February 2016 Moms

Tips to feel pretty

So I have found out that I am a really emotional pregger, which is totally opposite to my personality pre-pregnancy. I have already broke down in kohls because I did not look good in clothes that I thought were so cute on the hanger, and then not being able to fit in the size that I was before. I broke down to the point of sitting on the floor crying while my SO sat next to me holding me. yeah, yeah, I was that crazy lady. 
I do not feel pretty at all, or comfortable in anything at all... 
So I feel like we should start something to give tips on what could make other moms feel pretty or comfortable in their body when they are having a hard time, or just having a bad day. 
If this is not a big deal to other moms out there sorry for bringing it up but I feel like I am not the only one out there ! 

I hope everyone has a happy and healthy pregnancy ! 

Re: Tips to feel pretty

  • I had a similar experience at home today. Nothing fit, I couldn't find my comfy pants and I lost my marbles. I broke a hanger in anger. What helped me was having a nice long bath. I still feel extremely uncomfortable, but I think this is temporary.
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  • I have been feeling this way too. I can still fit in my jeans but they are uncomfortable to me. I also dislike fixing my hair unless it if for church on Sundays. Every other day it is in a pony tail, and no makeup. Just dont feel like me.... 

    I did however take a long bath last night and that somewhat helped.
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  • For me it was actually finding the energy to put on make up and accessorize myself for a wedding. I realized afterwards that I haven't worn make-up in over two years (except for my wedding) and absolutely never take the time to put on the pretty jewelry I have or anything to really take care of myself. I need to do more me stuff even if that means getting up a tad earlier so I have time to actually feel like I put effort into me.

    Oh and getting hair done or nails - not always the expensive way but just taking the time to paint your own, basically spending time on yourself helps me.
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  • Kirsh42Kirsh42 member
    edited August 2015
    I put earrings in last night before we left for a car meet, ( we go to a parking lot with our vehicles and hang out with friends who are also car people and relax ) & it was the first time I had earrings in since I found out because the backs of the earrings started to make me mad when I was sleeping, at the beginning of my pregnancy. But doing this made me feel a little more myself. 

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  • I totally understand the clothes thing. I have had a few of those meltdowns too. This time I am trying to be proactive and just realize I'm getting bigger and I need clothes. I already have some maternity clothes from my first pregnancy but I still am buying some cute bigger tanks from target, shorts, cute necklace etc to spruce up my look as I'm out and about. I usually wait till I get home to try them on too. What I'm trying to say is we have to accept we are getting bigger and try and find some cute comfy clothes that will make you feel good/ pretty before you feel like you have nothing to wear. Hope this helps.
  • Today is the first day that I woke up, did my hair and put on some makeup (eyeliner and mascara). That in itself makes me feel a little prettier. I haven't had the clothing issues yet, everything prepregnancy still fits with no issues, but as soon as I start feeling constricted I'll be switching to boots and dresses.

     
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  • I second @sheslikeasunburn
    We're growing tiny humans. It's a badass feeling! (Not in the sick, dizzy sense) but the fact that our bodies are capable of doing this. Whenever I feel BLEGHHHHHHH about my appearance I think about THAT.
    Side note: whenever I get a pedicure I feel like I can run the world. So if all else fails, try that :)
  • I'm so proud of myself for actually putting on eyeliner and mascara today, too. I just haven't been able to care about it until now. I told my SO the other day that I just felt fat and not pregnant and he reminded me (as he does every time I complain about my belly or whatnot) that I'm pregnant and he still thinks I'm beautiful. 

    Definitely go buy yourself a cute maternity outfit or new makeup or whatever you do to help you feel pretty.

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  • wisco29 said:

    Maternity clothes vs regular clothes help to make your growing stomach look like a bump and not blump

    Doing something healthy for yourself like going for a nice long walk helps me feel refreshed.
    Getting a hair cut or buying one small new thing like a new mascara to try out. Get yourself your favorite drink from Starbucks...

    It's the small things when you're a mom already.

    Wss! Regular clothes makes me feel so depressed. That's why I start wearing maternity clothes early on. Plus, I can pick out cute clothes and they make me feel better as well.

