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Using dad's name...help!

rhalxomb31rhalxomb31 member
in October 2015 Moms
I'll try to make this super long story short. I am pregnant with our third son. (Kellen Schylor 5 and Camden Raye 2) My husband had a very high grade horrible cancer less than 2 years ago and went through months and months of inpatient chemo. One drug alone was to render him sterile. He had 7 different types of chemo that all "claimed" they would cause the same thing. He is now cancer free! Praise the Lord! Sold all my baby stuff in January after finally coming terms that God had us as a family of 4...and in February found out we were expecting! This third little boy is a miracle in so many ways. Our oldest has my husband's middle name and our youngest has my middle name. We want to give this new little one a name with special meaning and have been throwing around the idea of my husband's name: Beau. He really wants to name this little guy after himself, and I LOVE my husband's name, but I'm having a hard time. I feel like it would be so confusing. Anyone who has a husband and child with the same name or grew up with a brother and father like this have any advice? How did you or do you get around confusion in your household. I don't want this baby to be called "little Beau" all his life. It's not like it's James and we could call him Jamie. I love the name Beau William and call him Will for short. As in "God's will", because that's the only reason he is here! 5-6 weeks to go and we still have not settled on a name! Help!
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  • mmcknightmmcknight member
    I think you could go with the middle name. I nannied for a family and their son was named Rodger Tristen but goes by Tristen.
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    edited September 2015
    I think Beau is an awesome name and you can always name him that and call him by his middle name instead.  I think calling him Will would be great. Or use his name as B.J. and pick a J middle name. :)  Congratulations, sounds like you've been through a lot!! 
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  • LLynde5LLynde5 member
    Beau William is a great name!! Go with it!! There are lots of nicknames that work with that combo! Is you husbands middle name William?
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  • rhalxomb31rhalxomb31 member
    No @LLynde5 its Schylor and our first born has the same for his middle. :)
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    My dad and brother's names are both Robert but one goes by Bob and the other by Robert or Rob...so that's not super helpful. But that being said, what if you called him William Beau? That would help with confusion and would follow the pattern of your other boys having mom/dads name as a middle name.
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  • RaijapattersonRaijapatterson member
    I have 3 generations of Roberts in my family. My Father, brother, nephew. Never caused any issues. You name your son whatever makes you happy.
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  • LLynde5LLynde5 member
    rhalxomb31 said:

    No @LLynde5 its Schylor and our first born has the same for his middle. :)

    Oops! I remember reading that now :\"> I think JR or junior could work! We have a friend who is technical a junior and his initials are JB but we call him JR because it fits! And I know a few families that the last boy was named after dad! I think it's a great strong name and after everything your husband and you have gone through, if this name suits your little one go with it!!
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  • rhalxomb31rhalxomb31 member
    I'm just so worried I'll be calling Beau and neither will know who I'm speaking to! I know this sounds dumb and I won't have to worry about it for years. We also don't want a Junior (he technically won't be a junior anyways) Any other ideas what we could call him? It's no like Beau can be shortened
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  • dparker721dparker721 member
    I can't think of anything Beau could be shortened to but I do like your idea of calling him Will and I like the name Beau William.

    Where I live we have TONS of people who have father and son with the same name and it never fails that the child is either referred to as "little" or is called junior. I personally don't like either option, but to each their own. I have a friend whose husband goes by Jon and calls her son Jonathan. Even though they stick with that, people in general still call him little Jon.
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  • LLynde5LLynde5 member
    We call my god son "B"! That's shorter. Lol. I understand the concern because my brothers name is Brad and their were times when my Dad would respond thinking I said Dad but I think context and tone go a long way with same/similar names!! I keep thinking you will be luck to have this problem because I swear my husband is tone deaf to my voice 90% of the time!! Lol
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  • silly514silly514 member
    I agree, call by middle name. My brother and dad have the same full name but dad always went by the middle. Funny enough, my husband has the same name so sometimes when talking to others outside of family I'll specify with the last initial but when we are all in the house together it's never been an issue. Everyone kind of naturally talks to them differently and we can tell who we are talking to or about. I love family names and the meaning in your family's story so I definitely say go for it!

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  • trishee13trishee13 member
    My mom and I don't have the same name but her nickname is my name..'so everyone calls her Trisha and my full name is Trisha. It's no problem for family and around the house. But now that I am older and we have a lot of accounts at same places.. NO one can figure it out. I get half of her Mail and she gets mine.. It's such a pain in the ass. We don't even have the same name! They just see "Trisha" and assume it's Patricia..
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  • emeraudecephiroemeraudecephiro member
    My dad and brother have the same name, we call my brother by his middle name.
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  • LouislLouisl member
    Beau can't be shortened but my friend's boyfriend's name is Beau and lots of people call him Bobo. Could be cute on a kid for a while and would solve the problem of calling both of them.
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  • akfbookwormakfbookworm member
    My brother had the same first name as our grandfather, so whenever we visited he was David Alexander instead of just David. My mom is referred to as little Karen sometimes since she has an aunt Karen. My husband's family is full of Williams, with different middle names, usually they go by different variations and I still haven't figured out what we're going to call our son William. Obviously I'm partial to Will, but I have a friend naming her son William with plans to call him Liam.
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  • JAZsaxJAZsax member
    You could go with the middle name as James and call him BJ when he gets older. My dad and his best friend are both named Bryan, but his middle name is James so when their around each other his friend is called BJ.
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  • rhalxomb31rhalxomb31 member
    LLynde5 said:

