September 2015 Moms

STM or TTM?

Hey Ladies--

I am looking for some advice or support here from other moms. I have a 2.5 year old who goes to daycare full-time (I am a working mom) but my husband is taking a new job and will start traveling M-Th mid-october. I'm due on 9/9. I am just wondering if anyone is in the situation or has tips about how to do this newborn thing on my own with a toddler. I know people do it but it just feels really impossible right now.

Advice welcome!

Re: STM or TTM?

  • Will you still be sending the 2.5 year old to day care while you're on maternity leave?
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  • New to me too, but I will be sending my son to daycare one day a week just to have a day for chores, cooking, etc

     

  • I'm off work til baby comes, and will have a year off. I took my 2.5yo out of daycare to save money. I've got her in a good routine now, using a lot of the structure of her montessori preschool. She's pretty independent (potty trained, cleans up her own toys and spills, can fix her own snack), so I'm hoping that'll help me to deal with 2. DH works away when he works (pilot) so we have my MIL coming to help for a couple weeks, then I'll be on my own a lot. I'm planning to babywear lots to keep up with the house, and pray the toddler keeps up her long afternoon naps :)
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  • You will do wonderful! My DH worked stupid hours and he to sleep when we were awake so I pretty much was a single mom during the week...my best advice is to baby wear and not stress too much about cleaning...thank god for delivery! And also have your older baby help as much as possible with a ton of rewards! Plan for meltdowns...from you and both kids at the same minutes but it will pass and you will feel like the amazing mommy you know you already are!
  • I sent my 3 year old son to daycare a couple days a week while my husband worked...it was a lifesaver for me because I was trying to recover from a c section and wasn't able to play with my son as much as he needed.
  • My first 2 were 15 months apart and dh had weekends off but that was it. You just kind of get into a routine and go with it. When baby napped, I did a lot of stuff with my #1 to make her feel like it was her time. I never got naps unless they both napped, which was rare. I cleaned when I could but didn't stress.

    Now I'm having #6 & dh works even longer hours but I have an 11 & 10 year old that are great helpers and I baby wear a lot. I homeschool so we will just take breaks as needed and push through. It won't be so hard in beginning because baby will sleep most of the time. You will do fine.
  • The infant stage is not bad. Babies sleep a lot. I had an 18 month old when my twins were born and I worked mostly from home (with the kids) the first couple of months. I kept a box of special toys for my oldest that was only used when I had to feed the babies. Honestly I thought it got way more challenging later on with multiple toddlers/preschoolers/big kids. We are in the worst stage yet (newly 12 and two 10.5 year olds), they are know it all, surly Tweens who put up fights about just about everything, and the constant bickering!!!

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  • Thanks ladies. I will be sending my oldest to daycare. I am most concerned about sleep, I remember being so tired my entire body hurt with my first. Sleep deprivation is real :) I guess my main concern is being on my own with both in the evenings but I will get through it, as you all say, find a routine. 

    sarahjensen33 I will also be recovering from a c-section so that adds to my concern but DH will not be starting the new job and traveling until October. I should be doing much better by that time.
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