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A c-section is NOT the easy way out!!!!!

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in September 2015 Moms
I am due to give birth via repeat cesarean and if I get told one more time I'm lucky or I'm taking the "easy way out" I'm going to hibernate for the rest of my pregnancy. Am I the only one who thinks that it's ignorant for someone to say that?
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Re: A c-section is NOT the easy way out!!!!!

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  • TeacherMom210TeacherMom210 member
    People always seem to have something to say about everything, especially if it's different from what they did. Ignore the comments. As pp have said, those people are ignorant or just trying to cause trouble.
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  • RachelsbabyRachelsbaby member
    edited August 2015
    No your not! There is a big chance this will be my reality and I'm not happy about it. Whoever would think for one second it's the easy way out have it all wrong. Do they not know it's considered major surgery? And then on top of trying to heal from that along with caring for a newborn. Giving birth vaginally is the easy way out.
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  • babyplutbabyplut member
    I don't think people mean the recovery is easier I think they are talking about the labour part. Going through two days of labour is worse then going in for a booked c-section. I have had two naturally which lasted two days each but my recovery was fine. So I believe that is what people are talking about. Labour not recovery.
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    In no part does do they probably mean it's easier for the recovery part of it. I've personally had the thought that having a csection instead of countless hours of labor pains didn't sound too bad to me. I understand why it makes you mad, but it's a harmless thought
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  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    Wow that's rude! I don't think it's an easy way out at all. Birth is hard for anyone but add abdominal surgery to it and it's far from the easy way out!
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  • aavila18aavila18 member
    Labor or recovery c section is not easier. THe c-section itself seems like an equal demon to deal with. It is its own form of labor in my opinion And it doesn't seem easier at all... So I still see those comments as ignorance and in this case it's not bliss.
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  • Katrina919Katrina919 member
    I don't think either delivery method sounds like a fun time! Especially now that delivery is so close and one my doctors thinks I might need a c section if baby is too big. I would like to go natural. I do think people's opinions are rude and insulting, I don't blame you for wanting to hide under a rock. People always try to project their own experiences as being way worse, dramatic than others.
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  • LaurenNewphLaurenNewph member
    I found the bright side of having a c section but I in no way think it was the easy way out. I was very lucky and my recovery was relatively easy, but I think I'm not a common case!
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  • thinkpink101thinkpink101 member
    Why would anyone say that?? It's major surgery! The only "easy" birth I had was my preemie twins birth, they were so tiny it went extremely quick and no chance of tearing, plus I had only been pregnant for 33.5 weeks and missed out on the really uncomfortable part. My full term birth was painful with a painful recovery (tearing and an episiotomy = lots of stitches), but I bet a c-section is much harder on your body. What a dumb comment!

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  • AtlasmomAtlasmom member
    I have never given birth but I've had 10 major surgeries and couldn't imagine doing that while caring for a baby or anyone for that matter.
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  • babyplutbabyplut member
    I think women who try and avoid natural and just plan for a c-section when it's not necessary are accused of taking the easy way out. But they don't realize the recovery after. Even when delivering naturally you still may have issues with recovering from an epsiotomy, tearing, stitches. It's not as bad as having surgery forsure. @Rachelsbaby doing it naturally isn't the easy way out. Not sure how many times you have delivered babies or by which way, but labour is by no means easy. Some women are lucky and it's quick and baby is out in a few hours, some women are in labour for days, then the women I think that have it the hardest are those that experience the days of labour and then need a c-section! They then experience all the shitty stuff. Labour, surgery, and recovery. I don't know how people are such hypocrites saying these people are bad because they cast their judgment but im going to make my own judgement and cast it on them....
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  • TabulaRasa25TabulaRasa25 member
    I found out at 34 weeks that I have to schedule a c-section due to breech presentation combined with a uterine abnormality (bicornuate uterus), and marginal cord insertion, both of which make spontaneous turning in the next several weeks and manual attempts to turn dangerous and ill-advised.  I didn't WANT to have to plan for a c-section, but if one is medically indicated, as it is in my case, I'd rather know going in than spend a lot of time fruitlessly laboring and having the same ultimate outcome. I'm DREADING the recovery, for many reasons...would much rather have "just" the recovery from a vaginal birth.  


