Ive won the war...and that makes me sad

LEGALLYblonde86 · August 2015

So after the last few MIL issues, DH has taken over ALL communications. He called yesterday to say hi, check in etc.
During the conversation, he asked if she had gotten her TDAP yet and he said her response was "your cute little wife isnt getting her way every single time, you know. No I didnt get my tdap, and I wont be either"
He told her not to bother visiting the hospital or our house, and while you are at it, you will no longer talk to us. You will not talk about my wife like this because she is simply trying to be a good mom and protect our children. He said "I only hope that you learn from this and when (his brothers) get married, you never treat their wives like this"
So, I think we have officially cut ties, but I hate that DH is going through this. I never wanted it to go this far, just wanted her to respect us more. I will never treat my kids and their SO this way.

ChanelLovesB · August 2015

We went through this about a year ago. Not with kids but she was bad mouthing me to DH brothers gf. Really awkward. He got fed up
Same way. Now she's a peach. Hopefully it all gets better but sometimes it takes an uncomfortable moment. Be encouraged

toccoaparker · August 2015

Sorry you're going through this, hopefully just a bump in the road? Family drama is no fun but unfortunately somewhat inevitable I believe..

love4yourlocks · August 2015

I'm sure it won't last forever. If she is a good mom and loves him then him putting his foot down and letting her know her inappropriate behavior will not be tolerated will be just the kick in the butt she needs. The timing is very unfortunate but Hopefully the birth of the baby will be a motivator for her to get her attitude together and realize that she's not the queen of the universe and boundaries are essential.

MamaMandy2015 · August 2015

I too am sorry to hear it came to this, but it was inevitable. I wouldn't go so far as saying you've cut ties completely but I would leave it as it is now and hopefully down the road she'll come to her senses and realize what a B she is being. Either case I'm glad to hear that your DH stepped in and now you won't have added stress of having to deal with her craziness.

drummondst · August 2015

I just don't understand what her reasoning is....?! Her loss, but very sorry to hear you are dealing with this right now

sarahmu7 · August 2015

I completely understand not wanting to win every war, but I'm happy DH is sticking up for you. Just give her space and let her come around.

laylababe3 · August 2015

Wow.. Glad to hear that DH has your back but I'm sorry you guys had to take it this far. Hopefully she comes to her senses when LO is born.

pabeybaby · August 2015

Kudos to your husband for standing up for you!! What is it about moms/MILs and new babies and thinking they birthed them instead of you? Ugh! For now just enjoy the extra quiet/private time.

Miz_Liz · August 2015

Don't let her crazy ruin things for you. I agree with PP's that this may be the kick in the ass that she needed and it is great that your DH is being supportive and standing up to her. I had MIL issues for 3 years that JUST got resolved and it definitely took the awkwardness of me laying it all out there and making her cry to get her to see the light. Things still aren't 100%, but I would say 90-95% better!

SashaDenn25 · August 2015

I just saw this thread so im late to the game, but im so sorry for this. I cant imagine this being easy for DH. Try to be there for him as much as you can emotionally for this. He may experience the steps of grief like losing a person due to this and it will be hard, but LO's arrival may help distract. Im sorry it came to this, but im glad this stress has gone away for you as well.

LEGALLYblonde86 · August 2015

I really thought she would have called by now. I figured once FIL and BIL's heard about it, the pressure would be on, but nothing yet. DH seems ok right now but I feel like once LO arrives, thats when it may hit him

Brodie and Chevelle · August 2015

I had issues with my MIL back a couple of years ago, but now we are pretty close and we hang out a lot. I really enjoy her company. Things can change but like PP have said, it can take a few REALLY awkward and horrible situations to get there. GL and I hope everything works out for you guys!!

abbybaby19 · August 2015

Im sorry it had to come to that, but try not to feel bad for sticking to your guns. Its an important issue to you and if shes not willing to do what she has to to see your child then thats something wrong with her, not you. You have every right to do what you need to for your childs well being, so try not to feel guilty.

beep6610 · August 2015

You and DH have to do what you must to keep baby safe and keep your own family unit sane. Good for you both for sticking to your guns and telling her how it is. That being said, I know that this cannot be how any of you want it to go. I hope she comes to her senses and understands, in time, that you're just protecting your child. Dealing with an older generation who think they know it all because they've "been there and done that" can be EXTREMELY frustrating. Especially since a lot of times, they don't understand (or maybe they don't care) that science and medicine have come a long way. Hang in there mama. Fingers crossed that a little bit of time heals these wounds!

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