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Young New Mommy

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in March 2016 Moms
Alright, I am 20 years old and now pregnate. I want to do everything in my power to make sure my child has a healthy, safe, and wonderful life despite my young age. I've read everything there is to read about pregnancy online and talked to a few people as well, so from all of you lady's with experence, what should I know about pregnancy, child birth, and raising the child that they don't tell you online?
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  • BreeShipmanBreeShipman member
    Mostly you may be young but you are still the mommy! Go with your gut you are doing the right things even if people around you don't agree. There are probably some tips I could give but I have 4 hours till I get up I just had to check this first! Lol I might be addicted.... Anyway that's the best advice you can get don't always second guess yourself bc of age trust your maternal instincts :) Congratulations!!!
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  • CassidyACDCassidyACD member
    I was 25 with my first when around here people usually wait till 30 so I got lots of rude comments once I started to show. So first don't let them get you down, your life is no ones business but your own.

    Also you need to take people's advise with a grain of salt, use what works for you and drop the rest. There is no "perfect" way to parent. There is only what works for your family. Things may not work out the way you envisioned but that is ok!
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  • lindscnn1lindscnn1 member
    I was 16 when I had my first. I am now pregnant with my fifth. Regardless of age, the 1st pregnancy is stressful, scary, and every other feeling. Just take what you read with a grain of salt because every pregnancy is different. I agree with pp, trust your instincts. Everything will fall into place.
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  • MrsBroughton15MrsBroughton15 member
    You'll be okay honey. My mom always told me no one is fully prepared to be a parent until the time comes. So whether you're 20 with your first or 27 (like me), your mommy instincts will kick in and you'll do a great job raising your little one. Congrats & we wish you a safe and happy pregnancy! <3 
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  • bwhit07sbwhit07s member
    I'm 20, 11 weeks pregnant, not married, working part time, and starting my junior year of college. It's definitely not going to be easy, but well worth it.
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  • Smom901316Smom901316 member
    I was 22/23 when I was pregnant with my first and when she was born. My (now) husband and I were not married and we didn't get married before the baby came along ... I am glad we didn't give in to that pressure . It can be an emotional time because having a child forces you to grow up in ways that your friends may not realize yet no matter how mature you were before your sweet baby arrives . It is okay to be a young person and a mom , just remember to leverage your support system and the most important thing is that unconditional love for your sweet pea that you will have for the rest of your life.

    Sorry if that is rambling I am pooped ...


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  • FauquierMommaFauquierMomma member
    Smom901316 said:

    I was 22/23 when I was pregnant with my first and when she was born. My (now) husband and I were not married and we didn't get married before the baby came along ... I am glad we didn't give in to that pressure . It can be an emotional time because having a child forces you to grow up in ways that your friends may not realize yet no matter how mature you were before your sweet baby arrives . It is okay to be a young person and a mom , just remember to leverage your support system and the most important thing is that unconditional love for your sweet pea that you will have for the rest of your life.

    Sorry if that is rambling I am pooped ...

    Exact same story here! Five years later were expecting #2! I just hope this one is as incredible as our DD. We were young- but trusted instinct... Our little one couldn't be a bigger sweetheart- you'll be a great mom! Listen to yourself waaay before anyone else.
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  • red3yered3ye member
    Agree with everyone here. Trust your self and do what works for you. Oh, and there will more than likely be moments where the baby will get on your last exhausted nerve. Just put it down some where safe, grab a drink, and take a moment of peace. Even if baby if crying the whole time, it's better for u to unwind a moment. When my son was about 2 weeks old, I was exhausted and wanted nothing more than a half hour of peace. But he didn't want to be put down. There were a couple times I had to put him down and step outside for just moment for a breath of air.
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  • lindscnn1lindscnn1 member
    red3ye said:

    Agree with everyone here. Trust your self and do what works for you. Oh, and there will more than likely be moments where the baby will get on your last exhausted nerve. Just put it down some where safe, grab a drink, and take a moment of peace. Even if baby if crying the whole time, it's better for u to unwind a moment. When my son was about 2 weeks old, I was exhausted and wanted nothing more than a half hour of peace. But he didn't want to be put down. There were a couple times I had to put him down and step outside for just moment for a breath of air.

    This exactly! Our last daughter had colic. She was our 4th, I had never dealt with colic before and was on the fence about the idea of colic. Until I had a baby with it. I had to take turns with my mil, who was such a huge help during those few weeks. I took my teeny baby to the doctor for advice when a new, young, childless doctor proceeded to tell me babies cry. I about lost it, I looked at this very young, inexperienced woman and asked her if she had read the chart. I went on to explain to her that this was not my 1st, 2nd or 3rd time, and clearly babies cry. But they don't scream in agony from exactly 6pm-8pm regardless of scheduling and feeding. I refused to see that doctor again. Oh and my husband's grandmother swore my daughter was just spoiled to which my mil snapped back at her and said "if she was spoiled she would shut the hell up when held". That moment was hilarious because she is just a "know it all" kind of woman.
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  • red3yered3ye member
    My Gmil tried telling me I was just doing it wrong. "Just put him down while he's sleeping and he will be fine" had her come over and try and then watch as she shrugged her shoulders and goes "I don't know, good luck" and then she left.
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