super scared of making the wrong decision advice/prayers/well wishes welcome

newmama201578 · September 2015

I have been diagnosed with late GD. Had a ultrasound done at 36wks and everything measured good except lo's abdomen which was measuring 42wks at 36wks. Because of the GD my doctor will not let me go further than 39wks. I am already 3cm dilated so a vaginal birth is possible. However there seem to be a lot more risks trying vaginally. This whole pregnancy I have been against having a c-section unless it is 100% medically needed. So far my doctor is leaving it up to me if I want to try vaginally or not but I'm not sure if I want to considering baby could get stuck and we could lose her (I'm not a very big person only 5' & petite, most people ask if I'm having more than 1 baby because I'm all belly. I just tell them now yes it's just 1 just a really big 1 lol). But I am terrified of having a c-section the procedure terrifies me and the longer recovery. Also I want to breast feed and have heard with a c-section it maybe harder to produce. This has been driving me crazy my biggest concern is that lo is healthy which is making me lean more towards a c-section however I'd love to have her naturally. I'm looking for any thoughts/adivce, people who have went through anything simulair, anyone who has giving birth to a big baby or have had c-sections. And like stated in the headline prayers and well wishes are always welcome. Thank you in advance.

PS the pictures are from my ultrasound at 36wks (had a wonderful tech who gave us these 4d pics) just wanted to show off my chubby little monkey. DH & I just can't wait to finally meet her and have been praying non-stop that everything works out OK.

ktbkitten · September 2015

I don't have any advice but we'll be thinking about you.

mrscheetah · September 2015

I am in a similar-ish situation, facing a c section because LO is breech after being vehemently anti-CS the whole pregnancy. I also have gestational hypertension. My doctor has not offered trying to have a vaginal birth and if I really wanted to I'm sure I could (probably would require getting another doctor), but at this point I'm accepting that I need the CS. The risks of a vaginal birth, to me, are not worth it. Believe it, I do NOT want a CS and I'm terrified of the entire process. But I believe it's what I need. In the end, as you said, the goal is to have a healthy baby and a healthy mommy. Good luck in whatever you decide, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

bnwillia3 · September 2015

I don't have any "advice" other than to consult with your doctor and let him/her know of your concerns. I don't imagine your doctor would give you the option of vaginal delivery if it was unsafe - and you could always have c-section on standby if needed (since they know you have risk factors they would likely be monitoring baby very, very closely so the chances of baby being harmed are very low). One last thing to consider - it is actually incredibly, incredibly rare for a baby to be physically too large to be delivered vaginally. It can certainly seem like they are too big, but our body can do amazingly wonderous things! I wish you the very best of luck with your decision and look forward to reading your birth story!

lesliecosta · September 2015

Hopefully this helps. My situation is strikingly similar and due to risks explained by my Dr, I've decided to go directly to cesarean. I'm 4'11" and there is concern his head will pass my pelvis but end up stuck at shoulders, w possible brain damage, dislocated shoulders, etc. My husband and his entire family are gigantic and this baby is much larger than average.
My advise: reading the birth announcements with so many ending in cesarean have eased my mind in the situation. Sometimes it's necessary. The health and stress free entrance into this world of your beautiful baby is priority. We are in this together little lady!

LaurenNewph · September 2015

My advice is to go with your gut. You have to do what you think is best for you and baby. You both need to be safe.

junebaby20 · September 2015

I didn't have GD the first or this time so not exactly the same. But at around 35-36 weeks with #1 she was measuring huge. Like 4 out of the 5 docs in the practice agreed to send me to a high risk ultrasound doc for a second opinion and even he was surprised at the measurements. I know they are not accurate but I knew myself well enough to know that I didn't want to labor just to be wheeled back. So we consulted the docs and prayed and agreed on a scheduled section. Best decision we ever made. My pelvis was too narrow. They had to open me up even bigger to get her out. Three years later her head is still huge. I've known tiny women birth big babies. It's totally possible. You have to go with your gut. Csections are not the devil. I had an amazing recovery. Really easy and I hope this rcs is the same. I think because I was mentally prepared. Terrified but ready. I breastfeed with zero issues. It's ok to be scared. It's a major surgery. You can still have the birth you want. Skin to skin. Breastfeeding. Just talk to your nurses and doctors and tweek your plan.
Just talk to your husband, pray about it and you'll make the best decision. Having a healthy baby is what's absolutely the best decision. How the baby comes out will not define you. You'll be ok.

