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Addy1227 · August 2015

So little time!! Starting to freak out, I'm due Dec 2nd and so far have nothing for the new baby. I have so much stuff to go through and get rid of to help make room for the baby, then there's the holidays and shopping and my 2 year old's b day. Plus I was hoping to have him potty trained by the time the baby comes, he'll be almost 3, and that's just not happening. We've hit a brick wall. He also won't fall asleep unless I'm in the room but it takes him over an hour to go down so I'm in the process of trying to break that habit and it's not going well! Wouldn't be such a big deal but SO works night so I can't exactly spend over an hour in his room with a newborn, I don't see that going over well. Sorry this turned rantish! Anyone starting to freak out?!

ammnam14 · August 2015

Considering that we still don't have a move in date for our town home...I'd say I'm a little freaked out. I try not to stress too much and just figure that I have at least four more months to get my stuff together!

I'm sorry you're so stressed. Just know that it'll all work out in the end!

You got this!

Mizuiro007 · August 2015

I have freaked out like this during both pregnancies. We moved during my previous one and there's a whole room of just boxes I have yet to get through. On top of it my MIL lives a few states away and brings big boxes of Christmas presents each time she visits. Last pregnancy we didn't have the crib set up or anything until a couple days before I went in to be induced and then hubby was setting stuff up while we were in the hospital. Definitely don't want to cut it that close again.

I'm getting through it by just setting small goals. I do one thing each day whether it's organizing a closet, sorting through the clothes DS has outgrown, or go through a couple boxes and get rid of stuff. As long as I feel I'm making progress I don't feel so anxious about how much time is left.

I have the same concern for bedtime. DS is pretty good with naps but for bedtime has to have a little snuggle time. I keep working with him on self soothing. He has blankets he'll now stroke on his cheek to soothe and it seems to make a big difference. I'm hoping our bedtime routine can get a little better/easier/faster by the time Bun comes. If not I keep telling myself maybe I can have Bun sleeping or happy in the swing until DS is in bed.

Sunny2015 · August 2015

I definitely understand, to an extent. I don't have a little one to care for, but DH and I are back at college full time and both working full time. And MIL wants us to visit so much, but she's two hours away. I'd much rather relax and spend some down time with DH. We have nothing done in the nursery and we are trying to fix up a car we just got so we can have a suitable family car for when LO is here. Everything seems to be moving much faster than we'd like it to be!

I'm sorry you are stressed, just try to set some time out to just breath and focus (easier said than done, I know :-S )

ecotton1234 · August 2015

We have the same issues. I have a 2.5 year old who I needed to potty train and get him sleeping in his own room. I have to lay with him for a long time to get him to sleep. I am kicking myself for letting this happen again (happened with older son too)

I did just potty train him and it only took a little over a week. Now on to the sleeping issue... Not looking forward to it but I know it needs to be done before baby boy #3 gets here!

Addy1227 · August 2015

@ecotton1234 how did you potty train?! We were doing so well and now he just refuses, mainly with pooping. He'll hold it in until we have to put his diaper on, he spends most of his day naked if we're home

ecotton1234 · August 2015

Basically I stayed home for a week. It was torture at first. I made him sit on the potty every 24 mins. When he peed he put a sticker on the chart we made. He was scared to poop at first and had a few accidents. I had to basically guess when I thought he had to go and put the potty in front of the tv with a cartoon on (tv is bad I know lol) until he went. Then he got an oreo for going. After a week he is fine with it now. I only leave him in underwear when we are home, no pull ups. And when I know its about time for him to poop, I take his underwear off so he can just run to the potty when he needs to go. I guess after all that rambling, the biggest thing is to not give up and use whatever you can for positive reinforcement/reward.

kleshelle · August 2015

Oh I can relate, just without the child part. I just now got the keys to my apartment TODAY. Im due the 3rd... It's going to be SO fun trying to find time around my crappy 3-11 shifts to clean it really good, pack, move. AND finish buying everything else we need. My SO is zero help because of his work schedule so it's up to me to do all of this, thankfully my mother is helping... All SO is doing is taking one day off to move my heavy stuff. I don't even want to think about getting started on her nursery yet. Still so much to do before we reach that stage.. Only 14 weeks or less to go too! My head is definitely pounding from the stress, I'm the worst to be a worry wart and the last 3 days has been awful plus lack of sleep isn't helping.

