Mean Girls

blairdavis99 · August 2015

(You know who you are). Could you please skip the snark for those of us who are actually trying to use this site for a positive resource to ask questions? If you don't have anything nice to say or don't like the thread, skip it. There is a way to disagree respectfully and a way to just be snarky and rude. The latter is not welcome here.

borntorun17 · August 2015

Put on your big girl pants. People are entitled to opinions that differ from yours.

blairdavis99 · August 2015

@dm28 - big girl pants are on; hoping for some big girl conversation. Offer an opinion instead of pure snark & you're golden in my book.

borntorun17 · August 2015

blairdavis99 said:
@dm28 - big girl pants are on; hoping for some big girl conversation. Offer an opinion instead of pure snark & you're golden in my book.

To what are you referring? THere's nothing wrong with tough love - not everyone has a sunshine and butterflies way of conversing lol

Knottie76365376 · August 2015

@blairdavis99

I get what you are saying! It's one thing to post opposing opinions- that's what I come on here for. It's another thing to criticize people for their posts.

Buckles0528 · August 2015

Here we go again...... You do realize the very title of your thread is kind of mean girl yourself? Its the internet. It goes both ways. Don't like it, don't read it. Why would you purposely start a fight with a thread calling names?

gtellier · August 2015

I usually steer clear of threads like this, but I'm glad something was said. Yes everyone is entitled to their opinions, whether they like it or not, I'm ok with that. But when a comment is made that an "adequate mother" would do something differently than another, that bothers me. So every other mom that did something different is inadequate?!?! Nobody has the right to make judgment on our parenting decisions- opinions are great, but to call someone inadequate "indirectly" is just unnecessary.

blairdavis99 · August 2015

@gtellier - thank you. I usually steer clear of these threads, too. And I really didn't want to start this one either but I felt something needed to be said. This isn't a response to any of my posts either - just observed on others' posts lately. As @Knottie76365376 said - opposing opinions are part of what people come on here for & I welcome them, too. There is just a much more respectful way to do it without the personal attacks.

borntorun17 · August 2015

Let me rephrase- every adequate parent I've ever met knows better than to give a 3 month old water. I'm sorry, but it's pretty dumb to say "I know doctors say this is bad but in giving my kid water dammit"!

And let's my forget about the mom who says her 15 week old said "mama". Did anyone actually believe that?!?

Or how about the countless posts about husbands and baby daddy's sleeping till noon, not changing diapers, or caring for their infants AT ALL.

And the idiots who wont vaccinate because google told them not to.

Or the genius who fed a 4 week old rice cereal and said it was fine bc her mom did it and she lived.

None of this struck a cord with anyone else? Because to me, all those posts are crying for someone to intervene. But since I have a hard time sugar coating a reaction to such posts, I'm out. Good luck

DMEL · August 2015

Some people are just mean, I try to ignore them. Just like I try to ignore any posts that cause me to eye roll.
Let's all try not to name call, though

marms1987 · August 2015

It's been a never ending battle here!! Some people feel the need to have something to say about everybody's lives, I think it's a way to make themselves feel like they are perfect and would never do anything wrong! While I do not give my lo water or cereal or whatever, I don't judge another mom, as what she does concerns her and her lo only! Also, I bet you that 10 years down the road the next generation will be horrified by our practices because of new research, and we will find that some of what our drs said was ok is actually not! Even medical professionals disagree on some issues, so sometimes you have to take what they say with a grain of salt! Post whatever you want here, just avoid the words: vaccine, water, cereal and CIO.

Knottie76365376 · August 2015

I feel like this thread calls for a quote. So, just for fun, here is one:

"If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard on each other because we're using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency."

-Brene Brown

ashleyandely · August 2015

It's the Internet, all are welcome here.

khaleesi123 · August 2015

I've been on here since finding out I was pregnant and do you know how many 'mean girls' posts I've seen on here since then? They are constantly ignored, it's the internet you can tell people to be nice but people are going to write what they want to write and sometimes some mothers get concerned for other mothers if they are posting about doing things they aren't supposed to with their LOs.. That's life everyone's different and coming on a forum you will see the different opposing opinions no matter what. Best thing is to ignore it if you don't like it.

essiexo698 · August 2015

dm28 said:
Let me rephrase- every adequate parent I've ever met knows better than to give a 3 month old water. I'm sorry, but it's pretty dumb to say "I know doctors say this is bad but in giving my kid water dammit"!

