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How much is too much?

HeatherLarriveeHeatherLarrivee member
in December 2015 Moms
Hi all, I'm wondering if there are any moms out there who had stepchildren before giving birth to your first and deciding to breastfeed? I'm wonder how much info and sharing is too much for my boys, one!is almost 11 and the other 7. I love them as if they were my own but since meeting them 4 years ago there has always been a privacy standard that just kind of happened. I mean I've taken them into the restrooms with me but they always turned around and when I change for bed and such they are not in the room.

I don't want to excuse myself each time I need to nurse the little one but I also am not sure how uncomfortable it may be for the boys. I'm thinking explaining it a little before hand and then just a coverup around them?

Appreciate your thoughts!
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Re: How much is too much?

  • BostonBaby1BostonBaby1 member
    A lot of babies don't like to feed underneath covers. Since you guys already have a privacy standard and they would turn around when you change, my suggestion would be to just have them turn around when the baby latches if you feel the need for privacy. Also, as the older one is 11, it may be more comfortable for him… I don't personally think that they need to turn around, but if that makes you feel more comfortable or them more comfortable, you guys can discuss it ahead of time. It's really just a few seconds for the baby to latch. Then babies head covers basically everything.
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  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    It isn't something I've had to deal with but with their ages I would just talk to them both and ask them what they're comfortable with. At least with the older one I'd think he'd have had it covered some in health class and has some idea. Have they been around anyone else in the family who has breastfed, that might make it easier to figure out.
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  • EEB88EEB88 member
    When I nursed my first, a few children asked what I was doing and I told them feeding the baby and the said ok and went back to playing. I think we sort of make a bigger deal about things then children do. You can find children's books about anything. Im sure there is something about preparing for new siblings that'll touch on breastfeeding. Check out your local library. 
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  • yl1m32015yl1m32015 member
    Would it be any different if they were your own children? I think it would be awkward for any 11 year old, regardless of mother or stepmother. I would talk to him and explain, "I'll be breastfeeding the baby. I understand if that is awkward or uncomfortable for you. So when I get ready to feed the baby, if you'd like to look away or turn around, I'll understand." But maybe he won't think anything of it and it won't be a big deal. I agree with PP, sometimes we make a bigger deal out of this than we need to. Sometimes kids are just curious and need things explained and that's that.
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  • BostonBaby1BostonBaby1 member
    ^^ @yl1m32015 just explained what I was thinking perfectly.
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  • missphilmissphil member
    I think you should just normalize it as much as possible. It's part of life, after all. As a pp said, just do it like it's no big deal and only bring it up if they ask questions.
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