H wants another baby....

KristinaD217 · September 2015

Right after I'm healed he wants to try. And I'm like, no way! He thinks because I'm recovering so well that it'll be ok. But I can not handle the emotions again so soon! Plus, I want to actually wear my wedding dress.

How far apart are your kiddos? How did you recover after ward? any advice?

laineyjewel · September 2015

Ha! I'd be laughing in DHs face at that idea... but I like to space my kids lol DS1 is 11 DS2 is 7 and DD is 1 week.

Personally I feel like each recovery has gotten progressively harder. DS1 I was fine after a few days, DS2 it took about a week/10 days, and DD I'm 8 days PP and still feeling pretty rough.

Good luck! I know some people want their kids as close as possible and can handle it fabulously. But, for me, I know I wouldn't be able to.

kelseyrayay · September 2015

I couldn't have two in diapers! No way! Epsecially after the tough pregnancy I had. It will be about 3 maybe 4 years before I have another. I love being pregnant don't get me wrong but my body and mind isn't ready for it yet.

amk013 · September 2015

My DS gives me baby fever! I've never loved something so much and I want as many as possible! That being said, I do want to wait at least 2 years so my LO can have my undivided attention for awhile!

neludelu · September 2015

I have intense baby fever. If money weren't an issue I would be knockin' boots for another one.

ChristyM87 · September 2015

No way. I had an easy pregnancy but a rough delivery that I am still processing and recovering from. Plus since I had a c-section I am wanting to wait the recommended 18 months minimum between children so that my uterus has time to heal

jesselayne8 · September 2015

My first 2 were 17 months apart. I can't imagine them any closer than that. I think less than 18 months between deliveries puts you at very high risk for pre term labor and complications. I love them being so close now but man it was tough. #2 &3 are 26 months apart. I think 24 months is a good distance apart. We will probably try for #4 when #3 turns one. I am AMA so I don't want to wait too long. I would like to be done before 40.

SassetteSmurfling · September 2015

DD1 and DS are 25 months apart and then DD2 was 31 months after DS. Although I did get pregnant when DD1 was 9 months old (they would have been about 18 months apart) but had a miscarriage.

I honestly love the spacing we have! Right now they are 4, 2, and 1 month. DD1 and DS are best friends and play really well together. So far DD2 is fitting in just fine. I'm glad I had them close together. I couldn't imagine going back to having a baby once my kids are school aged. I feel like I've been in constant baby mode for almost 5 years now and now we'll slowly start to transition to "kid" mode with more school and sports and activities and things of that nature.

Starynightsky24 · September 2015

Ha! No way. Irish twins does not sound fun to me. DS required a lot more attention around a year to 14mo. He was old enough to get into things but too young to disapline/really understand. I couldn't even imagine having a newborn around that time. Even now at 2 years apart in thinking 3 would be ideal.

That said I'm pretty sure we are done. If by chance we decide to go for a 3rd it'll be when DD is at least 2 1/2 or 3 years old and DS is in school.

I absolutely hated being 8/9mo pregnant and not being able/having the energy to do things with DS and play with him. It was heartbreaking to me. So I'm not in the hurry to do it again.

tarheelgirl8 · September 2015

I agree with PP that there are definitely benefits to having children close in age. But getting pregnant within a month of delivering...oh hell no. I remember the first trimester exhaustion and MS. No way in hell I'm doing that while taking care of a newborn! [-X

Miz_Liz · September 2015

Yikes Yikes Yikes - no thanks, not yet! I want to lose all of my baby weight, plus the weight I never lost from DS before I got pregnant with DD before I even consider it again! I hope to have 2 years between DD and #3, so we won't try again until just after her 1st birthday. The very thought of being pregnant again right now makes me want to puke.

Ambermom043 · September 2015

Basically, I'll probably never "try" to get pregnant again, but I won't kill myself trying not to. If it happens it happens.. I will "kill myself" trying not to for the first 18 months tho!!

sandrabrooke · September 2015

375 a week in infant care.....otherwise I'd want ten kids....or maybe four

bpwife&mama · September 2015

Mine are 3 1/2 years apart. I like it that way. We are done.

neludelu · September 2015

sandrabrooke said:
375 a week in infant care.....otherwise I'd want ten kids....or maybe four

Holy cow. Where do you live? I was losing sleep over $160 for infant care.

