Feel like giving up.

joebutts · August 2015

Hey future moms, have any of you felt like everything is just falling apart? That's me right now and I have no one to talk to about it my SO works all the time then when he's home he'll drink a 6pack and work on his old truck. I feel like everything is up to me lately and I'm just so done with it. We recently moved and I unpacked absolutely everything without his help. I've been overly stressed because his boss isn't allowing him to get any time off when I desperately need him to get time off because I just can't do everything anymore.
I'm 36 weeks along and getting big. I have scoliosis which causes me so much pain throughout the day and I have to take breaks to try and make it feel better. (I know I'm writing a novel but its somewhat helping). I need help around the house and its like my SO doesn't even realize how much I actually do. I decided not to clean up after him anymore because of the mess he leaves. Beer cans and plates on the floor (don't have a kitchen table), his laptop and wires all over the floor as well. I don't know how to make it anymore clear to him that I need help other than crying and yelling that I'm in pain and could use help. Its extremely stressful because I'm feeling really alone throughout the day and would just like his company as well. We haven't had a "date night" in months because of how much his boss is making him work while his other coworkers get time off along with vacation time.
I just feel at such a loss for everything right now and feel like giving up 100% just to lay in bed and cry for hours.
If any of you have advice, please, please help.

darcyamanda · August 2015

I'm so sorry that's happening but the best thing to do is do something for your self, maybe a little pampering a bubble bath, a pedicure? Seems like there's nothing much u can do about him working so much so maybe have a you day and try and explain to him how you feel about the cleaning and maybe try and plan a date night before baby comes, without getting mad. Hope everything gets better ❤️

PregNancyClark · August 2015

If you're feeling that exhausted physically AND emotionally, maybe set a time limit and have a pity party. Just don't get stuck there.

ktbkitten · August 2015

Nothing wrong with throwing yourself a little pitty party. Sometimes it can make you feel better. Cry it out and move on. Also try sitting down with your SO and telling how you feel without getting emotional. It's hard being pregnant and some men will just never understand.

mdk2015 · August 2015

I'm right there with you. I'm stressing over things getting done that need attention now & once I'm in the hospital and unable. I've lost a lot of confidence in my husband the more I try to give him little responsibilities that I normally take care of the more I'm let down. He wants to "talk about it" when talking doesn't help... getting the crap DONE helps. Every time I ask him to do something it's just not worth the burden it seems to cause him. Then when I try to do it he gets upset & says he will take care of it, but it doesn't happen. I'm so frustrated! All I want to do is cry because of this stress & the fact I am so swollen and feel gross. I was really hoping things would be different. What can ya do!? They really just don't get it.

jwebbbber45678 · August 2015

I say talk about it openly and honestly. If you don't communicate your feelings and find a way to fix the situation you'll just harbor resentment towards him and that can really blow up or just make for an unhappy relationship. I'd be upset as well and would want to remedy things!

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