25 weeks/not showing/B-belly rant!

mrs14678 · August 2015

So, I've been reading a lot of threads where people talk about how others remark on how big they are...

I am already about 50lbs overweight, so I have a B-belly.... I say something and people are like "oh! You're pregnant??" Yeah. Nearly 6 months!! Sorry I just look fat! I say something in response like "yep, I know... I just look fat." and then they get all apologetic and feel bad..... I don't want to be rude, but I wish I looked more pregnant so that it would be obvious!!!!!

Peanut1128 · August 2015

I'm sorry you are feeling down about your body. I could never have imagined how I would feel about watching my body change and the weird insecurities that came with it. Try to be kind to yourself, your body is doing some amazing things. I will add, I started out small and I thought I was showing so big right away but only in the past 3 weeks have people actually started to notice. I'm 27weeks now.

Catherine1021 · August 2015

I also have a B-Belly, and I do wish people could tell I was pregnant rather than just getting fatter. However, I don't really want the comments about how big I'm getting either!

mac-n-cheesy · August 2015

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I feel like women can't get a break no matter if they are underweight, normal weight, overweight or obese. For some reason others feel it's ok to have diarrhea of the mouth just because a women is pregnant. Either we gain to little, too much, gain to wide, have a "weird shaped bump", or a litany of other inappropriate comments. You are creating a life and that's a beautiful thing. I know it isn't easy to deal with the rudeness of others but try to understand some people just don't have tact and/or are idiots and that your body is doing what it is supposed to. As long as you are being healthy and taking care of your LO and yourself that's all you can do!

MrsBwIVF · August 2015

@lynem29, very well said.

Mizuiro007 · August 2015

I have a b belly and did with my son too. It's more noticeable to me this time but it's a little easier to hide under clothes. I gained almost 70 lbs during my previous pregnancy after struggling to lose before (I have PCOS). The thing I noticed though is pregnancy actually helped my insecurities. When I'd start thinking of the loose skin and fat and how awful my body looked I'd remember "but you know what? I had a baby. That's a beautiful amazing thing and my body is beautiful."

Try to remember the same and be kind to yourself. Your body really is beautiful. Also even if you looked more obviously pregnant people will still make comments that will make you feel bad. Try to forgive them too. Maybe if you don't want to make them feel bad, instead of saying you look fat say "yes, I know it's deceptive."

mrs14678 · August 2015

Thanks, ladies! You're so encouraging!! I've actually lost like 10lbs with pregnancy, so to look fatter, but to have slimmed down everywhere else is so sad! I will try to be more positive.

VesperLove · August 2015

Can you cater your clothes to make you look more pregnant?

I have a few friends who are in similar situations and a few quick fixes to their wardrobe and they went from feeling super insecure about not showing to looking super pregnant.

The main thing they did was just add belts under their boobs/around their waist and started wearing tops that fit snuggly at that point (either with ruching or just a seam around the high waist).

They also found maternity pants that were all above belly so smoothed things out and also fit snuggly to accentuate the high waist area again.

I hope you can find something that helps bring out the confidence because you're a beautiful pregnant woman who should feel great about what she's doing!

mrs14678 · September 2015

Thanks!!! I probably should try that! I have 2 dresses that make me look preggo, ha! I should get more dresses, maybe.

I do love the over belly pants.

laurabwalker · September 2015

Yes I would try to accentuate your bump more! I think sometimes people just don't want to assume that women are pregnant or say something wrong. I think it's true what a pp said, women can't win, were too big or too small or showing too much or not enough. Very annoying!

RSB1982 · September 2015

I have found that when I wear maternity clothes I look way more pregnant than if I just wear larger versions of normal clothes. Something about how maternity clothes are made, they just emphasize a bump. Play with some new styles, you'll get that bump!

kallarina · September 2015

For what it's worth, I started out extremely underweight when I found out I was pregnant. I've already gained 35 pounds, and to people who knew what I looked like before, it's pretty obvious, but to people who don't know me, they all still are surprised if I say anything, and ask if I'm "sure I'm pregnant".

shellseamarie · September 2015

I feel like I have more of a bump than I belly when I wear over the belly maternity jeans and a fit maternity shirt with rouging (sp?) on the sides. Whenever I get hard on myself my SO tells me, "you are most definitely pregnant Hun, I've felt the kid living inside you." Makes me feel a bit better.

rdilts · September 2015

I think it is tough even when someone looks pregnant. I am always hesitant in asking because I don't want to be wrong. Some people look like they are and really aren't (not really trying to be rude). I'm sure you are beautiful.

mrs14678 · September 2015

Update:

I wore a maxi dress with a tie around the waist (well, above the waist now, haha!) today to work, and got several compliments on my "cute bump"!!!

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