Growingapepper · September 2015

If your doctor is leaving it up to you then he obviously isn't very concerned about the vaginal birth not going well. If he didn't think vaginal was a good idea, he would have advised you that a c-section is what he believes to be the best route. If I were in your situation I would definitely attempt the vaginal delivery. If there are any red flags during labor your doctor will let you know and then you can make the decision to proceed with a c-section. Your doctor is there for you and baby, he won't let anything bad happen that is within yours or his control. Good luck, I know it's a difficult decision when you are scared for your baby's health. Trust your instincts and your doctor, you can do this!

BabyBugutsky · September 2015

I don't have any advice as this is my first. Do what you feel is right. Maybe try to do a vaginal birth and if it don't go well have the c-section as your back up plan. As you said the main thing is that your LO is healthy. I'm terrified to have a c section as well but I'm preparing in case my birth plan doesn't go as planned. Your doctor won't do anything until you agree to it. I know for me if a c section is what's best for baby's health then that's what will be done. All the best momma! Any decision you make will be the right one.

AndieTessie · September 2015

I'm also a FTM, so I haven't been through it before, but I'm in a similar situation. Baby girl is measuring 7.4lbs at 37 weeks and is estimated to be around 8 1/2 at 39 week induction. First thing is to remember is that ultrasounds at this point can notoriously off. My friend was told to expect a 11lb baby, he was only about 7 at birth! Even if baby is bigger, your size has no affect on your ability to deliver a big baby. I'm personally going to go for a vaginal delivery, and if it ends in c-section, then that's OK too. I believe @kanga915 posted this great article originally. Hope it helps! https://evidencebasedbirth.com/evidence-for-induction-or-c-section-for-big-baby/

tpally6212 · September 2015

I just found out on Tuesday I may need a c section due to having a small narrow cervix, baby isn't huge, he may be around 8lbs but my chances of a vaginal birth are now slim. Like PP said I was told I could try and deliver if I wanted too but I just think why would I try if the end result will probably be a section anyways.. I just wish I knew sooner and not 8 days before my due date.

junebaby20 · September 2015

Making these decisions are never easy. I know where you and many of you ladies are. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Gather the info you have and go from there. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for your decision and don't let anyone make you feel less for going the csection route. You can always try vaginally and get taken back if necessary. I just knew myself. Make a decision you know you can live with.

rebeccabloomwood · September 2015

I think you need to bring up your concerns with your doctor and they might have a little more insight in what is best suited for your needs.

Just an anecdote - I had a c section and my milk came in right away and I had zero issues with breastfeeding from the start (except for normal FTM issues). Hope that helps.

Good luck in making a decision. Whatever you decide, it will be the best decision for you.

J0C0TX · September 2015

Is it your OB making the suggestion or the ass MFM who made that awful comment to you? That would influence me some on the advice received tbh.

That being said, I've had the emergency section and a planned section and a planned section was a very peaceful process for us. Neither caused issues with breastfeeding for me or with bonding.

I hope it goes well for you. Hugs xxx

abchrist1 · September 2015

I was GD with my first, she was breech and had partial placenta previa. So my Dr was talking about a c section at 20 weeks. The risks for baby are way lower. I was terrified of a c section but honestly it wasn't as bad as I thought. Recovery wasn't bad either, just walk around as soon as you can, take it slow, but definitely walk. The worst was going to the bathroom after, at least for me (even with a stool softener, I've heard it's worse after a c section than vaginal birth). And I had no problem producing, I did have to use a nipple shield to breastfeed, but my daughter was born a little early, had trouble latching.
And even though I'm a candidate for a vbac this time, I'm still doing a c section because of the risks. If I try for natural birth and end up needing a c section, the risks go way up and that scares me. Plus I know what to expect.
That's just my experience. Definitely talk to your Dr, do some research and choose what you think is best. Wish you all the best!

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