How do I hide this until after my wedding?!

Seoul2Soul · August 2015

I'm 5 weeks along and due in April. My last 'baby' is 13 years old! My fiancée and I are getting married in November and managed to get pregnant while using condoms. We are super excited but want to hide this until after the wedding, only because his mother is already stressed and his sister is getting married in October! We have a full plate of events. I'll be 19 weeks when we get married and have ordered a belly bandit to keep the bulge at bay. We live in Texas and the family lives in Iowa so we are safe from prying eyes until my sister in laws wedding. Any ideas on how to hide this?

mrstrax · August 2015

Better have a dress that hides the bump with ruffles or rooshing (sp?). Anything smooth over the stomach will show what will likely be a definite bump by 19 weeks.

You may also want to think about how to deal with the alcohol situation at both weddings, and especially for bachelorette type parties.

MorgansMommy1 · August 2015

I would be more worried at the fact that you probably won't fit into your bridesmaid dress AND your Bridal Gown you orders months ago...

TheBorg7of9 · August 2015

Don't wear anything that will constrict your baby's growth. By 20 weeks you'll be showing most likely. I think you'll just have to accept that.

BostonBaby1 · August 2015

*lurking here

Even if you're extremely petite and if you were a FTM... You could still easily be showing at close to 20 weeks. If you are extremely obese, you have a chance of hiding the pregnancy. If you don't want to look pregnant at your wedding, I would suggest that you move the wedding up. It may be a lot of work, but if you don't want to show at your wedding, I really don't see that you're going to have another option other than to move the date of your wedding much sooner.

Seoul2Soul · August 2015

Thankfully, I'm not a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding and my dress is a ball gown so it hides my middle! No alcohol at either wedding so that is also not a concern. I guess I'll just go with it! Can't wait until the day after to release my tummy and announce the news:)

TheBorg7of9 · August 2015

Seoul2Soul said:
Thankfully, I'm not a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding and my dress is a ball gown so it hides my middle! No alcohol at either wedding so that is also not a concern. I guess I'll just go with it! Can't wait until the day after to release my tummy and announce the news:)

Im serious that you shouldn't constrict your belly too much. Please talk to your doctor

Seoul2Soul · August 2015

I won't! I only planned on wearing the band on my wedding day and DR has already cleared it provided it's brief and I'm not too big by then.

emslade982 · August 2015

TheBorg7of9 said:

Seoul2Soul said:
Thankfully, I'm not a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding and my dress is a ball gown so it hides my middle! No alcohol at either wedding so that is also not a concern. I guess I'll just go with it! Can't wait until the day after to release my tummy and announce the news:)
Im serious that you shouldn't constrict your belly too much. Please talk to your doctor

You won't be able to hide it for that long, and if you wear corset-like get ups to try and hide it at the very least you will be very uncomfortable and possibly restrict blood flow to your growing baby. I'm still confused as to why you want to wait to announce......

BostonBaby1 · August 2015

Seoul2Soul said:
Thankfully, I'm not a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding and my dress is a ball gown so it hides my middle! No alcohol at either wedding so that is also not a concern. I guess I'll just go with it! Can't wait until the day after to release my tummy and announce the news:)

Even with a ballgown, you're going to have a hard time fitting anything corseted around a 20 week baby bump. You might want to talk to the people that you ordered your dress from and see if you can order a larger size or two

Seoul2Soul · August 2015

Ok. My SIL really freaked out when we announces our engagement. She told her brother, my fiancée, that it was ruining her wedding. I get it, she's a bride and wants the spotlight. We didn't talk about our plans just to appease her. Now with the baby, I can see more havoc. My fiancé says we can't hold news in out of fearfear of her, but I hate conflict. Plus my 65 yo MIL is so stressed about these two weddings already. I can't add to that stress so I thought it would be best to hold off until after. I'm trying to keep peace here!

emslade982 · August 2015

I would announce it before your wedding. this way people will focus on you as a bride and then your SIL as a bride. If you wait all everyone will be taking about at her wedding is your pregnancy. Just my opinion with be limited details I have ....

TheBorg7of9 · August 2015

Seoul2Soul said:
Ok. My SIL really freaked out when we announces our engagement. She told her brother, my fiancée, that it was ruining her wedding. I get it, she's a bride and wants the spotlight. We didn't talk about our plans just to appease her. Now with the baby, I can see more havoc. My fiancé says we can't hold news in out of fearfear of her, but I hate conflict. Plus my 65 yo MIL is so stressed about these two weddings already. I can't add to that stress so I thought it would be best to hold off until after. I'm trying to keep peace here!