CaliforniaDream87 · September 2015

Mine are two years apart (both in dipes) and I wouldn't have it any other way. We were always so *done* after two. Now my H is talking about a third. Ha! Nope.

KateDerek · September 2015

Noooooooo way Jose! My kids are all four years apart and I love the age gap. That being said, this third baby is our last. I'm tappin' out!

ChanelLovesB · September 2015

My husband told me just this morning he can't wait till im cleared for sex and back on my birth control. Lol. I'm not itching for another baby at all. Trying to get used to my new normal. I think it'll be 4 years before we even talk about the subject. But this kid might be a loner

sandrabrooke · September 2015

neludelu said:

375 a week in infant care.....otherwise I'd want ten kids....or maybe four
Holy cow. Where do you live? I was losing sleep over $160 for infant care.

Minnesota! Our daycare costs are oddly some of the highest in the country. I might have been able to find an in home...but honestly just prefer the hours and environment of the center she's going to. Even more scary was that I reserves the last infant spot...in December.

breezymeema7 · September 2015

DS and DD1 were just under 11 months apart. DD1 and DD2 are 18 months apart. DD2 and DD3 are 24 months apart. I love the age gaps, it was what we wanted for our family. As for recovery, each recovery has been easier then the last. Kids are a blessing!

cseley321 · September 2015

Sometimes between 18 months and 2 years, basically as soon as I get the go ahead from my doctor

banfrog · September 2015

DS1 and DS2 are 14 months apart. DS2 and DS3 are 20 months apart. DS3 and DD are 17 months apart. I have 4 at 4 years and younger. It's a lot of work right now. Once the youngest isn't bfing, is eating solids, and is sleeping through the night it gets easier. Each time I'm excited for each baby but I also think DH and I must be crazy. That said, DH and I have talked about one more but we want to wait at least a year before trying.

Kwest1007 · September 2015

sandrabrooke said:

neludelu said:

sandrabrooke said:
375 a week in infant care.....otherwise I'd want ten kids....or maybe four
Holy cow. Where do you live? I was losing sleep over $160 for infant care.

Minnesota! Our daycare costs are oddly some of the highest in the country. I might have been able to find an in home...but honestly just prefer the hours and environment of the center she's going to. Even more scary was that I reserves the last infant spot...in December.

I will be paying $400/week but that's for a nanny in our home so I guess I can't complain too much. Daycare isn't much cheaper tho! Def a factor in having a second!

holli0801 · September 2015

Yeahhhh... At baby's one week doc appt my SO told the doctor his one is so easy, it makes it easy to want another one right away. I was really surprised. I think for us, waiting a year makes the most sense. There's just way too much going on the next nine months and I want my body back for a little bit!

dkizz82 · September 2015

If my DH said this I would respond with HELL NO!!!! Honestly I think I'm gonna be one and done. DH doesn't like to hear me say that but whew! This mom gig is hard work.

gmd88 · September 2015

Ha!

kettlekitten · September 2015

DS is lucky he even exists after our experience with DD!! I felt like I could never put myself through all that again but DH always wanted another one. Eventually things became more manageable and we let ourselves have a little accident.... So DD and DS are almost exactly 30 mths apart. This is a good age gap except for the fact DD is still quite demanding and doesn't play well independently, which makes it difficult to get stuff done for DS (feeding and pumping etc). I wouldn't wish 'two under two' on anyone - it must be so difficult!

irohspupil · September 2015

I'm absolutely exhausted but when LO is calmly and contently studying my face while I hold her... I can't help but think about doing it all again.
If DH and I decide to have another, we will probably wait until DD is 1 1/2 or 2 before trying.

CarelessDiva89 · September 2015

I love the 5 year age gap between the twins & DS2! However the 18 month age gap between DS2 & DD2 is a little crazy I wanted them to be close in age..

lethanne · September 2015

Kwest1007 said:

sandrabrooke said:

neludelu said:

sandrabrooke said:
375 a week in infant care.....otherwise I'd want ten kids....or maybe four
Holy cow. Where do you live? I was losing sleep over $160 for infant care.

