MIL Husband situation

pinkj4182 · September 2015

ok ladies here's the story, tell me if you think I'm being unreasonable. sorry it's long!

This morning I wake up and see a notice from Facebook that my MIL's husband ( not husbands dad ) shared my post. I thought "weird, I'm not friends with him" and clicked the notice. He shared a picture of me I posted the other day. ( husband is having lasik in a week and can't wear contacts so in solidarity i wore glasses out with him so he wasn't alone. So I posted a picture of me with these nerdy glasses ) the caption on his post was "ooooooo baby...you is HOT!!!"

My stomach dropped and I wanted to vomit for the first time this whole pregnancy... My sister in law text me that she talked to her mom about it cause she thought it was gross, as did I. MIL calls me and is surprised I was grossed out, said he's joking and being funny and that's just his sense of humor.

I found the post disturbing on so many levels. This man is 55+, married to my husbands mom, I do not have a relationship with him, she left husbands dad for him ( they were high school buddies) he told his daughter, who had a miscarriage that he doesn't like grandkids anyways.... I DO NOT want this guy at my house when baby is born, when we visit them we WILL NOT be staying at their house like we did. Am I being unreasonable here? MIL is not bothered by this AT ALL and makes me think I'm being over the top.

Share your views!
Thanks!

JaqiDec04 · September 2015

I'm unclear how he shared your picture if you are not Facebook friends.

The easiest thing to do, would be to delete your picture, therefore deleting his.

While I would find it uncomfortable of my FIL posted that, I think you are over reacting.

sjembry93 · September 2015

I know I personally would be really creeped out. Joke or not it's inappropriate. I definitely don't think you're overreacting. Maybe talk with your husband see if he could address your MIL and her husband about it. Good luck!

babybumb1229 · September 2015

I would feel grossed out too and I would feel very uncomfortable with it I would delete the picture so it would delete it from his things and put my stuff on private and if it is on private then unfriend him so he won't be able to get into my pictures. That's just me though good luck!

pinkj4182 · September 2015

My husband was tagged in the post, so I think that's how he was able to share. My Facebook is private and I'm not friends with him on Facebook, never was. Since posting this my MIL told him to remove it because I'm pregnant and hormonal. So it's no longer up. It baffles me how as his wife, she is ok with it.

stars4th · September 2015

I don't think you're overreacting.
But I blocked my 21 year old stepson from my Facebook. He lived with us at the time, spoke to no one unless he needed money, and when I tried to talk to him about his younger sisters he'd blankly reply "yeah, I saw that already on FB". I thought it was weird to live with someone who refused to speak to me but kept up with my Facebook. (He was on Facebook but never posted anything at all, never liked or commented on anything at all) I think that's weird.

stmorgan · September 2015

I would feel the same way if someone I wasn't friends with shared my picture, let alone the creepy comment he attached to it! I could understand your MIL's defense, that it was just a joke, if you were close and also friends on Facebook but thats nit the case. You're not overreacting at all, this is weird, and I'd keep my distance from him too.

sarahewilliams118 · September 2015

I don't think you are over reacting. You can never be too cautious.... Does your husband have a relationship with his stepfather? I especially wouldn't stay there if they aren't even close because that's so creepy. I also wouldn't be alone around him and keep track of that sweet baby when he is around....

It's sad to say, but you really don't know what some people will do.

pinkj4182 · September 2015

@sarahewilliams118 The husband of my MIL is fairly new, been married 3 years now. No one in the family likes him to begin with, just deal with him because he's with MIL. So no one has a relationship with this guy but her. I'm having a girl and never planned on him holding or having a grandpa relationship with him prior to this, even more now! My husbands dad is the Grandfather of our baby, not this creep! Another thing MIL can't understand. I agree you can't trust anyone!

brandypinky22 · September 2015

This made me laugh and throw up a little in my mouth all at the same time! Sounds like you handled it well and now at least you know up front that he can be a total creeper. Also, totally BS your MIL blamed hormones. I would be creeped out by that at any time.

pinkj4182 · September 2015

@brandypinky22 thanks! I was like "hold on, you blamed my hormones! Let me take out my hoop earrings" lol kidding. But how about blaming your creeper husbands hormones?! Any season of life I'm going to be grossed out!

wildbutterfli2001 · September 2015

That whole thing seems weird and creepish to me

sweet+cheeks · September 2015

I say go with your gut on this one. It would totally creep me out as well. The only time I've ever had true gut-dropping sensations the creep involved ended up being truly awful (later found to be a sexual predator who molested disabled children). Protect that LO. I would go as far as suggest that your DH unfriend him so that you don't have to worry about him seeing posts where your husband is tagged.

OliveOyl2014 · September 2015

I agree with everyone else...very creepy. It would be different if you knew him better and had a relationship enough to know that he is joking. You typically don't joke around like that with someone you don't have a relationship with.

tuinstrab · September 2015

Even if he had no ill intent behind the comment it is totally gross and inappropriate. Frankly I would be annoyed at my MIL too that she is blaming you being upset on your hormones. That is crap. At least it is off Facebook.

Rikki_5 · September 2015

Seems weird of him....but then again he just might be a weird guy and thought it was funny. Either way, I guess it's a non issue now that it is off Facebook. Don't understand how your MIL wouldn't be creeped out by it either.. Strange all around!

ChiccoBeanz · September 2015

I'm glad he took it down, but I'd have blocked him on top of that. He's a real creep and your MIL is being dense about the situation.

jefinley1 · September 2015

Has your husband gotten involved in this at all? He should definitely be the one taking the lead on this. I don't think you're over reacting. Joke or not that is really inappropriate and creepy.

I'm very confident that if this were me, my husband would immediately block him to remove the picture, then call his mom, tell her it was inappropriate, then call his stepdad and rip him a new asshole. I wouldn't even have to be involved. I would make sure your husband knows how upset you are and why and just let him handle it.

Cupcakesandquilts · September 2015

Agree with PP, that sounds shady. Whether he was joking, being creepy, or making fun of you, none of that is appropriate. He sounds pretty immature and I'm not a big fan of MIL either.

pinkj4182 · September 2015

Thanks ladies! MIL made me feel crazy with how she reacted. My husband removed him from Facebook and talked to his mom. No change in how she views the whole thing...weird... But it's off Facebook now which is good! Still doesn't change the creeper or weirdo vibe I have for him. Thankfully they live out of state so my run ins with him are yearly if that. If she brings him out for the birth so help me dalton! But the discussion of leaving him at home is pending so I'll see how that goes lol

FatPony · September 2015

Block that f*cker!

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