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So hubby thinks I'm over-reacting.

nimmunogirlnimmunogirl member
in October 2015 Moms
FTM here and also a pediatrician. I have struggled during the pregnancy with knowing too much about the things that could go wrong, especially while working in the NICU a couple months ago. Yesterday I had my OB appointment and my blood pressure was higher than my usual but there wasn't any protein in my urine, so they just told me what to watch for. Today, I developed a terrible headache. I am trying to stay calm and not think of it as a sign of pre-eclampsia but I am worried. I am going to rest, drink water and take some Tylenol and plan on calling my OB if this headache does not improve. My husband is dismissing my concerns and saying I always think of the worst case scenario because I know too much. How do I get him to see that my concerns are legitimate?
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  • rosebby7rosebby7 member
    My husband does the same thing to me!! But I'm just a nurse!! He always thinks I'm overreacting, although it turns out I usually am! Lol
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    Check your blood pressure, it honestly could be just a little high.
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  • Mommajones0315Mommajones0315 member
    I am the same way ! And my OB whom I work closely with (I'm a peds nurse) always tells me I'm over reacting..... Lol
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  • tbasinskitbasinski member
    Take your BP. If it's high then call. If it's not, relax. I'm a ER RN and my husband is a medic so we always have worst case scenario in mind. The important thing is to apply your knowledge/education to the scenario. Pretend it's a patient- how would you proceed?
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  • nimmunogirlnimmunogirl member
    Heading to Walgreens or Walmart now... You are all right. Hubby just kept insisting that I am being silly. Hopefully my pressure is fine and I am over reacting. Better safe than sorry
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  • nbpa3027nbpa3027 member
    tbasinski said:

    Take your BP. If it's high then call. If it's not, relax. I'm a ER RN and my husband is a medic so we always have worst case scenario in mind. The important thing is to apply your knowledge/education to the scenario. Pretend it's a patient- how would you proceed?

    Very much this! Blood pressure is not something you want to mess with, so it's better to be safe than sorry!
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  • leighann1leighann1 member
    nimmunogirl said:
    FTM here and also a pediatrician. I have struggled during the pregnancy with knowing too much about the things that could go wrong, especially while working in the NICU a couple months ago. Yesterday I had my OB appointment and my blood pressure was higher than my usual but there wasn't any protein in my urine, so they just told me what to watch for. Today, I developed a terrible headache. I am trying to stay calm and not think of it as a sign of pre-eclampsia but I am worried. I am going to rest, drink water and take some Tylenol and plan on calling my OB if this headache does not improve. My husband is dismissing my concerns and saying I always think of the worst case scenario because I know too much. How do I get him to see that my concerns are legitimate?
    In this case, I don't know that you really need to get him to agree that your concern is legitimate. If the headache persists, just go ahead and call your doctor. My list of "always call" from my office includes severe or persistent headache, so I would just do it without his approval. Do you have a list like that from your doctor? If so, give him a copy to help make your case. 
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  • edavis926edavis926 member
    Eh I usually take the stance of if you are wondering if you are overreacting you probably BUT pre-e symptoms are on my list of things I won't debate with too long. Hopefully it's nothing and you just are a little on edge and have a nagging headache. But you'll probably just stress yourself out even more if you don't check.
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  • nimmunogirlnimmunogirl member
    I went and took my blood pressure and the numbers were all over the place from 160s/90s to 140s/80s. I called my doctor. Thank you all for the encouragement.
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  • nimmunogirlnimmunogirl member
    I called the doctor and they said to head to triage. My husband is now freaking out and saying how I probably have a headache because I got up 6 times to go to the bathroom last night and how he doesn't understand why I called the doctor now instead of calling if I s had a headache in the morning. He is probably right and nothing is wrong, but why risk it. Am I wrong?
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  • tate62610tate62610 member
    At this point, let your husband freak out.  Do what you feel like you need to do.  You know your body better than your husband.  If you feel like there is really something wrong, then go seek medical attention.  Better safe than sorry ESPECIALLY when pregnant.  Good luck!  I hope it's just a pesky headache :/
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  • mandala1107mandala1107 member
    I agree with PPs. If something doesn't feel right, don't risk it! I always have a lower BP (systolic 100-110 diastolic 50-60 and lower when not pregnant) so the one time in my previous pregnancy it was 140/80 my OB made me stay until it went down and go buy a cuff and check it regularly, despite not having any protein. Not something you want to mess with. Better safe than sorry. I think you're doing the right thing. Though it is probably nothing, your blood pressure certainly isn't going to go down if you're worried and stressed. Good luck mama and keep us posted!
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  • leighann1leighann1 member
    nimmunogirl said:
    I called the doctor and they said to head to triage. My husband is now freaking out and saying how I probably have a headache because I got up 6 times to go to the bathroom last night and how he doesn't understand why I called the doctor now instead of calling if I s had a headache in the morning. He is probably right and nothing is wrong, but why risk it. Am I wrong?
    No, you are doing exactly what you should be doing!! High blood pressure during pregnancy is nothing to mess with. My doc says anything over 140/80 is worrisome at this stage in pregnancy. 
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  • TheSouffleGirlTheSouffleGirl member
    Glad everything is okay! I hope it can turn into a productive discussion tonight. :)
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  • KLHauck12KLHauck12 member
    My husband always encourages me to call to ease my mind....because otherwise I just freak out. He worries about my stress levels affects on the baby.
    But he definitely has a similar approach of thinking everything is fine. I just dont think they can ever understand what it feels like to be aware of what is going on (or not going on) with your body during the pregnancy at all times. And the responsibility we feel with our bodies carrying & proecting these babies. But good for you for following your gut and getting checked out!
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  • BlinkbabyBlinkbaby member
    I recommend getting a cuff of your own. They're really not too expensive and that way you can check it as you please.
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  • MirandaC1984MirandaC1984 member
    Good for you! In my opinion, in matters concerning our children, it is totally worth it to err on the side of caution. Don't apologize for looking out for your best interest and the interest of your unborn child.
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  • flerbnerbinflerbnerbin member
    With my SO, his reasoning is get it checked even if you think you are overreacting. Better to have an extra trip to the doctor to ease your mind, than have something bad happen and for us to blame ourselves forever.
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  • plumpousplumpous member
    Doesn't Pre Eclampsia come with other symptoms?

