38 weeks and sex

puddinpop95 · September 2015

So we've been reading that semen helps cervical ripening....so last night we tried having sex....for the first time...in like 6 months. It took a while to convince my husband he wasn't going to meet his daughter for the first time with his junk haha but anyway it was hands down the least enjoyable experience ever. Bordering on painful. Now granted it's been 6 months with no activity so I'm sure it's pretty closed up down there and on top of that I'm sure it's getting pretty crowded, what what baby girl pushing down there and all. But has anyone else had painful experiences? I was up all night.freaking out because I'm still sore.

krose92 · September 2015

38 weeks here and still having fun with the hubby

We have relations once or twice a week at this point, and while it's not the most comfortable experience, I still enjoy myself. However, i know if I went without for 6 months I would struggle with it too! Don't be too hard on yourself. If you want to continue trying, maybe consider using lube to help things along. But don't force yourself to have sex if you and hubby don't really want to.

Best of luck!

conchispitita · September 2015

Extremely painful over here. We had to stop in July because I went to L&D for contractions. After 37 weeks we tried again and it hurt like crazy! Tried again today and it was worse. I'm going to ask my doctor about it next week. If it hurts this much with hubby, I don't want to imagine trying to push a baby out!

ejpick · September 2015

I know it can be difficult but I would try a few different positions and see if that helps!! Some are extremely painful to me while others are actually enjoyable.... Strange lol

puddinpop95 · September 2015

krose92 said:

38 weeks here and still having fun with the hubby We have relations once or twice a week at this point, and while it's not the most comfortable experience, I still enjoy myself. However, i know if I went without for 6 months I would struggle with it too! Don't be too hard on yourself. If you want to continue trying, maybe consider using lube to help things along. But don't force yourself to have sex if you and hubby don't really want to. Best of luck!

my hubs has that irrational fear of poking the baby haha so ive been doing what i can for him

but lately hes been bugging me for actual sex lol not that i dont want to, its knowing that its been so long and it would be uncomfortable. this is the longest amount of time we have ever gone without sex. prior to this the longest was like 2 weeks cause he was out of town. so this is a TOTALLY new feeling for me. but i went ahead anyway, and it felt like there was literally no room down there!

cant wait to have this baby so our sex life can go back to normal!!!! hahaha

babs02 · September 2015

We haven't in a while. DH really wants to but I'm honestly terrified it's gonna hurt. My cervical check hurt more than I thought it would and I spotted for quite a while. I want to try and get things moving more but so scared!

TabulaRasa25 · September 2015

It's been uncomfortable the past few times for me, even in positions that usually work. It's a bummer, but it is what it is.

goatgettingmarried · September 2015

We're still making it happen at least once per week, but I'm really, REALLY looking forward to when things can go back to normal. Besides there not being much room down there, one of the reasons it might have been so painful/uncomfortable is simply because it has been so long and maybe you were both a little nervous. I echo the others and strongly suggest you try some lube and change up the positions. We actually found a position the other day that I NEVER thought would do it for me, but ended up being pretty satisfying

Just remember that everyone and every couple is different. If you'd both like to be having more sex, then you should definitely keep trying. But if it really does make both of you uncomfortable, there's no need to force the situation. You can always maintain intimacy in other ways like cuddling and chatting.

Bspauldo · September 2015

We've still been very active for this entire pregnancy. We try to have sex at least 3-4 times a week. My due date is on the 3rd and we had sex twice yesterday, needless to say we are trying to get things moving along with baby girl!
The most comfortable positions for me is either doggie with a bunch of pillows under my chest/belly but I find LO moves around more often during it, which can be weird for me. Or reverse cowgirl because the extra weight from my belly makes it easier to just rock back and forth... Trying to describe this the least graphic way possible haha!

My OB said to make sure I orgasm because it helps open everything up and his semen will help ripen everything! The thought of not doing it for about 6 weeks frightens us both cause sex is a pretty big part of our lives as its one of each of our love languages! Trying to do it as much as possible before the little lady gets here.

