Super proud of my SO. Anyone else???

SaraiAmor · August 2015

So I used the search button and couldn't find anything specifically on the topic so I was thinking.... Is anyone just super proud of the Daddy for getting ready for baby in their own way and really trying their hardest to put you and babies needs first? Like of course they're gonna trip up and have their own battles to deal with (especially for 1st time dads) but they're just doing absolutely amazing things in both their lives and yours. And I love the way my SO's eyes light up when he talks about the things he wants to do when the baby is born.
Anyone have any cute romantic stories of things their SO has done or said since you've been pregnant (current pregnancy or previous)?

mcklough · August 2015

My husband did what I call man nesting. He finally hung lots of things up on the walls, cleaned out closets and helped me purge unneeded stuff.

We are going tomorrow for our nt scan and I think seeing it all on the screen is going to make it even more real for him but he's already amazed me. It's sappy but he's the most amazing person I know.

SaraiAmor · August 2015

That's awesome! I hope you nt scan goes well!

pettycrocker · August 2015

Nope. My H is totally having his own sympathy pregnancy right now and he is a pain in my ass in every possible way. I think that is very sweet your SO is so excited and into the planning!

ashton2190 · August 2015

DH is taking on some diy projects I've been meaning to but can't now. I wanted to strip and paint a couple of pieces of furniture and now we have a reason to prioritize it! Since he doesn't want me around chemicals, he's stripping the furniture on his days off and then he's going to paint it white like I want it then I get to look for new hardware and we'll have new furniture for the baby room! He seems really excited about it, probably also because we're saving money by reusing furniture we have

SaraiAmor · August 2015

potatocastillo said:
Nope. My H is totally having his own sympathy pregnancy right now and he is a pain in my ass in every possible way. I think that is very sweet your SO is so excited and into the planning!

I'm sorry! Hopefully he gets over it soon!

anotherctg · August 2015

Mine is awesome! He's a control freak/planner so he's more on top of this than I am. He pets the dogs and asks them if they are going to be good big brothers and help with the baby. Adorable!

rachrobertson · August 2015

Mine just laid on the couch while I carried all of the girls clothes totes out of our daughters rooms and put them in a stack to go up to the attic. Does that count? I would put them up myself, but I am on lifting restrictions and probably shouldn't have been carrying the totes around in the first place, let alone lifting them over my head to put them up.

Aussiechicka · August 2015

Mine has picked up the slack big time with our toddler and def trying real hard to make life easy for me. If I feel sick or am tired instead of trying to do for me what he thinks I need he straight up asks "what do you need" so much better than getting fussed over if I just want to lay down or something!

SaraiAmor · August 2015

@rachrobertson Im sorry. Did you ask him to help you with it? I think sometimes people in general don't really understand what you really can and can't do while your pregnant. Like I'm only 19 so I get that all the time for my friends. They don't really get that things that wouldn't usually hurt me on a normal basis really do now. So maybe your SO is kinda the same way where he doesn't really understand the extent of what it's like for you to carry heavy stuff right now. (just an idea)

cMichelle0423 · August 2015

Hubby knows I've been super paranoid about this pregnancy (for no real reason). So today he went really out of his way today and got me a Doppler to help ease my mind. He's been a champ with helping out around the house more (picking up the slack) and taking care of our other two babies.

rachrobertson · August 2015

SaraiAmor said:
@rachrobertson Im sorry. Did you ask him to help you with it? I think sometimes people in general don't really understand what you really can and can't do while your pregnant. Like I'm only 19 so I get that all the time for my friends. They don't really get that things that wouldn't usually hurt me on a normal basis really do now. So maybe your SO is kinda the same way where he doesn't really understand the extent of what it's like for you to carry heavy stuff right now. (just an idea)

It is nice of you to defend him, but he is very aware of what I cam and can't do. I had a miscarriage in may and found out alone at a doctor appointment with our 2 y.o with me. So, now I have him go to every appointment with me for this pregnancy because that was so traumatizing. I had to have an ultrasound squeezed in because I had a bleeding episode at 8 weeks which is when they put me in lifting restrictions. Not even supposed to pick up my DD. I thought our experience last time would make him more supportive and involved with this pregnancy, but I was sadly mistaken. It is great that your SO is involved, especially if this is his first. Most guys don't 'get it' until the baby is here.