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  • I second many of the suggestions here.  I have felt the most beautiful when I fully embrace what is happening with my body and go with the flow.  Get a few maternity outfits and rock whatever bump/blump situation is going on in there.  Take the extra moment to put on earrings or perfume.  I painted my nails for the first time in several months the other day, and I get a little mood boost every time I look at them.  Most of our time and energy has been about growing these babies and preparing our lives for them, so we need to work in a bit of extra time for getting back to our normal selves once in a while.
  • edited August 2015
    I had a breakdown in a Target dressing room while bathing suit shopping (Tip: don't do it). After that I decided that this weekend I wasn't doing anything I didn't want to do. I woke up on Saturday and I went for a nice long walk on my favorite trail by my house, came home and didn't touch the dishes in the sink and just played with my dogs. Definitely helped with my outlook this weekend. Made me tolerable to be around people yesterday (usually very introverted and tend to stay home) for our neighborhood potluck.

    ETA: it didn't help me feel "pretty" per se, but it did give me the energy to attempt to look nice (put on makeup for the BBQ) which I felt human after I put it on.
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  • I had a total sobfest yesterday morning and afterward my eyes were swollen red and I looked awful! But I put on some pink lipstick and it kinda balanced things out, haha. Then I went for a run and ran out my anger.

    I've felt pretty gross and fat lately, I know it's just my body changing for baby but it's really hard to accept. The number on the scale is higher than it's been in over 5 years. I'm just trying to feel good by focusing on things other than my body. I bought a new perfume which I am in love with, and got my nails done the other day. It really helped.

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  • Something that helped me pre-pregnancy was little post its of positive affirmations. Just reminding myself of the positive instead of dwelling on any negatives. And remember, pregnancy is only temporary :)
  • I agree with others who have suggested getting a few good maternity outfits, and will add that buying a few that actually show off your bump/blump instead of hiding it is even better, because then you'll feel like you've clearly made the distinction for people between looking fat and looking pregnant.  I'm fatting out of most of my pants and jeans at this point, which is depressing, but pretty soon, we will all look undeniably pregnant and hopefully feel less like we just look fat.

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  • I agree with others who have suggested getting a few good maternity outfits, and will add that buying a few that actually show off your bump/blump instead of hiding it is even better, because then you'll feel like you've clearly made the distinction for people between looking fat and looking pregnant.  I'm fatting out of most of my pants and jeans at this point, which is depressing, but pretty soon, we will all look undeniably pregnant and hopefully feel less like we just look fat.


    Totally! I got two cute maternity workout tanks- one says "Training for two" and the other "Running for two". I wore one to the gym yesterday and felt so much cuter working out! I felt like it justified my growing belly and that others would know I'm pregnant instead of just chunky. So worth it.

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  • I agree with a lot of the suggestions here. I read a really awesome article about how beautiful it is to grow a baby in our wombs.

    I sing this song (in my head sometimes) and it helps. Lol

    https://youtu.be/L7BQRGXFLJs
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    edited August 2015




    author by Michele Zipp on July 16, 2015


    The Important Thing You Won't Want to Do During Pregnancy But Should


    When I was pregnant with my twins, I felt like magic. I was able to make life. And I was nurturing those lives in my very own body. I don't think we give ourselves enough credit for that. Pregnancy -- even with its morning sickness, swollen ankles and growing feet -- is a beautiful time, a magical time, a time we should be in awe of ourselves and our ability. We cannot take this ability for granted. We possess a power and a strength unlike anything else -- we have a skill belonging only to our bodies. And because of that, pregnancy is a time to celebrate ... and take a lot of photos.

    I know what some of you are thinking: Photos? At a time when my entire body and even my nose is growing?! (Did your nose expand? Mine sure did -- a lot, especially during the third trimester. Thankfully, it nearly returned to its previous size after I gave birth.) But yes, photos. Lots of them.

    Photos of your growing belly and your growing nose. Photos of you smiling even though your feet are swollen and feel like sausages stuffed into those shoes. Photos of you in that once billowy top now perfectly fitted around your expansive and elegant belly. Photos for posterity. For memories. So you can see all the beauty that was you during this very magical time in your life. Photos even when you feel not so magical -- because I guarantee that when you look back on this time -- when your child is 2 or 6 or 15 years old -- you will only see the beauty. You'll even see the beauty in your swollen nose and toes. You will see you... and your child who hasn't yet made an entrance into the outside world... and you will see the magic surrounding you.

