Delivery Issue

ayesha+aziz · August 2015

Hey..I have a problem regarding normal delivery and a C-section.My husband wants it to be a normal delivery but I think I am not capable of it because its very painful.I am 19 only and really afraid of this process.Please tell me guys how should I convince my husband for a C-section??

navyblueladybug · August 2015

Doctors usually won't perform a c-section unless it's medically necessary so you probably won't have a choice unless something goes wrong. Sorry

redfallon · August 2015

^^^ WSS

kristib1027 · August 2015

I was 16 when I naturally delivered my first child... So with respect I say "grow a pair!!!" As far as pain, that's what an epidural is for. Being 19 and scared is not reason enough for a doctor to give into having a scheduled c section for you and I don't know why you would voluntarily want one, recovery for a c section is so much worse than recovery from vaginal delivery.

groovylocks · August 2015

Two things.

Learn about the risks and potential recovery issues with C-sections. Not trying to discourage you but just... do your research. That's all i'm going to say. The details of a c-section are quite sobering. STARTING with the fact that you're often awake and conscious while they operate on you. they will rarely give anesthetic. It's not unheard of but it's not elective either. So you need to begin by thinking that you will unlikely be unconscious during MAJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY. They numb you locally.

Secondly, if you still decide you want a C section, shop around. There ARE doctors who will perform an elective one in existence. I spoke about this with my doctor at length and she was very encouraging. She told me to seriously consider this because c-sections can be very complex and very, VERY painful whereas natural birth can be painless. (My very good friend gave birth naturally and felt nothing but pressure, she claims) but she also said that after I fully educate myself (which I am still doing now) if I come back still requesting one, it may not be out of the question.

Those were her words 'May not be out of the question"

Of course.. my issue with wanting one is somewhat complicated. It's more than just "giving birth hurts". So it may be that she is considering this.

cMichelle0423 · August 2015

ayesha+aziz said:
Hey..I have a problem regarding normal delivery and a C-section.My husband wants it to be a normal delivery but I think I am not capable of it because its very painful.I am 19 only and really afraid of this process.Please tell me guys how should I convince my husband for a C-section??

Women have been giving birth vaginally since the beginning of mankind. At least be glad you have pain med options. You can do it. And as far as a c section, there are more risks involved with a major surgery like that. Not to mention recovery is usually worse, and longer. I've had two kids already and am pregnant with my 3rd, and I can promise you, it's not as bad as you're thinking. Yes it's scary, yes it's hard, yes it's painful. But so so worth it. Personally I hope to never have a c section unless there was no other choice.

KittyCat84 · August 2015

Amen to what PPs said. This is a legitimate fear all women have, and we all get through it. It will be my first time too coming up, so I'm right there with you as far as anxiety over the pain. However, as PPs said, it's worth it for the beautiful baby you'll have to take home at the end. Don't worry, you'll get through it! Be thankful you can have an epidural (if you so choose) in this day and age

BTW, c-section is not something you really want to go through if you can avoid it. As PP said, it's a major surgery with risks. You also have more recovery time, muscles are never the same, uterus is never the same (not all women are able to achieve VBAC), and since they take your "insides" (to be less specific) to place on your stomach during the procedure to get to your uterus, your digestion is messed up for WEEKS. It's something necessary if it's an emergency situation, but not something an informed person would willingly choose.

jencook25 · August 2015

I agree with previous people. Really reccomend you attend some birth classes and speak to your midwife about your fears, concerns, and the options you have.

contourhands · August 2015

The pain Is so worth it with the vaginal.. The minute you hold your baby you literally feel amazed you were able to get thru the experience.... And it's just something there are no words for....total relief... And happiness... Try not to think about pain now... In the grand scheme of things labor is just a minute of ur life..

djdawn29a · August 2015

Surgery vs natural.....natural all the way...after my dd, although painful, I could have done cartwheels...felt great....after 2 abdominal surgery, tubal ligation....then reversal, it was hella pain for 2 wks..I can't imagine being in that pain and having to care for a newborn right after...

mysquishy18 · August 2015

A c-section is major abdominal surgery. It seems quick and painless when thinking about it but the recovery is way worse. A vaginal delivery hurts, but that's what an epidural helps with, and the pain is generally only during labor. After that most are sore, but it's nothing like the c/s recovery pain. I agree with PP in that you need to do some research because, or at least talk to your doctor more in depth. GL!

cerafina205 · August 2015

Get an epidural asap. Takes away the pain of vaginal delivery. Doctor will only give c section of medically necessary. C sections are not all they are cracked up to be. Longer and more painful recovery. Major surgery. Why don't you Google some images of c sections. Do your research.