SaraiAmor · August 2015

Yea I had a similar experience. I had a miscarriage in April at 5 weeks then a week later got pregnant again (didnt know until a month later) and he was at work and I was freaking out that I was bleeding and I needed him to come with me to the doctors but he didn't get it so I found out with my mom and my sister who are not the best people to be sad or angry around (more my mom then my sister). So we went thru a lot after the loss. Then with this one I had twins but one didn't make it and my SO and I had a huge fight after and I told him I felt like he just didn't care at all about me being pregnant or anything cuz it really didn't feel like it and he just broke down. It was so intense but since then he's been trying way harder to be involved and understanding. So I am so sorry that you're H isn't helping you out more and I hope it gets better without it getting too stressful.

barreraannart · August 2015

We have our off days but in general he's very supportive this is our fourth pregnancy so he lets me get things done on my own but knows exactly when he needs step in and when he sees I'm not in the best mood he takes the kids for ice cream so I can rest. so I guess I can say YES I'm super proud of DH!

tigeraj8170 · August 2015

I love my H with all my heart, please don't think I don't, but I'd love to beat him to death some days also.
A little back story...H has 4 children from a previous marriage and then a 2 year old with me plus one on the way. I would have thought by now he would understand the world of pregnancy. Apparently, I'm wrong.
With our 2 year old, he wasn't around for the pregnancy. He was an over the road truck driver. He'd come home for a few days and then be gone for a month, so he didn't have to deal with it. This past Christmas, we were pregnant for about 4 weeks before I had a miscarriage, which thankfully, he was here for.
With this pregnancy, he doesn't seem excited at all. I'm constantly nauseated, tired, and feeling all the wonderful pains of growing a human, and he sits on his ass. Barely helps with DS, cleaning, or cooking. If I don't want to cook, his idea of cooking is fast food or mac n cheese. Our house looks like a bomb has gone off in it but I'm too tired and nauseated to take care of it all the time, but he seems to think that if I'm not keeping it clean, he shouldn't have to either.
It's just so annoying. I wish I had a wonderful husband who would help. Here's to hoping and praying he'll change before I do beat him to death.

Shatzegirl · August 2015

Mine's been on vacation the last week and has been doing a ton of cleaning. He said he wants me to feel like I'm on a vacation, too. (I'm a SAHM). It's been so wonderful to have a clean house without having to do it myself! He also skipped his run this morning to take care of our son who was waking up early so I could sleep.

ETA: Not long after we found out I was pregnant, he wanted to get right down to business with the nursery. We moved the office and he's been dejunking like mad. It's so cute to see him "nesting."

feelnSicky · August 2015

My H is a mixture of supportive and not. He's been working extra overtime days to make extra money for the baby items we will be needing, before he leaves for work he kisses my belly and says "goodbye little baby", and he always helps me carry stuff. Yesterday he ruined it however because he accidentally elbowed me in my colar bone and instead of saying sorry when i started to whine, he said "don't whine about it. It didn't hurt that bad, you are going to turn our baby into a wuss!" And that ruined it for me. I told him he was being mean and I think he felt bad so hopefully he will go back to being helpful today.

oxsarah7ox · August 2015

I love this thread! My DH and I are redoing out living room because we needed to paint the walls and get new furniture. He built a closet and is cleaning things so we can make a babies rom

It's sweet to see him being so active in the house getting it ready!

sonoshark88 · August 2015

My hubs has been crazy protective of me and the baby already! I think it's adorable. Most recent example I was at the beach and got a little sunburn on the backs of my legs and he said 'that's not good, should we call the doctor?' Too funny. Can't wait to see him with our little man in less than 6 months!

brushesnbrunch · August 2015

Part of this I think is cute, but mostly he's just being annoying. Since finding out, he's been making sure I eat enough and drink enough water (that's what I find cute), but he freaks out over every little thing which is the annoying part. I make a cup of coffee, "Can you have that!? I don't think you should drink that!" "You can't go to the football games because our seats are too high up, you'll get tired." Etc. He needs to chill a little.

SaraiAmor · August 2015

Luckily my SO hasn't really been over protective and not letting me do stuff cuz our families are doing that non-stop. And it's honestly annoying me how our families act like I can't do anything cuz it's all the women who have been pregnant many times.. I figure they would know I'm not absolutely useless.. But "I need to not stress!" I HATE HEARING THAT!!! It's probably the most irritating thing. And my SO knows how irritated that's been making me and I think thats why he doesn't get on me about it as much.
Also one thing I'm loving about being pregnant is that it's definitely helped me talk my SO into doing stuff he usually won't. Like playing with my hair or rubbing my back at night to help me sleep. ^-^

Tamberann · August 2015

I hope my H starts to "get it" soon. He sort of understands my tiredness, especially since I work a full time job. But being interested in the pregnancy/baby is a different story. When I try to talk about how big the baby is or what's new with it this week, he always tells me that all he needs to know is when it's born and that im healthy. Its kind of depressing. But he does want a baby, and it was on purpose lol. I'm thinking once we move out of my stressful parents house he will chill back out like before we had to move in here. And once he actually sees a sonogram, since he couldn't make it to the dating sono.

