October 2015 Moms

Baby shower thank yous?

are we supposed to send out thank you cards for all the gifts we got at our baby shower? I wasn't sure, I'm a ftm.

Re: Baby shower thank yous?

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  • I plan on sending out thank you cards. I got really cute personalized ones from Minted, but plenty of places have them including Target, Papyrus, etc.
  • Of course.
  • Tag on to this post- I got a gift shipped to my home, my shower isn't for another month. Should I open and send a thank you right away or bring it to the shower. Might be from someone who can't come. Don't want to be delinquent on "thank you"? What's the etiquette?
  • Lurking from November. But yes, it is proper etiquette to write a thank you any time someone gives you a gift.
    Me: 28, DH: 40
    Married 9/28/13
    DS born 11/12/15
    EDD 8/13/18
  • Yes, why wouldn't you? If you're thinking about it clearly you have to know that's what you do when you get gifts. Did mine this weekend. I wish emails were acceptable but they aren't. Maybe someday since evites are
    Just now becoming more common.
  • yes you do...and im just curious if you wouldn't send the thank you cards then how would you thank your guests for having showered you with presents?
    basdenjn6 said:
    Tag on to this post- I got a gift shipped to my home, my shower isn't for another month. Should I open and send a thank you right away or bring it to the shower. Might be from someone who can't come. Don't want to be delinquent on "thank you"? What's the etiquette?
    id send a unofficial thank you as soon as you receive the gift mostly to let sender know you got the gift but i would also send one out along with the ones you're writing for your shower.





  • Yes, you write a thank you note to each person/family. I always write thank you notes as soon as I get a gift, that way it's one less note to write when you have 50 after shower.
  • No need to be rude, I was simply asking a question. Thanks for your replies.
  • Even if they attend the shower and don't give a gift they should get a thank you. Everyone should get a hand written one plus send it soon after- not months. That's just rude.
  • Even if they attend the shower and don't give a gift they should get a thank you. Everyone should get a hand written one plus send it soon after- not months. That's just rude.
    I think the rule is a max of 3 months after, although I would advise to do them right away though like everyone is saying or you will never get them done once LO arrives. 

    And on the mailed gifts question I open mine and try to send a thank you card within a week of receiving the gift. It gives the person the piece of mind that you actually got their gift. 
  • We had our shower on Sunday (cards have already gone out). I just wanted to say Target is carrying some really elegant, whimsical, beautiful design in 50 packs for $12.00. That's better than the 8-10 pack for $5. Plus. More gifts will come after the baby is born and people visit....often dropping off food!
  • Send all thank you's at the same time, just keep a list of who sent what to you before the shower. Thank you notes are a definite must!
  • basdenjn6 said:
    Tag on to this post- I got a gift shipped to my home, my shower isn't for another month. Should I open and send a thank you right away or bring it to the shower. Might be from someone who can't come. Don't want to be delinquent on "thank you"? What's the etiquette?
    Home gifts, you can go either way, but generally open right away and send card. 
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  • If I receive a gift in the mail and depending on the person I will text them to say a quick thank you and let them know I got it. Then write the thank you card.
  • Yea I wrote the mailed gifts at same tom as shower Bc I didn't know if they would care if I opened gift ahead of time. Most people who ship the gift order online anyway so they have email/tracking to see if it arrived. Fine either way I think.
  • I think what has people somewhat upset is that you are questioning a small gesture. A thank you can mean a lot. Especially since you don't know everyone's financial situation and they spent time and thought on you, showing support and love. If you have to think twice about thank you's, then did you deserve the generosity. I just bought someone a gift for their bridal shower and she didn't send me a thank you. With unexpected dental bills and hospital bills since pregnant, I had a hard time affording it and so getting a thank you to know that the person had appreciation would have helped amidst the crazy.
  • I think the general rule is if someone gives you a gift in person, and you say thank you, you don't have to send a note. The exception is showers, in that case even if they were present when you opened it, and you said thank you, you still have to send a note.
  • Wigglesx2 said:
    If I receive a gift in the mail and depending on the person I will text them to say a quick thank you and let them know I got it. Then write the thank you card.
    Yes, same here! It gives them the piece of mind that you got the gift :)
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