Good luck!

CDA71089 · September 2015

Am I the only one who feels a little swollen down there? Last night Anderson and I tried but I feel so swollen I couldn't get 'into' it like I normally would, then baby boy started moving and we were both done. Lol! I'm hoping we are lucky and six weeks pp will be the start of the best sex we've ever had! Not sure it can get any more awkward then it is now.

kaylaef · September 2015

Am I the only one who is in the mood, literally all the time? My and hubby have sex about 2 times a week, and I am 37 wks, 2 days. If he was home (he's on afternoons, and when it gets home im sleeping), it would be more. He did tell me that he could feel that my cervix was extremely low last time. He was gentle. I find the only position that is comfortable at the moment is on all fours.

ForeverEverAfter · September 2015

I've given up on actual sex now, 38w tomorrow. Our last go a couple days ago was just so uncomfortable, not worth it. Between HG and my pelvic issues I haven't been up to it since 6w or so. Out of pity I'd give it a go once a month, but I'd rather help him out in other ways. He's understanding, we're both hoping to be back at it in a few months (I had issues healing with #1, no sex for 6 months).

PregNancyClark · September 2015

We love it, but I've been too swollen for the last two to three weeks. I promised to tell him if I feel normal down there for even a day! He said he'd rush home from work if he had to!! Hahah Hoping!

thefuturemrsdaniel · September 2015

Oh my gosh @Watermelephant my husband is an engineer too and that totally sounds like something he would say hahaha

babyplut · September 2015

I am still taking what I can get lol some weeks it's every day and some weeks it's 2-3 times. I'm all for having sex if you can as I believe having sex up till I went in to labour with my other previous two is what helped keep me from tearing. If something feels uncomfortable I just switch up positions till I find something that works!

raspell · September 2015

It's been almost two months for us. I just don't find it enjoyable anymore, which I know hurts hubby's feelings but nothing works! And right now everything is so swollen and sensitive down there, even the swab for strep b hurt! I keep thinking I want to try just for the hubs' sake, but I'm not sure I can do it. It's hard because we were always so physical before.

adtaylor2015 · September 2015

We are still having sex around 3-5 times a week. My sex drive is high anyway and goes into overdrive when I'm pregnant, lol. I agree with PP who said try other positions until you find something that's comfortable.
I guess I'm lucky because I can still do most positions without being uncomfortable and I haven't experienced any pain so far.
I'll be 38 weeks Friday.

theglitteredpterodactyl · September 2015

Sex has been a fairly rare occasion for us but we did give it a go a bit past the 38 week mark. I ended up bleeding a bit afterwards and lost my mucus plug so the doctor said that was our last round of penetration. I echo the others--take it easy and slow, and try changing up positions. We opted for positions that kept my belly... out of the way. It was super easy, but it wasn't as painful as you described. I find whenever it's been a bit more than a month, the first time back in the saddle is always a little clunkier than usual but it just takes communication and patience (both of which I can be short with, even if he's full of both). Also, if getting things going is the goal, it doesn't have to inherently be penetration. There's plenty of other stimulation you can go for to jump start things. Best of luck!

chelseajeanene · September 2015

DH surprised me and actually wanted to last night (he's been afraid to) and I was nervous it would hurt, but it didn't at all. I was secretly hoping he'd send me into labor but I didn't even get a single cramp, so that was a major let down. Maybe you should try different positions, from behind it didn't hurt me at all, but the last time we did it missionary it wasn't as enjoyable

alyjmac · September 2015

It has been painful for me, mainly because my SO likes to go hard. I try to tell him at this point he can't be as rough but he normally still ends up going to hard and fast.
Just this past weekend I tried again (after waiting a week or so) and I started having contractions. I was timing them and ended up being monitored for a little while in L&D, but nothing progressed. We are hoping to try again this weekend just to get him motivated to come out on time or a tad bit early.

sphillips18 · September 2015

When DH and I dtd it's pretty uncomfortable and I get painful BH contractions afterwards that last a couple hours

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