    I gained nearly 60 pounds during my twin pregnancy. Every pound was beautiful. My body didn't feel like "my body" anymore. It was different. Bigger. Amazing. I was a home. A home to my two children growing inside of me. I relished that feeling, that time. I didn't mind my ever expanding belly; I loved it. It was me at my most beautiful.

    It was also months and months of me not having to worry about love handles or wearing tight dresses and worrying that I ate too many cheeseburgers. (Also burritos and pastas with butter and peas -- the only foods that agreed with me during my worst bouts of nausea. Oh ... and a lot of chocolate chip cookies. I think that's why my son has such a sweet tooth.) Things I thankfully don't worry about so much anymore. I learned priorities. I learned a deeper love I didn't know existed. I learned that I felt beautiful because I was a creator, bringing these lives into the world who would teach me as much if not more than I would teach them. I was gestating and birthing pure love.


    Pregnancy made me realize how much love I had for my body -- no matter what size it was. Pregnancy made me realize my magic, my superpower, the ability to create and grow little beings. That ability -- our power, that beauty -- shines through the photos. Take more. And remember that beauty and your magical powers when in labor and giving birth. Have faith in your unique abilities. Feeling that beauty and our power can carry us through into challenges we face during motherhood, too.

    We can do anything -- we created life.


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  • jaimeruns said:
    I agree with others who have suggested getting a few good maternity outfits, and will add that buying a few that actually show off your bump/blump instead of hiding it is even better, because then you'll feel like you've clearly made the distinction for people between looking fat and looking pregnant.  I'm fatting out of most of my pants and jeans at this point, which is depressing, but pretty soon, we will all look undeniably pregnant and hopefully feel less like we just look fat.

    Totally! I got two cute maternity workout tanks- one says "Training for two" and the other "Running for two". I wore one to the gym yesterday and felt so much cuter working out! I felt like it justified my growing belly and that others would know I'm pregnant instead of just chunky. So worth it.

    Where did you find the workout clothes?? I love love love that idea.  I have been slacking on going to the gym because I don't have any maternity outfits and regular gym clothes are pretty tight and just make me look fat, so I feel like I'm just being judged.

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  • All of my clothes make me so angry because nothing fits the way I want to. I feel fat and gross all the time, and I just hate getting dressed for work. Something that makes me feel better is wearing some fancy shoes I know I won't get to wear my sky-high shoes for long, so I'm trying to now and act like I'm on a runway when I wear them. It makes me feel better :)
  • I try to leave myself a decent amount of time to get ready so I'm not throwing on clothes that don't fit on my way out the door and then having a meltdown because I look awful. If I actually take my time to pick something that I can wear during this awkward in between stage, it usually works out okay.
  • @acuteangles that's exactly how I felt! I just thought everyone was looking at me and wondering why I was gaining weight. I got them from For Two Fitness. They're super comfy and look really cute! Wore one last night :)

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  • jaimeruns said:

    @acuteangles that's exactly how I felt! I just thought everyone was looking at me and wondering why I was gaining weight. I got them from For Two Fitness. They're super comfy and look really cute! Wore one last night :)

    https://fortwofitness.com/


    Thank you!

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  • I think taking a good shower, doing my hair and make up, and pampering myself a bit with lotions etc. really helps me feel girly and pretty.
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  • ShatzegirlShatzegirl member
    edited August 2015
    I can empathize with what you're feeling. Reminding myself of the miracle I'm growing and that this is only temporary helps. That and having my finger & toenails painted. :) Mascara and some lipgloss also helps.
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  • The fact that I'm growing a miracle helps me feel better when I haven't done any household chores, showered, or gotten on actual clothes in 2 days or more depending how I feel.

    Then when I actually get dressed, do my hair a little and put on maternity clothes I feel way better.

    I have to say the full belly bands on maternity clothes is so amazing compared to the ones with just a little elastic. Why didn't someone tell me to get those with dd? I just wore my regular pants and rolled the front down while being miserable or wore tight on my bump yoga pants. Loving my maternity clothes!!!
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