The fact is that you're pregnant. Your SIL will just have have to deal. What's done is done. I would just admit it. I'm not really sure how this affects her at all.

PeggyOlsonFTW · August 2015

I'd announce in September before your SIL's wedding. That way people will have time to digest the information before both of your weddings. And if anyone tries to make her day about you, you can politely thank them and turn the attention back to your SIL.

And why would a pregnancy stress your MIL more? Wouldn't it relieve some stress and make her happy?

Seoul2Soul · August 2015

Great replies and advice guys! After talking with you guys, I think we may announce it before my wedding. The stress isn't good for me anyway. I wouldn't think my sil would have any reason to be upset but with her reaction to our wedding, I wouldn't be surprised. My intentions are good so we're going for it. Thanks to all!!

TheBorg7of9 · August 2015

Seoul2Soul said:
Great replies and advice guys! After talking with you guys, I think we may announce it before my wedding. The stress isn't good for me anyway. I wouldn't think my sil would have any reason to be upset but with her reaction to our wedding, I wouldn't be surprised. My intentions are good so we're going for it. Thanks to all!!

Good! I definitely don't think you need the extra stress. You'll be much happier this way.

jsassy · August 2015

Seoul2Soul said:
Great replies and advice guys! After talking with you guys, I think we may announce it before my wedding. The stress isn't good for me anyway. I wouldn't think my sil would have any reason to be upset but with her reaction to our wedding, I wouldn't be surprised. My intentions are good so we're going for it. Thanks to all!!

That's great. I think you should embrace the pregnancy and be proud of it by the time your wedding comes. You likely won't be fooling anyone so just own it! Everyone should be extra happy for you.

mybigfatgreekfetus · August 2015

Announce it! Your pregnancy is a good thing! I'm sure your family will feel the same!

campbaby76 · August 2015

This was my exact situation when I had my 4.5 year old in April 11. I got pregnant Aug 1st, ds was due April 23. We got married on Nov 27th. I told people so I wasn't worried about hiding it but I didn't really look pregnant in my photos. I'm very tall and was a little heavy but I didn't actually look pregnant until January. Good luck!!!

Shrmoss01 · August 2015

Well, I was a pregnant bride and by 20 weeks I hate to tell you but it will probably be obvious. My best advice is to just go with it. I had a form fitting dress and worked my bump. Granted I was 27 weeks. I will post a picture for you but if my bump wouldn't have given it away I can tell you the boobs would have let anyone know. I wore a dress that was not form-fitting for my rehearsal and you couldn't tell as bad but from the side you just can't hide it...

Shrmoss01 · August 2015

I was petite most of my pregnancy too. But it all depends on how you carry too!

emslade982 · August 2015

Good for you @Seoul2Soul ! It's such an exciting event I'm glad you're embracing it. Let us know how it goes please!

amaniupendo · August 2015

I could've hidden a 20-week bump in my first pregnancy. Do whatever you want.

neve26 · August 2015

@Seoul2Soul we had an in law who was as highly stressed and as spot light hogging as your sil sounds. Listen go with the flow. No one knows what size you'll be and so long as your comfortable and your happy that's really all that matters. You will make yourselves miserable trying to please others. That ruined my sisters wedding day and your putting so much effort into it why would you want it spoiled? Slow it down. Do your thing. Feel good. That's all that matters really

Seoul2Soul · August 2015

Update!
We told the parents and they are happy and say a child is always a blessing. They did however suggest we not say anything to the rest of the family until after the wedding. Like me, they want everyone to focus on the two weddings coming up and not on the baby. All in all, I'm glad I was talked into telling them now!

tennisbabymama · August 2015

TheBorg7of9 said:
Don't wear anything that will constrict your baby's growth. By 20 weeks you'll be showing most likely. I think you'll just have to accept that.

Agreed

cchild101010 · August 2015

Obviously everyone is different, but a lot of people didn't know I was pregnant with my first at 20 weeks. The make maternity spanx - I wore them frequently for various events. Being very careful about what you eat and putting weight on will help hide but I know that's SUPER hard when you're trying to find foods that settle your stomach. Glad telling the parents went well

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