SAHM - feeling alone?

btm013 · August 2015

Hey mamas! So, my husband and I decided I would stay at home with my son and work part time for my fathers business (CPA firm - I'm an accountant). It's the perfect set up as I will have a flexible schedule and be able to work from home. However, I find it very isolating at times. I'm a social person and miss that aspect of my job. I don't have any friends who have children yet so I just joined a mom & Tot group where I'm hoping to meet other moms. But what additional things do you all do to stay engaged - both for yourself and LO? I run lots of errands to get out of the house and go for walks. But that's about all. I'm having very mixed emotions about my decision.

lovethatcolosun · August 2015

I felt the same way when I made the decision with my DS three years ago. I felt lonely and isolated too. I went to Book Babies at the local library and met some nice ladies. Eventually we exchanged numbers and set up play dates and built relationships from there. It feels a lot like dating in the beginning. Stick with it. Play dates are life savers for the adult interaction I crave. Just give it some time to grow on you. Witnessing the milestones and watching this little being grow into a walking talking mini version of you and DH is a fun and wild ride. Being a SAHM is one of the best choices I've made. It's not for everyone and I honor both choices (I often envy my husband's ability to head off to work).

So some suggestions are; the library's story time, mommy groups, girls night out with old friends, local indoor and outdoor play places (a little early for this), lactation groups, MOPS (mothers of preschoolers), mommy and baby yoga, and later on classes like music and gymnastics.

That, and you always have us!!

Eta: spelling

jessieR358 · August 2015

I'm not a SAHM...would love to but my husband has booed that idea. Anyways....I saw a segment on the today show about all these apps for mommy friends like match.com but for moms.

mrs1374a · August 2015

I was exactly the same 3 years ago with our daughter, but it gets better!! Her and I had SO much fun going to the library, hanging out with our friends. We love it!! Now the baby just joins us

janat1717 · August 2015

I agree that it hurts. Making it extra difficult is having to pump after every feeding which makes it hard to leave the house for very long. Even short trips require major planning. I'm so shy though even though I've met some nice moms I never get up the nerve to prompt hanging out.

adia1092 · August 2015

The app for moms is momco and another app is called meetup and you can search for local mom groups.

aliciaspinnet · August 2015

Where I live they run a series of 3 new parent classes (one a week) and at the end you're all encouraged to set up a mums group and keep meeting up. That was really helpful.

bethanne09 · August 2015

There isn't much as far as mom support groups where I live. There are two breastfeeding groups, but the days they meet are the worst days for us. I could get there but it'd be such a struggle and I don't know if it would be worth it. I have some great friends and family that I see often, but it would definitely be nice to have mom friends with a kid my LOs age to kind of commiserate with.
SAHM for one year, here. This is the first time in ten years that I haven't been in school full time and working, I feel like a recluse.

Jna0407 · August 2015

There is a very big chance that DH and I are going to decide it's best to be a SAHM. Since I am still on maternity leave, I have been feeling really lonely too. I've been hanging out with my friends that have children, which is nice. I have joined the Mother's club in my town, a mommy & me fitness program, and I go to the breastfeeding clinic in town once a week. I've made some great friends and it's great to get out and chat with other mamas.

Your area may not offer this fitness program, but it's available in most states: Fit4Moms. It's amazing and truly has been helpful in coping with the loneliness as well as making me feel better about my post partum body.

karaelaine1991 · August 2015

I'm in a mom group (it uses meetup.com) and I second the library being a great place to meet other moms if mom groups aren't an option where you live! Both of these have been super helpful for me. Also, my church has a young adult ministry (which they define as ages 18-39) and many of the members are parents with young kids. Of the families we've gotten especially close to, one has a 13 month old, another has a 5 month old, and a third is expecting a baby in September. Fellow parents are everywhere!

lovethatcolosun · August 2015

I thought this was a funny article for the SAHM's on here.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/8003750?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063

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