delivery Issue

ayesha+aziz · August 2015

Hey..I have a problem regarding normal delivery and a C-section.My husband wants it to be a normal delivery but I think I am not capable of it because its very painful.I am 19 only and really afraid of this process.Please tell me guys how should I convince my husband for a C-section??

tbasinski · August 2015

You don't. You have a c-section when your doctor recommends it. If you don't want to have pain, you get an epidural (which is what they give you for the c-section....).

MargoMarie123 · August 2015

Have your doc make a recommendation, consider it and make the decision. You r the one going through this.. U have a choice in the matter.

Ceridwen77 · August 2015

All births are "normal". I would suggest reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth or taking a birthing class. You may think you want a c-section, but you really don't. It's major surgery, has many more risks than a vaginal birth, and really should be only an option when medically necessary. I have nothing against c-sections but I do have issues with people who elect for them due to fear or not wanting to "mess up" their vagina.

MommyandBryce · August 2015

It's not up to him, but having a C-section is not the answer for getting out of pain. I would suggest looking into an epidural.

kanga915 · August 2015

A c-section is major abdominal surgery. It's not easier or better. It's also not something you get to choose. Your doctor will recommend it if it is necessary. Your insurance won't cover an elective cesarean (which costs over $30,000). As PP said, please do some research. Read some books, take a class or two, watch some births on You Tube. I had a unmediated vaginal birth and plan to do it again in three weeks. I have no fear and feel like childbirth is an amazing experience. I enjoyed my birth. Your body was made to do this. You can do it, and just take the epidural if you have that much anxiety.

emily.jeanne · August 2015

Recovery from a c-section is very painful. If you want to avoid pain it's not what you want. I had to have one with my first because the baby was in danger. It's a longer stay in the hospital and you can't get up to get to your baby.

kjacks6347 · August 2015

It's birth. No matter what you do at some point there will be some pain. I don't understand why people believe that a c section will be painless and is the way to go? The recovery is longer. Get an epidural. Even with that afterwords there will be some pains and discomforts.

CarrieOct15 · August 2015

I'm sorry, but even I wasn't this clueless at 19. You want major abdominal surgery so you can avoid the pain of childbirth? First off, c-sections are used for emergency situations only. It's not up to your husband to decide. Second, the recovery time for a c-section is normally much longer than a vaginal birth, and you have a very painful scar to deal with. Surgery is not painless. Lastly, have you never heard of an epidural before?

You may be young, but you're still having a baby. I would suggest doing some major research about childbirth.

HellsAngel22 · August 2015

Oh my!!! You do realise having a c-section is way worse than a natural birth right?
As PP's have said its major abdominal surgery & the recovery time is a lot worse than recovery from a vaginal birth. Did you not think about all this before you got pregnant? Research is a wonderful thing I'd suggest you do it.
Why do you feel your not capable of a natural birth? A woman's body is made for birthing a child so why would you think because your 19 you can't do it?

Litterateur · August 2015

**Lurking**

IMHO the huge financial difference would be way more painful than a vaginal delivery... Yikes!

**Lurker Out**

Gapeach83 · August 2015

I never heard someone wanting a c-section unfortunately it is sometimes needed for health reasons. Doctors are not going to cut someone open if there are other options. Well let me say respectable doctors will not. Childbirth is painful period face the facts. Get an epidural and give birth the way that is best for your baby. After DD2 was born I only needed tylenol not gonna be that way with a c-section that is for sure. Please go read up on vaginal births vs C-section and inform yourself of the actual facts.

ash413 · August 2015

In an effort to avoid pain you are wanting a doctor to cut your abdominal wall open, move your organs, pull the baby out,then sew everything back in, and then spend several week recovering from your major abdominal surgery?
Yes that sounds far less painful...NOT

aleecats · August 2015

CarrieOct15 said:
I'm sorry, but even I wasn't this clueless at 19. You want major abdominal surgery so you can avoid the pain of childbirth? First off, c-sections are used for emergency situations only. It's not up to your husband to decide. Second, the recovery time for a c-section is normally much longer than a vaginal birth, and you have a very painful scar to deal with. Surgery is not painless. Lastly, have you never heard of an epidural before?

You may be young, but you're still having a baby. I would suggest doing some major research about childbirth.

^^^so much this!!

