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crysr08crysr08 member
in July 2015 Moms
Does anyone else hate the idea of having over night house guest? My husband invited his father and step mother to spend a weekend with us when we have a 4 week old. Now I get to entertain them while he is at work. I'm not that close to them and feel awkward in my own home.
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  • jenni31jenni31 member
    I understand. I'm the same with my in-laws. Can you try explaining to your husband that it's a bit much too soon. You have a 24hr job with your baby and don't need the stress for now. It would be different if your hubby was there to keep them company. Maybe when the babies older and settled. Either way, good luck.
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  • eclohoecloho member
    Ahh hell no!! I refuse!! Overnight guests definitely NOT! I am still keeping visitors in general to a minimum, for baby (3 weeks old) & my own privacy! Only 2 friends have seen my LO (one only because he came over to help my DH move a piece of furniture) My husband jokes that I'm hogging the baby, but he really does respect & validates how I feel.
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  • keri0426keri0426 member
    I don't mind having my family sleep over, I know they understand that I am not going to entertain them and am not cooking for them. As for my in laws, I would feel very uncomfortable.
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  • eclohoecloho member
    If they can't figure out on their own that a new mom is preoccupied taking care of a newborn & someone actually has to inform them...well then I won't say what I think they are...just sayin (or not sayin)
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  • crysr08crysr08 member
    Oh they don't care. They are very inconsiderate. They woke up earlier and made no attempt to be quiet. Mom's need to sleep when they can. I'm very irate today.
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  • Savanna111911Savanna111911 member
    My mom stayed after the baby was born but was actually very helpful. I am, on the other hand, getting a little tired of day guests, including my parents. My mom has been here every weekend sense the baby was born and I just found out she is planning to come again this weekend. On both Saturday's and Sunday's since she was born we have had visitors. I know they mean well but I'm worried my parents are going to be up here every weekend until the child turns 18. (I don't actually think this but it definitely feels this way at times). I am working on creating the new normal and having people here constantly isn't making that easier. Hopefully things will calm soon enough though.

    As for OP, like PPs said, don't worry about entertaining them. They should know that with a 4 week old you won't be able to cook for them, etc.
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    My MIL is staying with us next week for 6 days and 4 of those days my husband is at work.
    Then my FIL (who I haven't met) comes 3 days later for 5 days but luckily my husband will be off work all those days.
    Almost 2 weeks of sharing him and having some one else want to hold him besides my husband.
    I can't wait til it's all over.

    My son all of the sudden doesn't want to take a bottle and just get milk from the tap so I can steal him back and hide in my room with him.
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  • eclohoecloho member
    Someone once told me that "houseguests are like dead fish… After a couple days they Start to stink"...I have always felt this way even before ever having a baby
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  • randa923randa923 member
    My in laws came a week and a half after my son was home to stay a weekend. They eneded up arriving at 11 pm Friday and left by 5 pm Saturday. It was terrible. But to be fair my MIL is crazy. We have two huskies that are not good with other dogs and she insisted on bringing her little yorkie. Then she was angry we wouldn't leave our dogs outside where it was 100 degrees so that her dog could come out of the basement. On top of having a newborn at home I was recovering from a c-section. They didn't offer to cook or anything. I'm breastfeeding and at the time we were supplementing with formula after each feeding and I was pumping. I asked her if she could give him a bottle so I could pump and she told me no she had to go sit in the basement with her dog. Yeah like I said she's slightly crazy.
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    @randa923 ew! Then why visit if you aren't going to help? Especially while you were recovering.
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  • randa923randa923 member
    @ashleytiff she wanted to meet her grandson whom she held twice because of her dog.
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  • crysr08crysr08 member
    @randa923 sounds like what I'm dealing with. My FIL came in with food that he wanted cooked... I flat out said no... so my husband cooked for them. They are mad that I have a dog and asked me to lock her up... no its her house. I'm fed up.
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  • beccer123beccer123 member
    @randa923 sounds like she was using her dog as an excuse to be a biatch bc you wouldn't put your dogs outside for her little dog.

    We have only had like 3 guest since the baby was born (3 weeks). I kinda would like some company!
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  • clairelangeclairelange member
    I'm so lucky... My parents have been staying with us for 6 weeks (he was born on their week 2). My DH's parents arrived today for 3 weeks, and are also staying with us. We have a weekend lap over of everyone. They've been AMAZING help. We could not have done the last few weeks without my parents - they've cleaned, cooked, washed all clothes, ironed, nursed, changed diapers, let me sleep in and took him, walked the dog.... Maybe you'll b surprised at now much your guests will help. Especially when you ask them. I wouldn't have it any other way
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  • bazzie88bazzie88 member
    I've had people in my house.... in our gust room, on the couches, on the floor since our lo was 1 week old. I'm SO over it. If I want to walk around my house naked I want to be able to do it!

    We live 1400 miles from all our family, so of course I feel so blessed that they all made the trip to come see us and meet the newest family member, but I'll tell you what... I'm so sick of worrying if they will eat the freezer meals I made, or if there are enough clean towels, or if they will wreck my car when they go to the beach for the day without me.

    We are now hosting my in-laws and my husband is back to working full time, and I don't even ask them if they need anything or if they are comfortable anymore. I just don't care at this point. Whatever. They can fend for themselves! I have a newborn to take care of!
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  • randa923randa923 member
    Every other guest we've had has been great. His mom is just crazy. She's usually fine is small doses but it was just too much with her dog being here. She's obsessed with the dog. She actually said she wasn't sure how often shed be able to see her first and only grandchild because of her dog! She refuses to board it or let someone else watch it.
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  • crysr08crysr08 member
    They have not done a thing to help me. They only thing they have done is make a mess for me to clean up. My husband is such a wimp when it comes to standing up to his family. I am not to his family or mine. I worry about my LO and myself l first.
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