up. Its been two or three decades since most of you(family and family friends) have hauled a tiny human around in your gut. I like babies and I can't wait to meet LO, but everything sucks. Hmpf.

  
  

  
  

  You could be my pregnancy twin.  I feel the same way:  excited to become a mom but not liking this extra attention.  I want my body back, I want my clothes back, I want to feel normal again!  I don't say much to others about pregnancy because I'm afraid of either annoying the childless people or listening to hours of unsolicited advice from the 'experienced parents'.  Only four more months...

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• ACarter0914 member

  September 2015

  Couldn't agree more about having my body back to myself! My body fricken hurts constantly and I can't get comfortable. I'm completely miserable. I try to hide it as best I can but I feel awful. I love feeling him kick. LOVE it. But I really wish he would quit it in the middle of the night when I wake up to pee and can't fall back asleep because he's kicking me everywhere.
  
  Okay I'm done with my pity party.

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• momotheflyinglemur member

  September 2015

  Get it out, @rmarie13! That is disgusting and absolutely justified. Ewww.

  
  

  @RSB1982, I am 7 days from being under 100. So I will be counting days here pretty soon ;-D

  

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• ssn109 member

  September 2015

  I want to throw a fit over adults who are too irresponsible to act like an adult. My DH bought a duplex last March, we renovated it and were going to rent out the other unit. We live in a very small one bedroom, the other unit is much larger and has 2 bedrooms. But the rent we can charge for the upstairs unit more than pays the mortgage. Sounded like a great plan in theory. After our first tenant moved out after 2 months (ironically, bc she found out she was pregnant and decided to get back together with her estranged husband to try and make it work), we found another possible tenant after 2 months of searching. This woman was supposed to move in on 8/25. That didn't work out, since she didn't have the money for the security deposit and the week's worth of rent. We kindly agreed that she could just pay us the 1st month rent on 9/1 and get the key to move in that date. On the 1st, she couldn't find time to come pay her rent. On the 2nd, DH offered to pick it up from her at her job as a waitress/bartender so she could move in on her day off on the 3rd. While he was on his way to her job, she sends a text that she needs til Friday so she doesn't give him all her money in paying the rent. Well, as of today she has decided she can't actually afford to pay the rent at all and has asked out of the lease.
  
  Meanwhile, I've been saving as much as I can so we can get a house early next spring. We can't afford 2 mortgages so if someone doesn't move in asap, it'll be too cold to do it in the winter and we won't be getting a house in the spring. I am grateful to have a roof over my head, but there really isn't enough room here for anything baby except a pack n play. There's definitely no room for him once he starts crawling. So this woman has not only screwed with my DH's new business venture, now she's messing with our being able to provide for our family. I'm so beyond pissed, since we had others interested and could've had another tenant by now if she hadn't been stringing us along for the last 2+ weeks. If someone isn't in by 10/1, we can kiss goodbye any hope of a tenant before at least March. All because this girl can't keep her shit together enough to pay her bills.

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• Court11152325 member

  September 2015

  I would like to throw a fit about my DH's family. DH is a spiritual guy, not overtly religious or anything, definitely not a Christian but he's spiritual. That being said, he is also a former philosophy major and a counselor, so he has does a lot of thinking. He decided to post 2 things on facebook about atheism - content doesn't matter - what does matter was that he said NOTHING about his own family. His own family is religious (not that they ever go to church, but they believe in God and always ask for prayers on facebook). They started commenting on stuff and he very diplomatically responded with things like, "I think prayer works great for you, you shouldn't stop."
  
  His 24 year old niece then decided to comment on his wall that he needed to stop with the atheism posts because he's disrespecting his dead grandmother. He was pretty pissed about that, but just said, "Why do you think those posts would upset her?" My brother then said something along the lines of, "We live in a country where people are allowed to voice their opinions, even if they are opposite of your own, and we need more critical thinking and questioning in this country."
  
  Next thing, his mom texts him saying that her friends are going to see his posts and think she failed as a mother and his niece texted feeling attacked. Found out the next day that she deleted us from facebook and his mom and sister blocked us. WTF. We didn't even do anything or say anything to them! DH is visibly upset and frustrated with them, his sister for getting his mom involved, his mom for putting him through guilt trips for no reason, and his favorite niece for being really immature.
  
  Part of me wants to call his mom, but she's so incapable of carrying on a conversation like this without derailing it about her. Ugh!
  