GAgirlinSDakota · August 2015

I've had 2 vaginal deliveries (first one at 19), and 2 C-sections (not by choice). I'd give anything to have a vaginal delivery again. C-section recovery sucks so much.

This video shows a good bit of what happens during a C-section. ***Not for the faint-hearted.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xWM6Ug8vME

cg0112358 · August 2015

I've had 2 c/s and just had my first vaginal birth 2 weeks ago. Yes, contractions can hurt but once I got the epidural it was completely painless. The recovery from my first c/s was absolutely hellish. Recovery from my 2nd was easier but nothing compared to this time. Even though I had an episiotomy, I feel almost normal 2 weeks later, with my c/s it took months.

delujm0 · August 2015

Take a birth class...I did, and after watching the video explaining how a c section actually works, I was praying to God that I'd never ever need to have one. I think they lost me somewhere around "and then we separate the abdominal muscles..."

My back labor was painful, but I didn't get an epidural until 6cm (long story). If I had gotten one earlier, it wouldn't have been so bad. Early labor just felt like menstrual cramps. Mostly it just makes you tired with all the pushing (I pushed for 2.5 hours). And honestly, if you plan to breastfeed, my breast/nipple pain in the first two weeks postpartum was 100 times worse than the stuff below the belt (aside from the first bowel movement after...but that was only a short amount of time at least). You'll have access to pain meds and stool softeners afterwards, and you'll be fine.

SummerFall03 · August 2015

navyblueladybug said:

Doctors usually won't perform a c-section unless it's medically necessary so you probably won't have a choice unless something goes wrong. Sorry

I had a planned c-section, and my next one is planned as well. It wasn't medically necessary, it was just the birth plan we chose.

Are you from the States? I live in Canada and I know a lot of people who plan a c-section with no issues. Maybe it's different from country to country?

My c-section went fantastic! The healing suck, I will admit that. But personally I had a wonderful experience and look forward to doing it again. I think the best advice I can give though, is don't get stuck on a specific way to deliver. Things happen, and sometimes it doesn't always go as planned. If for some reason I go into labor and have naturally, then I'll be happy with that. A friend of mine wanted a natural, and after a long labor, she opted for the c-section. She was sad at first, but doesn't regret a thing. In the end you just want to get that baby out as safe as possible.

redfallon · August 2015

My OB and the other doctors in her office will not do a C-section except for last resort, emergency type situation, especially for a FTM. I am in the U.S. and am very happy that is the way that they do things.

SummerFall03 · August 2015

If you want a c-section, there is no harm in asking your doctor or finding someone who will do it.

Edit: I have also heard people who have had natural vs c-section and I have heard people who prefer c-section. The pain is no walk in the park, but I think the pain and healing depends on a person. I would listen to the women who have experienced both, and maybe talk to them personally for advice?

amberrmariee20 · August 2015

LOL I was 18 when I delivered my son, he was 9.7 lbs... Your body is meant to deliver vaginally, I hope your dr has enough brain to make you deliver vaginally instead of pushing for a c section !

red727 · August 2015

Please do some research on this! C-sections have a ton of complication risks. To do a c-section because of fear of pain is just plain silly. A C-Section is MAJOR surgery! Think of the pain of recovery! You can get an epidural for pain. As far as the fear, you need to do some research on birth and realize what a natural process this is. Your body will know what to do so this isn't a process that you need to be so scared about.