trishkev07 · August 2015

I had to post on here because my H was just absolutely wonderful this past weekend. My aunt and uncle were moving and as I am lessening the amount I'm lifting (obviously I was willing to help but any big furniture was a no-no for me) I enlisted my H and his friend to help. Apparently my aunt and uncle had only asked about 6 people to move the antique furniture and 20 years worth of crap accumulation in their 2,500 sq ft. house. Not only did they act ungrateful that we were there but my aunt was literally yelling at us and acting like we were idiots who didn't know how to be careful with 100 year old furniture (as we were non-professional movers this was tech. true however we were being as careful as possible). This move was to take place over the course of two days and by the second day my sciatic nerve (I believe) and lower back were hurting so badly my husband just encouraged me to stay home and take it easy while he and his friend faced the second day of abuse. Needless to say the move took twice as long as expected and my H didn't complain ONCE about it. I'm a lucky woman

JacquelynOchsner · August 2015

My DH was a little panicked at first (it's our first) even though we planned for the baby, now that it's happening he's so excited preparing and researching everything! Not to mention every time he has a chance he's asking if I need anything, or helping with the dogs training. He's been great and I feel so lucky to have his support!!

middy411 · September 2015

It makes me feel warm inside to dwell on the things DH has done that mean the world to me. They may be small, but they make me smile:

1. He sent me a beautiful song by Shane & Shane called The One You Need which is a daddy's perspective of his baby girl (we are having a girl!) I had to fight my tears back.

2. He is super social but has been extremely understanding of me staying home and resting instead of bouncing around town with friends like we normally do.

3. TMI warning: I was a little worried about how our intimate life would be as I grew in this pregnancy. I tend to have a higher drive than he does normally and I was afraid the idea of being with me while baby girl is in there would freak him out. The other night he held onto my bump lovingly while we were intimate and it was the most touching thing. He made me feel beautiful and sexy for being pregnant.

Kbalas1018 · September 2015

I love this thread! Yes my husband has been awesome. I'll catch him googling baby stuff and he often brings up different things he's picturing our baby girl doing. It makes my heart so happy to know he's this excited. We tried for a very long time to get pregnant and we even went through a miscarriage. Through those struggles he wasn't as vocal as I was and I think he was more concerned about how I was handling everything, but I can really see just how much he desired to have a baby too.
He'll come home from the store with baby blankets or bibs lol. It's been a lot of fun sharing this time with him. I know he's going to be such a great daddy. He already is!

jaimeruns · September 2015

My hubs has been working on several remodel projects around the house, and just about finished one this weekend! He ripped out the flooring and ugly tile in our master den, and replaced it with beautiful tiled floor and new tiled fireplace.

Here's the before and after pics. The trim isn't done yet and we need to move some more stuff back in the room but it looks great! I'm super proud!

SaraiAmor · September 2015

My SO and I have had a pretty rough last couple weeks. We moved this weekend into a nice house with our roommate but there's been some dumb complications with everything with the people we're renting the place from because they're still trying to decide if they want to keep the house or sell it. Then we got into a little accident in my mom's car which my grandmother pays for so my grandmother is super irritated and being a brat and it sucks cuz she's kind of my best friend but she's also 75 and set in her ways. THEN PLANNING BABY SHOWER!!! Its been a huge pain because although my SO and I have been together for 4 years our families haven't ever really interacted with each other because they're all very stubborn and very different. And so basically everyone's competing for who's the better family and it is becoming a problem where everyone is getting butt hurt and not wanting to help me out with planning the shower other than my mom and sister who literally having nothing they can really offer but they're still trying so hard. But during all of this everything has been very hard and my SO is starting to feel more stressed about baby than excited. But I went and bought some baby clothes and a cute Noahs Arc picture frame and I think it helped both of us cheer up a bit about baby.

Achae · September 2015

@jaimeruns that is a gorgeous room!

camusoh2011 · September 2015

Mine has been very off and on lately, but one things I was super proud of him for was at our ultrasound the other day. He was doing a great job of wrangling the boys so I could sort of zone out on the ultrasound. We found out we were having twins so it took quite a while, but he was great about it. Since then he's finally opened up a little more about thoughts/concerns/so on for the pregnancy and for the time being is a little more into it than he usually is.

hlmdeck · September 2015

camusoh2011 said:
Mine has been very off and on lately, but one things I was super proud of him for was at our ultrasound the other day. He was doing a great job of wrangling the boys so I could sort of zone out on the ultrasound. We found out we were having twins so it took quite a while, but he was great about it. Since then he's finally opened up a little more about thoughts/concerns/so on for the pregnancy and for the time being is a little more into it than he usually is.

WOW congrats on the twins!!!! Awesome!!

SaraiAmor · September 2015

@camusoh2011 that's great! Glad he's more into it!

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