I'm 19 and I'm not that clueless.... A c-section is major surgery and from what I understand is going to cause a hell of a lot more pain afterwards, it also leaves you pretty useless afterwards. You can't lift anything heavier for 8 weeks, no driving, and trust me walking after abdominal surgery is AWFUL! You shouldn't really talk to your doctor anyway because you can't just chose to have one, I think everyone is somewhat afraid of the pain but they have pain management methods you can use, I'm using the epidural and I took a Lamaze class to help with breathing.
Good luck with everything and I hope you really look into your options

scw89 · August 2015

I'm just telling you right now.... A C Section is much more risky and painful than a vaginal birth. Remember that our bodies were made to give birth.

tstew96 · August 2015

aleecats said:

CarrieOct15 said:
I'm sorry, but even I wasn't this clueless at 19. You want major abdominal surgery so you can avoid the pain of childbirth? First off, c-sections are used for emergency situations only. It's not up to your husband to decide. Second, the recovery time for a c-section is normally much longer than a vaginal birth, and you have a very painful scar to deal with. Surgery is not painless. Lastly, have you never heard of an epidural before?

You may be young, but you're still having a baby. I would suggest doing some major research about childbirth.
^^^so much this!!

I'm 19 and I'm not that clueless.... A c-section is major surgery and from what I understand is going to cause a hell of a lot more pain afterwards, it also leaves you pretty useless afterwards. You can't lift anything heavier for 8 weeks, no driving, and trust me walking after abdominal surgery is AWFUL! You shouldn't really talk to your doctor anyway because you can't just chose to have one, I think everyone is somewhat afraid of the pain but they have pain management methods you can use, I'm using the epidural and I took a Lamaze class to help with breathing.
Good luck with everything and I hope you really look into your options

This!! I'm 19 too and would rather have a vaginal birth than to deal with a recovery from a c-section. Not trying to be rude with calling you clueless, it's just not even a choice you should try to make. A c-section is definitely not an easy way out. No birth is easy, but from what I've been told a c-section is definitely not an easy thing to go through and you shouldn't just choose to have that. You won't be able to lift anything, you can hardly move your arms above your head, and you're going to need help with pretty much everything. If you're really worried about it, just have your doctor drug you up as much as they can.

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

I can't add anything to this because it would be against TOU. Seriously, this is the 3rd or 4th time you've posted this. Stop trolling. You're not going to get the answer you want.

amberrmariee20 · August 2015

Anyone else keep getting this error message when clicking her name ?!

CarrieOct15 · August 2015

amberrmariee20 said:

Anyone else keep getting this error message when clicking her name ?!

It means she was probably a troll & was removed from TB. Surprise, surprise.

redfallon · August 2015

CarrieOct15 said:

amberrmariee20 said:

Anyone else keep getting this error message when clicking her name ?!

It means she was probably a troll & was removed from TB. Surprise, surprise.

It can also be the + in her screenname.

redfallon · August 2015

Here's the same post on 2nd Tri board:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12618160/delivery-issue#latest

CarrieOct15 · August 2015

redfallon said:

CarrieOct15 said:

amberrmariee20 said:

Anyone else keep getting this error message when clicking her name ?!

It means she was probably a troll & was removed from TB. Surprise, surprise.

It can also be the + in her screenname.

Sigh, wishful thinking...

ayesha+aziz · August 2015

Thank u guys for helping me..but please tell me what is epidural? I really don't know.

redfallon · August 2015

Here are some books from Amazon regarding pregnancy:
https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias=toys-and-games&field-keywords=pregnancy+books

Here is a Google search result on "what is an epidural?"
https://www.google.com/search?q=what+is+an+epidural?&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8

Here is a video regarding an epidural (from 2011):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNDcf3Vw1vo

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

And now I call

aleecats · September 2015

ayesha+aziz said:
Thank u guys for helping me..but please tell me what is epidural? I really don't know.

It's a pain management medication that Numbs you for the most part from the waist down, watch the video that PP posted and also Google if (just be careful with Google, it can make it seem terrifying..).

CarrieOct15 · September 2015

ayesha+aziz said:

Thank u guys for helping me..but please tell me what is epidural? I really don't know.

I'm sorry, but I really hope you are joking. What are you going to do when you have to take care of an actual, live baby? You need to learn how to do some research, talk to your doctor, etc. Or are you going to rely on a group of internet strangers to answer all of your questions?

Please be a troll. If not, please take some classes before having this baby.

ayesha+aziz · September 2015

I am not a troll..I was worried but now I am clear because my mom and mom-in-law were away..Now they are with me..So supportive so caring..I am really happy about this baby

Btw when I am clicking my screen name it shows no user found..I think there is a problem maybe..Is there any option I could rename it?? Thanks.

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