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  • Taekarate1978Taekarate1978 member
    Easier??? I'm grateful I haven't had to have a c-section, which is why this baby needs to turn. I don't know how y'all handle the recovery and take care of your baby.
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  • cattiva8cattiva8 member
    As someone who has just had an emergency c section and prem baby, if anyone made those comments to my face I'd probably burst into tears. The physical recovery is one thing, but the emotional recovery from the fear and unexpectedness and not being able to hold my baby is what's been much worse. I already feel like I cheated and guilt myself without stupid judgey comments from other people!
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  • saveinsincitysaveinsincity member
    agiroir said:

    One thing that most people don't realize is that MOST of us that have c-sections go through labor as well. People who view c-sections as the easy way out are sadly mistaken! It has cause a multitude of problems for me and I'm almost 2 weeks pp. I cried my eyes out on the way to the operation room because I didn't want a section and I knew it would be difficult for me to ever have a natural birth.

    I did the same thing, I caused my blood pressure to rise higher when I was advised of emergency c section with DD. When I finally woke up, I was so confused and drowsy it took me a while to come to terms that she was my baby.

    It is a different kind of labor, but it is not the easy way out.

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  • IzziesIzzies member
    Sure if that person thinks being gutted like a fish, stitched back up and handed a newborn to care for sounds easy. People say really dumb things, ignor them.
    C-sections are no picnic, I would have MUCH preferred to have a natural labor with DD than the emergency c-section espically because I labored until she was "right there" (as the nurse kept telling me.)
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  • jbettlesjbettles member
    If anything goes wrong and I have to have an emergency c-section, I will have to be put completely under due to my low platelet count. It could be hours before I'm even conscious again and perhaps longer before I'm in any state to hold/recognize/know my son. I'm terrified of the prospect, plus the recovery time. To say it is an easy way out for anyone is just ignorant.

    Vaginal birth is no picnic, either!!! Each way has pros and cons, and you can find a bright side of things in ANY situation, but there are so many variables that make giving birth such a different experience for each of us that I just can't fathom making blanket judgments about one way or another. :-/
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  • NatabearNatabear member
    The idea of labor and a vaginal delivery doesn't phase me at all, but the thought of a c-section fricking terrifies me. I can't imagine how anyone would consider it easier or actually WANT it instead, lol.
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  • nickc2cutenickc2cute member
    I am almost 2 weeks postpartum and had a section. My first recovery was difficult but this one has been much worse. The pain of standing up and moving around especially with all the extra fluid was nothing I would wish on anyone. I have an infection so I am still in pain and have not recovered as fast as I should have.
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  • cjstats87cjstats87 member
    Hmm I'd take the 10+ stitches in my bottom and being sore for a couple weeks over laboring the same as a vaginal delivery, pushing for a while and then getting umpteen staples to close my tummy back up and being sore for weeks to months! Sorry vaginal delivery (I've had 2 so far 0 cs) seems a little bit easier! Lol
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  • veronica121679veronica121679 member
    babyplut said:

    I think women who try and avoid natural and just plan for a c-section when it's not necessary are accused of taking the easy way out. But they don't realize the recovery after. Even when delivering naturally you still may have issues with recovering from an epsiotomy, tearing, stitches. It's not as bad as having surgery forsure. @Rachelsbaby doing it naturally isn't the easy way out. Not sure how many times you have delivered babies or by which way, but labour is by no means easy. Some women are lucky and it's quick and baby is out in a few hours, some women are in labour for days, then the women I think that have it the hardest are those that experience the days of labour and then need a c-section! They then experience all the shitty stuff. Labour, surgery, and recovery. I don't know how people are such hypocrites saying these people are bad because they cast their judgment but im going to make my own judgement and cast it on them....

    That is exactly what happened when I had my daughter in 2010. Induced at over 41 weeks, labored hard for 2 days, vomiting the whole time....then emergency surgery when dd's heart rate dropped. C section then spent 7 dsys in hospital due to losing too much blood during surgery. Staples across my stomach and pain that's unexplainable. Couldn't even clear my throat without the excruciating pains radiating in my stomach. It is a major surgery with a long recovery time. So there is absolutely nothing easy about having major stomach surgery plus the very tedious recovery.


    About to have a scheduled section in 3 weeks due to being too narrow to even attempt deliver vaginally.

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  • YTuMamaTambienYTuMamaTambien member
    edited August 2015

    People who say C-Sections are the easy way out clearly know nothing. I had an emergency CS with my first and have a repeat CS scheduled for exactly 4 weeks from now. It is definitely hard, recovery is a pain, literally. I am so worried about the surgery, no surgery should be taken lightly.


    *Side note: This is not to say that vaginal is a picnic, I have never experienced it but have heard enough to know there is no 'easy way out'. I respect all mamas, what matters is that baby is out safely.

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