And let's my forget about the mom who says her 15 week old said "mama". Did anyone actually believe that?!?

Or how about the countless posts about husbands and baby daddy's sleeping till noon, not changing diapers, or caring for their infants AT ALL.

And the idiots who wont vaccinate because google told them not to.

Or the genius who fed a 4 week old rice cereal and said it was fine bc her mom did it and she lived.

None of this struck a cord with anyone else? Because to me, all those posts are crying for someone to intervene. But since I have a hard time sugar coating a reaction to such posts, I'm out. Good luck

For some people giving water makes sense to them, not me personally, but my mother did it and believes in it during the summer when it's hot. I asked her not to give my DD any, but I respect her parenting she has done.

My DD has repeated my sounds at 12-13 weeks, granted is was mmmmmhmm but still I thought it was awesome. So good for that mother & child, that's exciting! I would love to hear my LO say that. Maybe if I repeat it enough.....

Sometimes you snap and want to vent about your SO, so who better to vent to than new mothers who may be in the same boat. My SO sometimes gets on my last nerve and I feel like he does nothing, then I look around to a cooked meal and sleeping baby. We have our moments where everything seems like we are alone. At least I know I do. A simple "PREACH!" From another mother might make my day better or not feel insane.

Vaccination is a choice. Sometimes it's religious, cultural, etc. if they believe that's best, let them. Nothing you say can change their mind, even if it does seem most logical to vaccinate. It isn't to everyone, it sucks it's come under fire and I am fearful for my DD and what that means but I can not stop any parents choices.

Formula brands put rice in formula and doctors recommend it for some babies, and some do think cereal keeps them full longer to sleep longer and that it's fine to do. Again it's their choice.

None of those stuck a chord with me because I am not them. I can exit the app and say "to each their own".

My LO will still drink her formula on the way to get her shots. Another mother's post doesn't take that much energy away from me.

odawg · August 2015

Oh dear! Please also remember in the Internet tat some things can just be read wrong or out of context! I know I have pissed my husband off more than once in a text when my text was a total joke.... (seriously I never mean to offend anyone if I ever did!...)
However if it is harmful to a child I would say something no matter if I am mean about it. For example when people post on FB on their kids toppled over sleeping in those stupid booster seats (ya know like bent at the waist) I say something. A small car wreck would kill a child in that position. Not as important as do our infants eat cereal.....pick your fights and make them worth it. Some people seriously dont know they have put their child in danger.

J_Meehan · August 2015

can we all grow up? Thanks for the chuckle this morning....

mars8k · August 2015

@dm28 i have it on video, she didn't call out to me she was just making sounds, why the hell would i lie about that on the internet? The bump app says that at 15 weeks babies could make "muh-muh & buh-buh" sounds, my daughter didn't do something supernatural she mumbled 1 of the sounds she's expected to at her age.

I welcome all opinions, i have disagreed to my fair share of threads here but i make it a point not to be sarcastic, judgmental or rude, if i find myself incapable of that, i skip the thread.

If you're stating an opinion out of the goodness of your heart because you're fearful of some harm that could come to a child rest assured that being sarcastic, rude or judgemental wont convince that mother to accept your opinion no matter how right you are.

Sammadden27 · September 2015

Oh ladies this is nothing. My son was due in June so I was part of that group throughout my pregnancy till I had my son 4 weeks early. Talk about mean girls.
But I definitely hear us on the mean girl thing either way!

kremerj1 · September 2015

dm28 said:
Let me rephrase- every adequate parent I've ever met knows better than to give a 3 month old water. I'm sorry, but it's pretty dumb to say "I know doctors say this is bad but in giving my kid water dammit"!

And let's my forget about the mom who says her 15 week old said "mama". Did anyone actually believe that?!?

Or how about the countless posts about husbands and baby daddy's sleeping till noon, not changing diapers, or caring for their infants AT ALL.

And the idiots who wont vaccinate because google told them not to.

Or the genius who fed a 4 week old rice cereal and said it was fine bc her mom did it and she lived.

None of this struck a cord with anyone else? Because to me, all those posts are crying for someone to intervene. But since I have a hard time sugar coating a reaction to such posts, I'm out. Good luck

Yes! These people do make me shake my head! One of the things I've learned since becoming a parent is that people are going to do what they want. They will listen to who they want and most of the time it's not you, no matter how good your intentions are or how qualified you are. How do all these people have time to look on here and get into arguments? I look maybe once a week!

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