Extremely nervous

lyndsay0519 · August 2015

first time pregnate. I went for an apt @6 weeks and 7 weeks and don't go for another one until sept 13. My due date is March 30. Every little thing that bothers me I wanna go to the hospital. I have extreme fear of miss carrying this had been planned for a while. I'm just overwhelmed with extreme stress anxiety and depression. Any advice or anyone else feel similar ?

RTG123 · August 2015

I had and MC last November and am pregnant again due March 12th. My dr knew I would be nervous and for the first 9 weeks had me come in for a quick check up to reassure me everything was ok. Which helped. Now I don't go back until sept. 1st which will be 3 and a half weeks after my last visit. I am so paranoid that things will not be normal, that they won't find the heart beat with the doppler or something else will go wrong between now and then... The only thing that works for me is just denying that anything could go wrong. When that fear really creeps in, I just try to focus on positive outcomes. It's a real mental effort but I have to force the doubt away or I will go nuts!

mb0112 · August 2015

It's normal to be anxious during the wait. If the things bothering you are physical symptoms like bleeding, big cramps, etc you should call your doctor (don't rush to hospital, let Dr tell you what to do). If things were looking good at your last appt just tell yourself there is no reason anything should go wrong. Unfortunately things do go wrong in SOME cases, but in MOST cases they will progress successfully. I had a 9 week appt and now waiting for 13 weeks, so I just tell myself at this point there is an excellent chance things will work out for a healthy baby, and worrying doesn't increase those odds.

Someone on here once said that this worrying prepares us for the constant worry of being a mother. Yes, the first trimester is an anxious time, but after that we will continue to worry that something will go wrong in pregnancy, delivery, infancy, childhood, etc. We can't let worry consume us and prevent us from enjoying each stage.

ecwk · August 2015

I can empathise. While I haven't had extreme anxiety or depression, I know where you are coming from with regards to being overly anxious about everything pregnancy related. If I dwell on it too long I just freak myself out. I try to follow the advice that I've read here that 'Today, I am pregnant' and that I should be thankful for that. It might also reassure you to read the thread titled 'Chances of NOT having a miscarriage' which shows the likelihood day by day of having a successful pregnancy. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that everything will go according to plan but for your own sanity try to remember that *most* pregnancies at this stage turn out just fine. H&H pregnancy to you!

Mrsbearmomma · August 2015

I was right where you're at earlier this week when I had my first appointment. I was so nervous/anxious/worried that I would see that my baby had died or never started growing in the first place. But once I saw that it was measuring right on time and had that beautiful little heartbeat I knew that my body was responding this time around.

lyndsay0519 · August 2015

Yes thank yall. I was so excited to be pregnate that I really just want to try to enjoy it. I heard the heartbeat @7 weeks everything looked good then. I just really feel like how do I know if my baby isn't dead inside me. Should I just stick up on pregnancy tests lol ?

Stormiewinter · August 2015

It's true you will always worry. Even now as a STM I still worry about the same things I did with my first. I find the further away I get from my last appointment the more anxious I am that something is wrong. As pp have said I try to remind myself that barring other symptoms things are most likely fine. I have my second appointment today at 12.2 weeks and my last ultrasound was at 7.6 weeks. Literally counting down the minutes until 2pm. Lol

bntfroggie · August 2015

lyndsay0519 said:

Yes thank yall. I was so excited to be pregnate that I really just want to try to enjoy it. I heard the heartbeat @7 weeks everything looked good then. I just really feel like how do I know if my baby isn't dead inside me. Should I just stick up on pregnancy tests lol ?

I wouldn't keep peeing on pregnancy tests, I had a MMC and I refuse to do that, because it will drive you crazy. I just say to myself today I am pregnant and count the days to my next appointment. Keep busy :-)

PinkSunglasses16 · August 2015

lyndsay0519 said:

Yes thank yall. I was so excited to be pregnate that I really just want to try to enjoy it. I heard the heartbeat @7 weeks everything looked good then. I just really feel like how do I know if my baby isn't dead inside me. Should I just stick up on pregnancy tests lol ?

I would not continue to POAS. Even if you lost the baby (fx that is not the case) you still have HCG in your system and will get positive tests. Just take it day by day. play mindless games, read, lurk and laugh at other crazies on the boards, anything to get your mind off of the negative thoughts.

clairemwalker · August 2015

I think most women here can relate even just a little. I quite often freak out especially since i had bleeding at 5 weeks. At 6.5 weeks saw heartbeat and then calmed down and now at 10.3 weeks am starting to have that old paranoia creep in, even though i have no reason to worry. Just take some deep breaths and find something to busy your mind. One saying that helps me to repeat in my head is "nothing lasts, even the bad times" i never thought i would be able to get from 6w to 10w with my sanity intact but ive done it! Now i have to stay sane for another 2 weeks till my 12 week scan!

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