nram25 · August 2015

Don't feel bad at all I'm due on the 3rd but doctor not allowing me to go over 38wks and we haven't purchased anything for our babies either. I haven't even began cleaning to make room for all their things. I'm dreading the thought of even going through everything but I know it has to happen soon being that my baby shower is the end of next month. My plan is to wait till after my baby shower and see what all I'll need from there other than diapers. Good luck to us all!!

angelicac06 · August 2015

Hi! Don't panic. We have the same due date and all I have is the crib still in a box, lol. My plan is to tackle one thing, one weekend at a time. Otherwise you will be very overwhelmed with the very large list we have. There's pretty of time as long as you don't postpone it further. Try to relax and enjoy these last 3 months

rockinmathchic · August 2015

I feel you! My situation is very similar. DD due 30 Dec. DS's 3rd birthday is at the end of Sep. We also want to have DS potty trained before the baby gets here, mostly so he can go to preschool since it is a prerequisite and it is so hard to get a slot in our area. With the holidays and all the families birthdays we have in between now and the 30th, I am just overwhelmed. I am trying to take it one day at a time and work on things step by step. Hopefully that works to help calm me down. And I hope you can find so time to relax, too!

4puddleducks · August 2015

I started a checklist of everything that needs to be done before DD arrives. The list was becoming quite long and overwhelming. I stopped and decided to just do a few things each day to start preparing. There are some things I know I want to do while I am still comfortable enough to be sitting on the floor.

elbou · August 2015

ecotton1234 said:

Basically I stayed home for a week. It was torture at first. I made him sit on the potty every 24 mins. When he peed he put a sticker on the chart we made. He was scared to poop at first and had a few accidents. I had to basically guess when I thought he had to go and put the potty in front of the tv with a cartoon on (tv is bad I know lol) until he went. Then he got an oreo for going. After a week he is fine with it now. I only leave him in underwear when we are home, no pull ups. And when I know its about time for him to poop, I take his underwear off so he can just run to the potty when he needs to go. I guess after all that rambling, the biggest thing is to not give up and use whatever you can for positive reinforcement/reward.

In addition to this, I want to add a little trick that we used with potty training our girls (haven't gotten around to it with DS yet, lol). We came across it in a book that I think was written by the author of the BabyWise series, and it suggested that rather than rewarding kids only for using the potty...reward them for staying clean and dry in general. The entire concept of the book is that using the potty is actually NOT the overall goal. The goal is to stay clean (i.e. no pooping accidents) and dry (i.e. no peeing accidents) and using the potty is just the means to achieving that goal.

So you start by teaching them to use the potty using whatever method suits you best (they suggest getting your toddler to "teach" a toy how to use it too to help them remember all the steps) and teach them how to check if they are clean and dry (you can use pull-ups or underwear) by themselves. Then you should try asking them throughout the day "Are you clean and dry?" and EVERY time the answer is yes, you give them a reward. The part that really helps though is when they use the potty to stay clean and dry, they get a double treat! (We also gave them a triple treat if they came and told us they needed to go instead of us asking them.)

The great thing about this trick is that you don't have to wait for them to use the potty (which is entirely under the stubborn control of your toddler) and can reward them any time you ask and the answer is yes (entirely under your control...you can even ask them just a couple minutes after using the potty or having a diaper change just to be sure of the yes). The more rewards they get, the more rewards they will want, and after a while, they will get the connection between "clean/dry = treats", and then "clean/dry-because-I-used-the-potty = more treats!"

ETA: @Addy1227 and also to note that the rewards can be food treats or stickers or small toys...basically anything that motivates your kid

preggoandglowing · August 2015

Don't feel bad at least you have an excuse. This is my first so I have no excuse. I have not bought a thing! Just yesterday we picked out the crib and dresser. That's as far as we've gotten and now we have less than a month before our baby shower invitations go out to do the registries. We don't even have a name! Ahhh definitely freaking out!

DandT2point0 · August 2015

Our Family shower is Labor Day Weekend and my friends are hosting a second shower at the end of September. My husband and I are still working on our registries. I didn't feel well enough to prep for baby this summer and now the school year has commenced and I'm back to herding cats-- I mean, I'm back to teaching preschool for special needs students. My MIL is moving into the loft of our one bedroom townhouse in a few weeks as well. While I'm excited to have family living in town with us, it'll be a tight squeeze until our living sitch is figured out (she may buy our town home so we can buy a home more suitable for a family).

Mid-December is fast approaching. Woosahhhhh...

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