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Over night stay

SaharaxoSaharaxo member
in October 2015 Moms
Just found out you spend the night over at the hospital and I've been told your husband isn't allowed to stay. I'm super terrified of sleeping in place I'm unfamiliar with so this is scary.. Any truth to it or can my husband stay? With my anxiety I already know I won't be sleeping.. I'll be too terrified of any ghosts lurking in the dark lol
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  • crysjamscrysjams member
    Your husband should be allowed to stay. I've never heard that before and everyone I've known has had their husbands stay with them - it won't be a comfy sleep for him on a chair unless you squeeze in the tiny hospital bed.
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  • erinboehmeerinboehme member
    My hospital moves moms into post-partum rooms with a queen size bed so hubby can stay, but we have 4 kids at home, so he won't be staying. Do you have a shared room?
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  • shineysashashineysasha member
    Oh my gosh! My hospital is the same... an incident occurred years ago so now partners cant stay overnight... My plan to get around it is to hopefully have a smooth delivery and leave four hours after delivery so I can go home and be with my SO  :-/ Not ideal and pretty stupid if you ask me.
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    I'd double-check with your hospital. Most have a couch in the room so your spouse or partner can stay with you.

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  • LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    Every hospital and birth center is different, so check with the one where you'll be delivering. I can assure you that there is nothing to be afraid of when it comes to staying overnight at a hospital, so try to remind yourself of the realistic parts instead of letting your fears get the best of you.
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  • maiatenemaiatene member
    Check with your hospital but most let hubby stay overnight in L&D since it's private but once you move to post-partum he can't stay if you are sharing a room with another mom.

    Just curious @Saharaxo how old are you and have you ever spent a night away from home by yourself... like at camp or in a dorm room?
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  • whitemn04whitemn04 member
    That's crazy! I just had to stay the night Tuesday for a UTI/bladder infection. The nurse offered hubby pillows and blankets without us even asking. But the hospital I will be at, you stay in the same room you deliver in unless you need a c-section and all rooms are private.
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    I'm sure rules are different everywhere but on the tour they told us most rooms have a pull out couch, or u may be able to get cot. I guess some husbands stay whole time. We have dogs and live 10 mins away so mine will prob go home to shower and check on them after labor.
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  • SaharaxoSaharaxo member
    Sorry I didn't reply had a hard time finding this again. I'm currently 25, and I have spent nights elsewhere but hospitals creep me right out. Always been a fear of mine. We don't have an on in town so we have to travel an hour to the next town to deliver. I have birth registration coming up so I'll ask the nurses there. So if it turns out he can't it'll be double scary seeing as I'll be in an unfamiliar town as well. I have anxiety issues so I'm always over reacting but I'm glad to hear some hospitals let it happen! My nurse practitioner is always messing up information so I'm going to hope she's wrong again lol
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  • dchiapelladchiapella member
    Yes. Definitely do check with them again, ask multiple people to try and find the most accurate answer. I've never even heard of them kicking a husband out of the room unless there was justifiable cause. The chairs all slide into a cot at my hospital. I think I'd slap someone if they told me my husband couldn't stay in the room over night! You mentioned anxiety, if you've ever gone to a psychiatrist or gone through any methods for treatment for it bring that up as well. That might make a difference and if they had told you that because it's a shared room then maybe they'll be more open to providing you with a private one. When you have a history of anxiety or depression you'll end up on the watch list for postpartum depression anyways so you may have an angle there. 
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  • EricawengerdEricawengerd member
    Definitely sounds strange that he can't stay...I haven't heard of hospitals doing that but I guess it's different everywhere. My man stayed the whole time I was there with our first and second and I was so glad! I would check in with your hospital just to make sure either way. Hope he gets to stay!!
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  • danixbanani24danixbanani24 member
    I started a pretty big thread about this a few months ago when I found out my hospital has the same room.  I learned that DH can stay with me in L&D no matter the time but once I have the baby and move to the maternity ward (with shared rooms) he can't stay overnight.  He is allowed to stay pretty late and come pretty early.  Everyone I spoke to who went through this said it's better off anyway.  He will need some rest, I will need some rest and sleeping in a hospital is uncomfortable for all people involved.  I know you're scared but I bet you'll be so tired you won't even realize it!  Or, it won't be very creepy because nurses come and go frequently from the rooms.
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