Greetings,
I have an issue. I'm a nurse, and when I call off it creates a huge hardship for my fellow nurses. They have to pick up more patients, and the night goes shittier for them. I've been there, and I totally get it. This cycle, I've done IUI with femara and gonal f. I work night shift, and am told my IUI, based on three mature follies, should occur on Saturday. I work Friday night too. If I work Friday, I leave for a procedure (weekend procedures) two hours away (round trip plus IUI 6-7 hours). I can't do the Saturday night shift, or I'll make a horrible mistake or fall asleep. Neither is helpful to myself, or my patients.
My problem is, my family seems to believe that I can do it all. It feels like shit. Apparently I don't have to sleep. And makes me sick some say cancel the IUI because of work. I personally, find that insane, after over $2,000 has been spent, and daily injections.
Infertility sucks. I wish everyone knew (my family) an ounce of what I've been through. It's not the worst thing in life to go through, but I don't relish it. To imply work is more important that following through with planned cycles makes me sad.
Am I in the minority? Or do people try to plan their stims around plans/work?
*Edited because of coherent thoughts
Re: Work versus infertility.
Don't try to be super woman! You need to be as relaxed as possible. Know when you need a break and don't feel bad for taking it. Happy mom, happy baby. Good luck!
During this process you need to put yourself in the least stressful environment. And if work is gonna stress you out you need to really consider taking the time off.
First, a work from home nursing gig would be extremely limited right? So let's look at the realities. For instance, I LOVE my job and want to be at work. I also happen to make more and have better insurance than my DH due to my academic success, negotiating skills and most importantly, my near to advanced maternal age... Lol.
But I definitely second what was said above--it is not ok to be outed at work while keeping families and friends in the dark during what is an intensely private and often painful experience. Also--yes it is illegal, but knowing an employee is even trying to get pregnant can create disadvantages for the employee.
All of the suggestions above are great, but for each unique situation and personality. My suggestion--demand better. Make the RE work with you as much as possible. Explain your situation and that you are a caregiver. Can the bloodwork or monitoring be done at a closer lab? While there are some realities with your cycle that you won't be able to escape such as a sleepless night or your DH driving while you sleep, there are things you can and should be asking for to make this work for you.
Would you buy a car and let the dealership decide the year make model color and features? Go ahead and ask and see what they can offer in terms of solutions. And don't stress too much about stressing. There is no stress free path through this experience, but we will conceive regardless. GL on your journey and I hope it works quickly for you and with the least possible disruption!
Me 39 DH44
1st DE FET 5/16-BFN
2nd DE FET 7/18-BFP
8/17 Baby HR 140/min EDD 4/6/17
I feel for you. Just remind your cohorts that it's only temporary and offer to return the favor when you're in a position to do so. You're not right now.
P.S. I got OHSS during my stim cycle and had to spend a couple days out because I was so nauseous and in so much pain. The only reason I didn't come back to a ton of questions was because another guy on my team was hospitalized for chest pains.