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• MegStark member

  September 2015

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• Ninapinks member

  September 2015

  Court11152325 said:

  I would like to throw a fit about my DH's family. DH is a spiritual guy, not overtly religious or anything, definitely not a Christian but he's spiritual. That being said, he is also a former philosophy major and a counselor, so he has does a lot of thinking. He decided to post 2 things on facebook about atheism - content doesn't matter - what does matter was that he said NOTHING about his own family. His own family is religious (not that they ever go to church, but they believe in God and always ask for prayers on facebook). They started commenting on stuff and he very diplomatically responded with things like, "I think prayer works great for you, you shouldn't stop."
  
  His 24 year old niece then decided to comment on his wall that he needed to stop with the atheism posts because he's disrespecting his dead grandmother. He was pretty pissed about that, but just said, "Why do you think those posts would upset her?" My brother then said something along the lines of, "We live in a country where people are allowed to voice their opinions, even if they are opposite of your own, and we need more critical thinking and questioning in this country."
  
  Next thing, his mom texts him saying that her friends are going to see his posts and think she failed as a mother and his niece texted feeling attacked. Found out the next day that she deleted us from facebook and his mom and sister blocked us. WTF. We didn't even do anything or say anything to them! DH is visibly upset and frustrated with them, his sister for getting his mom involved, his mom for putting him through guilt trips for no reason, and his favorite niece for being really immature.
  
  Part of me wants to call his mom, but she's so incapable of carrying on a conversation like this without derailing it about her. Ugh!
  

  
  This sucks ! I would say though, I'm jealous that you have a husband WHO THINKS. Ugh

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• kristen2b member

  September 2015

  Court11152325 said:

  I would like to throw a fit about my DH's family. DH is a spiritual guy, not overtly religious or anything, definitely not a Christian but he's spiritual. That being said, he is also a former philosophy major and a counselor, so he has does a lot of thinking. He decided to post 2 things on facebook about atheism - content doesn't matter - what does matter was that he said NOTHING about his own family. His own family is religious (not that they ever go to church, but they believe in God and always ask for prayers on facebook). They started commenting on stuff and he very diplomatically responded with things like, "I think prayer works great for you, you shouldn't stop."
  
  His 24 year old niece then decided to comment on his wall that he needed to stop with the atheism posts because he's disrespecting his dead grandmother. He was pretty pissed about that, but just said, "Why do you think those posts would upset her?" My brother then said something along the lines of, "We live in a country where people are allowed to voice their opinions, even if they are opposite of your own, and we need more critical thinking and questioning in this country."
  
  Next thing, his mom texts him saying that her friends are going to see his posts and think she failed as a mother and his niece texted feeling attacked. Found out the next day that she deleted us from facebook and his mom and sister blocked us. WTF. We didn't even do anything or say anything to them! DH is visibly upset and frustrated with them, his sister for getting his mom involved, his mom for putting him through guilt trips for no reason, and his favorite niece for being really immature.
  
  Part of me wants to call his mom, but she's so incapable of carrying on a conversation like this without derailing it about her. Ugh!
  

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  Seriously. Omg. Fb isn't real life ppl!! I'm sorry you're going through this immature bs!!
  
  

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• caitlyn5454 member

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  MegStark said:

  @Court11152325

  
  

  This. I swear, if I didn't have family members of my own that would flip shit if I deleted mine, I would be off of it so fast, heads would spin. Someone keeps hacking SO's account and screwing around with things; the last time, they changed his relationship status to say single instead of in a relationship. One of his exes immediately started hitting on him and asking him what caused his breakup with "that bitch." When he told her that we weren't broken up, she got pissy at him for "leading her on." /:) ...ooookay then.

  

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• ChiccoBeanz member

  September 2015

  @caitlyn5454 wow... the thirst was real with that one. She must really clock his fb then.
  
  @Court11152325 I hate fb. You just reminded me why. I also never understand why ppl get bent out of shape because you thought about something. Thinking is a lost art...it's almost taboo. I think it's awesome your DH is so thoughtful and used their comments as teachable moments and ways to further a discussion. It just ducks that his family isn't in the mind frame for that.

  

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• Court11152325 member

  September 2015

  I'm lucky that I have no drama with family on fb. I've gone through fb holidays, but I keep it because it is more of a networking tool for me for my job than anything. I'm trying to use twitter for that instead, but not enough people know about my twitter yet.
  
  I also have a hard time staying out of debates on facebook, which is just stressful as all get out. For example, was just in a facebook debate with a woman I grew up with who thinks that if you need any intervention to get pregnant, then you should just adopt because you are "playing God."
  