WyardNo6 · August 2015

I have to have one as I have placenta previa & x4 previous c sections. I'd definitely recommend u have a natural birth if u can. You may have complications with your next pregnancy otherwise. Read up on acreta, pregnancy of scar etc as that's what I'm facing because of c sections. I had to have them because of complications I may even have to have a hysterectomy at birth, however I'd much rather have had natural delivery. I had x1 natural delivery of 8.5hrs with my angel baby & although it's taken years to move on through grief, physically I recovered very quickly so I'd go for a vaginal delivery if I was you. Xox

HellsAngel22 · August 2015

You've posted this twice now. Did the other woman that responsed to you the first time not give you good enough advice?

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

HellsAngel22 said:

You've posted this twice now. Did the other woman that responsed to you the first time not give you good enough advice?

I clicked on her name to go look at the other and it says User Not Found. Interesting.

Litterateur · August 2015

DrillSergeantCat said:

HellsAngel22 said:

You've posted this twice now. Did the other woman that responsed to you the first time not give you good enough advice?

I clicked on her name to go look at the other and it says User Not Found. Interesting.

It's the plus sign in her SN. It causes issues. We had a girl on TTGP with an ampersand that did the same thing.

DutchLucyLu · August 2015

groovylocks said:

Learn about the risks and potential recovery issues with C-sections. Not trying to discourage you but just... do your research. That's all i'm going to say. The details of a c-section are quite sobering. STARTING with the fact that you're often awake and conscious while they operate on you. they will rarely give anesthetic. It's not unheard of but it's not elective either. So you need to begin by thinking that you will unlikely be unconscious during MAJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY. They numb you locally.

'Numbing locally' is still giving anesthetics. Please don't go around saying scary things like 'they will rarely give anesthetic'. That just gives me all kinds of medieval torture images. Epidurals etc. are still anesthetics and you will definitely be given sufficient pain relief. (I'm sorry, but my hubby does anesthetics for a living and I just had to set the record straight.)

As for OP, I have to echo PPs - don't underestimate how big a deal a C-section actually is. The birth canal is called the birth canal for a reason, and even though the incision they make is relatively small, they have to cut through all kinds of things to get the baby out via a section. It's normal to be a bit nervous about giving birth, but I'm sure you'll be able to cope.

Edited because I can't spell.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · August 2015

I am lurking, but I've had a c-section too so I wanted to add a few things.

OP: Go for a vaginal birth, not that you always have a choice. Get an epidural and you won't feel much. I've had a C-section and I am going to try for VBAC on #2 so that should tell you something about how preferable a C-section is.

@groovylocks: Where do you get that no anesthetic is given? I can assure you I was completely numb and didn't feel a thing during my C-section. Know who was at my head the entire time monitoring me? An anesthesiologist.

KittyCat84 - I don't know where you got that information about digestion. I have never heard it before and my digestion was not messed up for "weeks" after my C-section. They do ask you to tell you when you pass gas the first time but seriously, my digestion was fine post C-section.

HellsAngel22 · August 2015

DrillSergeantCat said:

HellsAngel22 said:

You've posted this twice now. Did the other woman that responsed to you the first time not give you good enough advice?

I clicked on her name to go look at the other and it says User Not Found. Interesting.

Hmmm very interesting indeed

redfallon · August 2015

Found the other post on 3rd tri with a Google search:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12618161/delivery-issue#latest

SummerFall03 · August 2015

CherylAnn789 said:

I am lurking, but I've had a c-section too so I wanted to add a few things.

OP: Go for a vaginal birth, not that you always have a choice. Get an epidural and you won't feel much. I've had a C-section and I am going to try for VBAC on #2 so that should tell you something about how preferable a C-section is.

@groovylocks: Where do you get that no anesthetic is given? I can assure you I was completely numb and didn't feel a thing during my C-section. Know who was at my head the entire time monitoring me? An anesthesiologist.

KittyCat84 - I don't know where you got that information about digestion. I have never heard it before and my digestion was not messed up for "weeks" after my C-section. They do ask you to tell you when you pass gas the first time but seriously, my digestion was fine post C-section.

I had awful gas pains after my c-section, but that was because I wasn't passing gas as often (due to so many visitors). Everything else was fine with digestion at least.

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