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Advice appreciated

cmerriburycmerribury member
in April 2016 Moms
I'm trying to decide when to tell my son about the baby. Unfortunately he was present when the doctor told me about my first miscarriage (not how I would have planned it, but I wasn't expecting anything to be wrong) and it was really hard on him. We never told him about the second pregnancy or miscarriage. This time around he pretty much tells me every day that I'm pregnant (I look *super* pregnant, and have for a while now) and analyzes my symptoms ("Mommy, I know why your tummy is upset, there is a baby in there!"). From the start I've been determined to not spill the beans until 12 weeks when we have the scan and things look good. But, now I feel ridiculous keeping it from him (which is really more just not confirming it, since he daily tells me I'm pregnant). My response of "I'll have to go to the doctor to see what she says..." isn't going to hold water much longer. Hubby would be OK telling him, I'm the only hang up. Am I being silly for waiting, or should I try to hold out until 12 weeks to spare him any pain if something goes wrong?
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  • mrstraxmrstrax member
    I honestly don't think we can tell you either way without knowing your son. I do like the answer you've been giving him though - way to avoid the lie while protecting him as you see fit.
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    How old is he ?
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  • cmerriburycmerribury member
    He will be 5 in October, and is clearly really perceptive. :)
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  • runningwildrunningwild member
    He must be pretty perceptive. My oldest is almost 7 and hasn't suspected a thing. And I've been pretty obviously sick for the last couple weeks.
    Obviously only you can know what is best for your son. But I think if it were me, I would hold out as long as possible given that he took it so hard the first time. I think you gave him a great answer.
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  • cmerriburycmerribury member
    Thanks you @runningwild. He's really empathetic, so me being sick is a big deal for him. My sweet boy. Yeah, I think I'll just keep holding out. I just wanted opinions from some other moms. Thanks, ladies!
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