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• Gingermom15 member

  September 2015

  I want to throw a fit every day at work. You would not believe how often family members take their loved one to the ER, get them admitted for something, then leave them there for weeks of they come back at all. The vast majority of these patients have Medicaid or some form of insurance that would pay for a long-term care facility. I guess that's too much work, filling out those papers and all. A lot of these people have some form of Alzheimer's or dementia and a sudden change in living arrangements and faces is horrible for them to handle. They are also aware to an extent that they have been abandoned and will ask for whoever was their caregiver at home. This one patient in particular was with us for 5 months because the son (his power of attorney) refused to let his father live with him after a fall. The physicians wouldn't send him home alone with home health, thank goodness, even though he qualified by hospital standards and the son was willing to sign him up for it. He wasn't in his right state of mind, couldn't perform basic self care or walk without a gait belt. So, this sweet docile man just hung out with us and everyone loved him. He sat at the nurses station and asked every 15 minutes to go home, to borrow our keys, to let him live with us, etc. The state finally won POA of him and we sent him to a nursing home. His son never visited or called to check on him, the only people who came by we're us hospital staff. He passed a couple weeks ago and the son was nowhere to be found. Once again, our staff were the only people with him when he passed, or else he would have died alone. This just pisses me off to no end because it is not an isolated incident and it is not their only option.

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• Gingermom15 member

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  It sounds like I'm lucky to not have FB drama. But then again I only use it to keep up with family and they're a mild bunch. Times like elections some political stuff will clog my feed and make me want to burn down Mark Zuckerburgs house, but I don't know what I would do without it, as my family is spread around the globe. With some in Russia, some in England, plus having them scattered across the states it's awesome that we can keep up when otherwise it would be incredibly hard.
  I have to admit, I did unfriend and block e my own grandmother. She was trying to stir the pot and is generally a crazy person. I have no regrets.
  
  *typos

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• ChiccoBeanz member

  September 2015

  @sarahgn That man's son's behavior was terrible. I can't really think of anything to justify such behavior towards my parents, but I do respect and understand that Idk their history. Thankfully, you and your staff took great care of him and got him what he needed.

  
  

  @court11152325 just send her to the TTGP board and the Loss board. They'd fix her real quick. I just don't get how people can be so mean. I get she has her beliefs, but to tell someone that they should just adopt because it isn't God's plan for them to have children biologically is just something better left unsaid. That's an extremely hurtful opinion and also, no one should really dictate how anyone else goes about procreating unless it is harmful to those people or others. People get really bold with fb posts.

  

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• Gingermom15 member

  September 2015

  ChiccoBeanz said:

  @sarahgn That man's son's behavior was terrible. I can't really think of anything to justify such behavior towards my parents, but I do respect and understand that Idk their history. Thankfully, you and your staff took great care of him and got him what he needed.

  
  

  @court11152325 just send her to the TTGP board and the Loss board. They'd fix her real quick. I just don't get how people can be so mean. I get she has her beliefs, but to tell someone that they should just adopt because it isn't God's plan for them to have children biologically is just something better left unsaid. That's an extremely hurtful opinion and also, no one should really dictate how anyone else goes about procreating unless it is harmful to those people or others. People get really bold with fb posts.

  We know their history when these things happen. That's the worst part. This patient was a veteran, which really hit home for me as so many of my family members are and my SO is on his way to becoming one. To treat one with such disrespect really gets to me. We know quite a bit of history, but HIPAA prevents sharing anymore info.

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• Court11152325 member

  September 2015

  @sarahgn working in health care has to be really difficult and frustrating at times. Several of my friends are nurses and doctors. And some of the stories they have make me wish I didn't complain so much about students writing terrible essays.

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• TomekiaB member

  September 2015

  @sarahgn I'm with @chiccobeanz on this one, but I definitely have empathy for your frustration. My grandfather was a veteran and was very abusive to his oldest 4 children and a great parent to his youngest (9 years younger than youngest of the older children). He was also a much different person as an elderly man than he was a young and middle aged man. I work in healthcare too and medical history and a patients side of the story is not a complete picture of the family dynamics and the family members can also have their own medical or mental health issues that can obviously change that dynamic whether good or bad. My dad's ex-wife was abusive but she looked like a great person from the outside which actually deepened the abuse because--no one believed that she was capable of what happened behind closed doors which made getting help harder (which is actually fairly common in abusive situations). I've learned in my time in healthcare and my own family dynamics that you do the best you can with the current relationship but you cannot change how others react to the past. I find it helps me to disengage from my frustration to remember that it is not fair for me to judge another relationship by my own experience with one part/person of the relationship.

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