Missed Miscarriage Concerns

Knottie84607381 · September 2015

Hello All. First time posting and I couldn't locate any recent topics on this, but I've been feeling such a lack of symptoms lately that I'm so worried. I should be 19 weeks and I've had terrible nausea since week 7 but that's disappeared now, my stomach seems more deflated and squishy than before, and even though I felt flutters at 18 weeks I haven't been able to feel anything, even when I press down on my stomach. I don't go back to the OB until the end of the week and I'm terrified there won't be a heartbeat. I guess I'm just looking for advice on things to look out for or if anyone has any experience with a missed miscarriage. First pregnancy and so nervous!

kristib1027 · September 2015

At this point I don't believe it's any longer considered a miscarriage, you'd be having a stillborn which you would still feel pushing on your. Stomach and would be causing you lots of pain and whatnot. I think your letting your mind run wild, but call your OB if you are too concerned, maybe purchase or borrow a Doppler.

Winters12 · September 2015

This is something I worry about ALL the time. I did with my first pregnancy too. Truly, the odds after 12 weeks are so, so slim and at this point, unlikely to be asymptomatic for any length of time.
Every single time I visit my midwife, I get the same gut wrenching fear when she comes close with the Doppler. I think it's natural to be honest, or rather, a natural fear if you've read about misses miscarriages, know someone who had one, or like me, are pretty paranoid in general

I promise though, once you start feeling regular kicks and movements (I'm 19 weeks too and haven't started yet, and this is my second so they say they begin sooner) you won't have this same worry. Instead you'll be counting kicks and worried about movements! Once born, it's SIDS etc. Once grown, it's a slew of things, like getting their license! I've learned you'll always worry as a mother--always-- but the worries change. All I can say, is try to have faith that he/she is just fine and try to enjoy your pregnancy. Soon you'll feel baby move and the odds your OB won't hear the heartbeat is SO minute.

Best of luck!

mrsgetz4000 · September 2015

I think sometimes us pregnant woman get a little crazy and worry too much. Unless you have bleeding or severe menstrual like cramps don't worry yourself. Try and relax until your appointment. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and this pregnancy has been peachy! Im 20 weeks now with a little girl and still, in the back of my mind I worry. Best of luck to you

CaraBoonie · September 2015

Everything you listed seems extremely typical for this stage of pregnancy. I know it's easier said than done, but try to go with the flow and relax! Or else parenting will give you an ulcer, haha. Your nausea is supposed to stop at this point, and many people say it stops overnight for them. Your stomach will be squishy sometimes until you get larger, it doesn't mean much of anything at this stage. You won't feel your baby consistently yet either, in fact some people have yet to feel them at all still at this point. All are normal. Try not to stress. It's all okay

Blueyedsky · September 2015

I feel baby the most when I'm leaning on my side, a pillow supporting my belly, and completely relaxed, almost like I'm about to fall asleep. I read something that saI'd the baby moving is their brain testing out all the muscles and teaching them coordination, and that's most likely to happen when you're not busy doing things. Maybe try it out and see if you don't feel a little flutter or two?

Even though babys kicks have gotten huge, I mostly don't feel it when I'm busy doing things.

Knottie84607381 · September 2015

I really love the support here! You know what they say, you google symptoms on the internet and come away convinced you're dying. I'm worrisome and paranoid in general but reading up on women whose babies stopped developing in the womb weeks before they noticed just freaks me out. Ours wasn't a planned pregnancy and it took a while to comprehend, but at this stage all I do is worry that something will be wrong! I am going to stay away from google for a while, until my OB appointment at least. I'm trying to tell myself that being a little overweight to begin with is masking the movements and that there's just more cushion between us!

jrouge12 · September 2015

I felt the same way (totally symptom free) and so did other posters as this has been posted about several times already, around week 17-18. I hadn't felt any movement yet! Also had a squishy belly. But everything was fine. Saw baby on the A/S yesterday squirming around! Also learned I have an anterior placenta, which makes it harder to feel movement.

peppercorn16 · September 2015

It could also just be the positioning of your placenta and/or baby! Baby might be sitting far back or really low, or you could have an undiagnosed tilted uterus, anterior placenta, ect. I definitely agree with all the PPs that there is nothing in your post that is a red flag! Try to hang in there, if anything drastic happens call the doc, but it sounds like you're just paranoid like the rest of us

Let us know how your appt goes!

ChrissyD1203 · September 2015

No symptoms for me at all during pregnancy other than weight gain, my stomach feels different at different times. I'm a FTM, maybe felt flutters at 18 weeks but didn't feel anything for days, and then around 20 (I'm almost 22 weeks now), started feeling more frequent moment. Up until the constant movement, I worried about doc not finding a heartbeat too. Based on everything people post on here, sounds like you are in the same boat as everyone else.

l4rk · September 2015

I'm 20 weeks and rarely feel pregnant, if at all. I bought a doppler because I knew I would worry. I have used it every week or so and it's often the only thing letting me know I'm pregnant. Finally had an ultrasound yesterday and everything is fine! I think it's entirely normal not to feel much at this point and also entirely normal yo freak out about it!

Hipshaker · September 2015

I have had a missed miscarriage. I had no signs or symptoms for four weeks. Continued to gain weight, have nausea and feel bloated. I did not find out until my 12wk us. Your stomach will not deflate, and your uterus will not disappear or shrink. And it's normal to start feeling good in or close to your second trimester

it's also normal to worry! I have an anterior placenta this time so kicks and movement feel less strong and happen later. Not cool after having a missed misscarrige let me tell you! At 22 wks I still have so much stress. Now baby will start setting up sleep cycles so during periods he will be sleeping and not kicking. More mind games. It's ok. And if your really feel stressed, having trouble sleeping,concentrating or thinking about anything else. Call your on and get your self in for a well check! Don't let them pass you off. Your mental health is important too!

ashin121 · September 2015

I had a missed miscarriage at week 10-11 last time. I still felt very pregnant until it happened just like the post above me. Get a home doppler to hear the heartbeat if you're really worried. It'll help you to know the baby is still there.

deedeecmc79 · September 2015

Your baby is still small enough to move to a different spot and not be felt. Mine will at times be closer to the surface and my stomach feels real hard and I can feel him. the next day he is lower and everything feels squishy. Remember, if things are worrying you call you OB. that is what they are paid for. Best of luck

kelnate22 · September 2015

All of my symptoms disappeared around 13 weeks and I was a nervous wreck the entire time. I'm now 20 weeks and my stomach fluctuates daily, sometimes it's squishy, sometimes hard. Depends on the position I'm sitting in or standing in. I didn't start to feel movements until 19 weeks due to anterior placenta. Did you doc say anything about that to you? I would ask at your next appt. Even then, I didn't feel her daily, just a kick here or there sometimes. Now at 20 weeks I feel her pretty regularly, but still get a little nervous when I don't feel her for a while. Try drinking some cold water. That seems to stir my girl up! Or try sitting still for 15ish minutes. I used to feel her only when i slouched on the couch with my feet up but now i feel her in many different positions. I still battle the nerves daily, but keep thinking positive. Sending positive thoughts your way, @Knottie84607381

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