    But in any case- there is nothing wrong with having your doctor take a look and see if you have anything major going on. One time really early on I wasn't sure I had enough fetal movement and I freaked out and went for a check up. I just got a bit irrational but the doctor said it's fine and normal to worry and better to come in and have it checked out.
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  • cderitzcderitz member
    Glad you and baby are doing well. I can empathize with you. I'm and RN in the hospital where I will deliver and have had one baby here. My husband is non medical and has a mother who is what I call an "old school pediatrician" who always makes me feel like I'm overreacting so he gets it from her. I just know what to look for and would rather be safe than sorry in any instance.

    He is so ashamed of this now but with our first child, I ended up getting food poisoning on a Wednesday night and he had a big meeting the next day. This was a month before my due date. I started getting sick late that afternoon into the night and could not stop throwing up/diarrhea. Calls to my docs told me to come in as I was getting contractions and knew I was getting very dehydrated. My husband was literally "annoyed" with me because I made him take me into triage at 12:30 in the mom ring. Truth be told, he was acting like such a jerk. We got to triage and I was having contractions 3-5 minutes apart from the dehydration. I ended up getting loaded up with Zofran and 2L of IV fluids to stop everything. We did not get home until like 6:30 in the morning and he was more troubled that he did not sleep well for the meeting. Worst husband day ever. He will never live that one down! Thank goodness I recovered and my daughter stayed put until 6 days after her due date.

    He knows better now. I tell that story whenever I want to embarrass him. People are always flabbergasted. As am I!
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  • krae771krae771 member
    I am totally with you.  I am a pharmacist and I always assume worst-case scenario on everything.  Every time I have a symptom I plug it into whatever medical reference I have available and the worst things always pop up.  This continued after I had my first baby too... at least you are a Pediatrician so that is your area of expertise!  One thing that might help...do you have any other doctor or medical friends you could run things by to get a 2nd opinion when you aren't sure if you are overreacting?  I have a lot of medical friends plus work in a clinic w/ a lot of doctors & other med staff so sometimes I can run things by them to feel out if I am being overreactive or if I have a valid concern. 
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