Minnesota! Our daycare costs are oddly some of the highest in the country. I might have been able to find an in home...but honestly just prefer the hours and environment of the center she's going to. Even more scary was that I reserves the last infant spot...in December.

I will be paying $400/week but that's for a nanny in our home so I guess I can't complain too much. Daycare isn't much cheaper tho! Def a factor in having a second!

Where do you live in MN? I live here as well and second the pain of having another child in daycare! We are paying a good 27k-30k for two!

Lovemyboys0312 · September 2015

DS1 and DS2 are 20 months apart. DS2 and DS3 are 3.5 years apart. DS2 was a very very hard baby and toddler.... We were pretty sure we were done after #2 but then decided to try for one more. I love our spacing. My older 2 are in kindergarten and preschool and are very independent. They are also best buddies so they entertain each other while I take care of baby brother. I can't imagine having kids closer than 18 months apart! It was fun, but it wasn't joke. That shizzz wasn't easy!

raelynch87 · September 2015

I always tell DH that is money wasn't an issue and we could pay MIL and a nanny to help with kids then we'd have 4. As it is we might stop at just 1. I was an only and I had so many opportunities and experiences that I just wouldn't have had if my parents had more kids. DH really wants at least 2 and I'm open to it but we wouldn't start trying until LO is 12-14 months old.

frankiemarie09 · September 2015

I really want a fourth child, but my labor and delivery was so much harder this time around, my doctor told me I shouldn't have another one. So of course dh is against the idea.

sandrabrooke · September 2015

lethanne said:

neludelu said:

375 a week in infant care.....otherwise I'd want ten kids....or maybe four
Holy cow. Where do you live? I was losing sleep over $160 for infant care.

Minnesota! Our daycare costs are oddly some of the highest in the country. I might have been able to find an in home...but honestly just prefer the hours and environment of the center she's going to. Even more scary was that I reserves the last infant spot...in December.
I will be paying $400/week but that's for a nanny in our home so I guess I can't complain too much. Daycare isn't much cheaper tho! Def a factor in having a second!
Where do you live in MN? I live here as well and second the pain of having another child in daycare! We are paying a good 27k-30k for two!

South side of the cities!! Which is a lot more expensive than the north side where I grew up.

tylery · September 2015

LOL, my husband wants another one too... We just had our first baby at the end of July. Ideally I would like another baby that is 2 years younger than our first. But my husband thinks since I healed well that we should start trying for the next child!! (In his mind, he wants 8 children whereas I would probably stop at 2, maybe 3, or absolutely done at 4 children MAX).
I would LOVE another baby. But I want to enjoy my first baby for her first year before making a move to conceive again... Also, on a financial level, I don't think it'd be a great idea to get pregnant RIGHT THIS INSTANT as my husband would like.
He kills me sometimes lol.

ElleMF728 · September 2015

Starynightsky24 said:

Ha! No way. Irish twins does not sound fun to me. DS required a lot more attention around a year to 14mo. He was old enough to get into things but too young to disapline/really understand. I couldn't even imagine having a newborn around that time. Even now at 2 years apart in thinking 3 would be ideal. That said I'm pretty sure we are done. If by chance we decide to go for a 3rd it'll be when DD is at least 2 1/2 or 3 years old and DS is in school. I absolutely hated being 8/9mo pregnant and not being able/having the energy to do things with DS and play with him. It was heartbreaking to me. So I'm not in the hurry to do it again.

This exactly. My hardest time with DS was 14 or 15 months, I would have gone crazy with a newborn at the same time. Mine are 2 years and 2 weeks apart and it works great for us. It sucks that we have 2 in diapers but hopefully that will pass quickly enough.

I think 2 years is old enough to sort of get the idea of a baby while being young enough that the transition isn't so much of a blow. At least when going from an only child to big brother/sister. We will start trying about the same time.

KristinaD217 · September 2015

So I gave him an ultimatum, if he wants another kiddo, we have to have a wedding. AND HE CONSENTED!

mind you, I dint make it a habbit to do things like that

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