Anyone else experience a tragedy while pregnant ?

larkmiller14 · August 2015

39 weeks today... Our close friends passed away 4 days ago in an accident. They were both a joy to be around and brought light into all situations.. They were so excited to meet our little baby girl. Its been hard experiencing emotions of loss, sadness, grief and at the same time trying to remain calm and excited for our new daughter... has anyone else been through something like this?

toccoaparker · August 2015

I have not but I wanted to say how sorry I am and I'm thinking of you!

emmacake08 · August 2015

I haven't either but I'm sorry you're going through this. T&P

laylababe3 · August 2015

Not while pregnant, but I'm so sorry for your loss.. I'm a firm believer that loved ones who have passed can still watch over us, so I'm sure they will still get to meet your LO. Thoughts and Prayers for you and DH.

kettlekitten · August 2015

Yes, I lost a friend in a road accident about a month ago and spoke at her funeral. It was really strange to be thinking about death while so focussed on creating a new life. I felt quite weird being obviously pregnant at her funeral as well - almost felt like an affront to her family. It just seemed so unfair.

Thoughts go out to you, it's tough to lose someone at the best of times let alone when you're pregnant and hormonal!!

carleym93 · August 2015

I lost my dad during this pregnancy, so I can relate to the feelings of loss. I understand feeling excited on one hand and yet unbelievably sad on another. I can tell you that what helped me a lot was continuing to be excited about my baby girl, just like my dad was. Celebrate the life of your daughter knowing that is what your friends would have wanted. It is so difficult to lose someone you love, especially while pregnant. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I believe your little girl has two beautiful souls looking down on her.

jessandandy09 · August 2015

thoughts and prayers for you with this tragic loss.

prpl11butterfly · August 2015

Dhs grandfather passed in May. I loved him like my own. He had always made me feel like part of the family. One of my favorite memories is from the first holiday I spent with them. He saved me a spot at the dinner table right next to him. He was always bugging DH to marry me (took him 10 years to do that lol) and then once that was taken care of, moved on to kids...."so the wedding is in May, I expect a call in July about a baby". When we told them at Christmas, he was thrilled. His illness got worse after that, but MIL said he was always asking how I was and for pictures of me pregnant (though he lived close, we didnt see him very often). I am sad that he never got to meet DS, but I made sure to tell MIL the name we had chosen so that he could know that before he went. Its hard when something like this happen so close to a big life event that everyone is looking forward to. This is the second for us, DHs other grandfather passed last April, a month before our wedding, which he too was very excited about. I am a true believer in "everything happens for a reason" although it's hard to see it at the time.

Sorry for your loss, I hope you are able to find peace and I am sure LO will bring back some light and joy to your life.

Lorienlily · August 2015

Thoughts and prayers for you.

My coworker friend who got pregnant at the same time I did lost her 15 week premature baby at 13 days old. Very difficult emotions as I grieve her loss and watch her walk through steps of recovery and healing, while at the same time I anticipate the (Lord willing) healthy birth of my own daughter.

larkmiller14 · August 2015

Thank you all for the kind words and support, it is helping me get through this.. I'm also sorry about your loved ones. Thanks for sharing your stories.. Stay strong.

Chryssa-72603 · August 2015

I am so sorry for you. I lost my mom very suddenly almost 3 years ago. Although it wasn't while I was pregnant, it made this past pregnancy very difficult for me. DS had just turned 2 when she passed, so she had been there for me every step of the way during my pregnancy and for the first 2 years of his life. She was absolutely my best friend, and I have really been struggling with taking care of my newborn son without her. I do agree with others, though. I feel her presence & know that she sent our son to us. I was scheduled for a c-section on August 5, but baby decided to come a week early on July 28. Since July was my mom's favorite month, I truly believe that he was with her before he came to us. :-)

raelynch87 · August 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. My grandmother passed several weeks ago. She was the last parent I had and she wasn't even sick 2 months ago. She had a reaction to a medication that just spiraled out of control and now she's gone. I lost both of my parents in my early 20's and this pregnancy has also brought up many feelings that I thought I had reconciled. I don't have any advice for getting through it but to take care of yourself. At my dad's funeral someone told me that someday i would be able to think about him again and not cry. I remember thinking that would never happen because the pain was so heavy. It took years but I can smile thinking about him and I can tell stories of him and not tear up.

breezymeema7 · August 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you as I know the hurt. Many T&Ps.

usernameneededallaretaken · August 2015

We lost a dear friend to a vehicle accident the week after losing a friend to suicide. LO was born 5 days after the second funeral. That last week of pregnancy was tough. I was depressed, stressed, and overwhelmed. This little guy has been a distraction from the pain and sadness. I think the distraction will give me a little time to grieve for my friends in a healthy manner, but I also cannot help but feel like the grief has hindered my ability to truly appreciate and enjoy this new life.

It is a sucky situation for you to be in

I am truly sorry for this loss at such a vulnerable time.

PuppyKitten · August 2015

My little brother died this past February while I was 4 months pregnant. I developed the flu and was advised by my dr. not to take the 5 hr flight to attend the funeral.

It was super stressful. My husband took time off work and we grieved from home. At least my family was very understanding and weren't upset I couldn't come.

Miz_Liz · August 2015

So sorry for your loss, sending T&P your way!

Thj417 · August 2015

I lost 3 during my first pregnancy, my maternal grandmother/best friend, my step mother in law, and my grandmother in law. It was a rough year. This pregnancy my paternal grandmother has been on the edge in and out of hospital, nicu, physical rehab, but still going.