    We call my god son "B"! That's shorter. Lol. I understand the concern because my brothers name is Brad and their were times when my Dad would respond thinking I said Dad but I think context and tone go a long way with same/similar names!! I keep thinking you will be luck to have this problem because I swear my husband is tone deaf to my voice 90% of the time!! Lol

    Your so right on that one!!! Husband's and their listening skills! Lol
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  • BabyChappell15BabyChappell15 member
    It sounds like you already have it figured out with calling him Will? Is it okay with your husband, since he is the one who wants to pass on his name, maybe that could be what you are really considering? This is what my dad's family did with my uncles. My grandpa's name was Dennis Vance and he wanted a second. but my grandma named their son Dennis Patrick and called him Pat. Best of both- they each get their own name while still getting to pass your husband's on.
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  • kstitt0830kstitt0830 member
    My sister named her son Calvin after her husband and has admitted now that she doesn't feel like that's his name at all...we started calling him vin (calVIN) and that turned into vinny and it fits him so much better
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  • kfry22kfry22 member
    My dad and brother are both Andrews but my dad goes by Andy. The worst thing is when someone official sounding calls and we don't know which Andrew they were calling for. You just ask older or younger Andrew or ask for which middle name they want. Same thing would happen with mail. Sometimes it was just addressed to Andrew Lastname and was figured out after it was opened. It wasn't really too terrible of a deal.

    Ask for nicknames maybe one will present itself on its own that makes sense. My last name is Fry and I have been referring to our boy as Tater Tot. Kinda cheesy and dumb I know but it just made sense for some reason. Maybe a nickname to go along with your family or using the middle name would work. Congratulations on this baby sounds like he was definitely what your family needed!!
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  • AshleeM7784AshleeM7784 member
    It's a tradition in our family for the eldest son to be named after the father so my family is full of fathers and sons with the same name. They've come up with a lot of different solutions. My brother goes by AJ (his initials), one cousin goes by his middle name, another cousin goes by his first and middle name, and another cousin goes by Jac since his initials are JAC. Several of them have also picked up nicknames that have nothing to do with their names at all. Sometimes family reunions can be a little confusing, but for the most part the repeat names really aren't a problem.
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  • MandahGirlyMandahGirly member
    My husband's name is Joe, his dad is Joe and his grandfather is Joe. It was confusing sometimes but everyone called my husband Joey anyway and his grandfathers nickname was AJ. It all worked out fine
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  • briraehbriraeh member
    My brother and his dad have the same name, John, we call my brother johnny or john Jr.
    But I guess that would work with beau, beauy would be weird haha. Will would be good though
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    lol i didn't think of that! hah! sorry 
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  • lginnanlginnan member
    Beau William is adorable, and I think Will would be great :)
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  • mllelibbingtonmllelibbington member
    There are other names for Jrs, such as Deuce and Chip (as in chip off the old block). Some people just put "J" for Junior after the first name's initial, but BJ is not a good idea these days.

    Sounds like the middle name is a popular option. I have an uncle and cousin who are both James, unfortunately they went with Big Jim and Little Jim :/ I also had a teacher whose first name was Harley (ew) but since he was Harley III he went by Trey, which is a pretty cool option for when Beau Jr has another wee Beau :)
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  • mandala1107mandala1107 member
    My husband and his father have the same first name and my husband goes by his middle name. I think Beau William or vice versa both sound great!
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  • rhalxomb31rhalxomb31 member
    Thanks ladies for all you advice!!!
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  • jenspeakejenspeake member
    My dad and grandpa we're both John's. Gpa went by John and dad went by middle name Phil! Hardly anybody even knows my dad's real name is John!

    Funny little side story...My dad was in the hospital once and the nurses kept calling him.John. look over at my brother in.law and he's looking pissy. We were like what's wrong? He says is it not bothering you guys at all that they're calling your dad by the wrong name! Lol.
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  • dchiapelladchiapella member
    I think you need to go with what make sense to you and your family and you will figure it all out over time. And to him, his dad's name will always be just that, "Dad." Congrats for all that you have gone through. And just to let you know, as I read your post, all I was thinking was Isaac :) 
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  • sarahewilliams118sarahewilliams118 member
    I think whatever you decide to do will be perfect your your family! Beau William is such a cute name! God is so faithful to us! What a wonderful testimony of His love!
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