TV shows portrayal of TTC

Lulucooks · August 2015

So I've been slowly getting through Scrubs on Netflix. One of the character couples decided to TTC. The way the writers portrayed their journey was fairly laughable. Of course they had to have the woman taking her temp just randomly, it seemed, in the middle of the day. They spoke about lifting her pelvis so the semen can rest against her cervix. First month, BFN. Second month she gets testing done, BFN. Now they think it's him and he gets testing done, BFP. Its shit like this that causes people to think that after 3 months "somethings wrong".

I'm sure everyone has seen this type of thing on TV or in the movies. When I was thinking of temping I kept picturing a random lady running to her husbands job to jump him in his office while waving a thermometer.... not sure the movie.

Tell me your stories!! (I dunno of I should ask something or not, I just wanted to share. I'm buzzed Bumping...)

Everycol0r · August 2015

Monica & Chandler from friends. She used OPKs but used them way wrong.

Lulucooks · August 2015

Everycol0r said:
Monica & Chandler from friends. She used OPKs but used them way wrong.

I vaguely remember that. I think I'll watch Friends next after I finish Scrubs.

I enjoyed that show.

IowaLove89 · August 2015

On the Nanny, Fran pulled Maxwell out of his square on Hollywood Squares. because they had to have sex that moment, if I remember right.

@Everycol0r I remember being frustrated that Monica was doing it wrong. lol.

letyourheartbeyourguide · August 2015

Ohh I'm drawing a blank on TTC examples! All I can think of are the had sex once, ended up pregnant, wasn't sure what to do, didn't feel ready for baby but networks didn't want to utter the A word, and then she miscarries before having to make a decision.

See: Grey's, Desperate Housewives, Revenge, Gossip Girl, Party of Five, 90210.

saladflambe · August 2015

Can I just point to my real life?

4 members of my family have now had unplanned "happened the first time we didn't use protection" pregnancies.

I do not say this in a judgey way!!! I was just later shocked to learn the actual odds of getting pregnant your first time sans protection.

MNturnsVA · August 2015

No shows specifically but the movie what to expect when you're expecting tells it all! From many aspects of this crazy journey!

oandmplus1 · August 2015

I vaguely remember seeing shows with fertility watches that just magically said they were ovulating and the women had to run right away to find their man to HIO. I always thought it was that simple.

Lulucooks · August 2015

saladflambe said:
Can I just point to my real life?
4 members of my family have now had unplanned "happened the first time we didn't use protection" pregnancies.
I do not say this in a judgey way!!! I was just later shocked to learn the actual odds of getting pregnant your first time sans protection.

*previous pregnancy mentioned*

That happened with me getting pregnant with DD. By then I knew that there were better times then others to have sex and that you only have so much a chance to get pregnant each month, bit wasn't exactly sure all the specifics. I couldnt believe that it actually happened. I know so much more now, but when actually trying this time around I was sure I'd be KU before Christmas last year.

ninnerpoos · August 2015

**Tangent**

@saladflambe
I'm going to be honest, you're "I do not say this is a judey way" - today I'm at a point where I want to say to you and to all the others who say "Im happy for them." It's ok by me for you to take this moment and judge. And to not be happy for them. Because what the crap?!
I admit I feel slightly selfish when I get blue after hearing another announcement, but for goodness sakes. I think it's understandable we all want to have us a moment to celebrate. Everyone around me announcing they have what I want does not actually make me feel happy all the time.
So right now, I'm going to celebrate honesty. And I don't feel like you should have to justify your feelings. You are human and this is a very delicate time.

saladflambe · August 2015

ninnerpoos said: **Tangent**

@saladflambe
I'm going to be honest, you're "I do not say this is a judey way" - today I'm at a point where I want to say to you and to all the others who say "Im happy for them." It's ok by me for you to take this moment and judge. And to not be happy for them. Because what the crap?!
I admit I feel slightly selfish when I get blue after hearing another announcement, but for goodness sakes. I think it's understandable we all want to have us a moment to celebrate. Everyone around me announcing they have what I want does not actually make me feel happy all the time.
So right now, I'm going to celebrate honesty. And I don't feel like you should have to justify your feelings. You are human and this is a very delicate time.
**Edit bc quote fail**
Thank you for that, although as we are still very early in the TTC process, I really really have no place to judge. I mostly meant that I do not say it in an "I judge you for doing things in a different order than I did" way if that makes sense... unfortunately, not everyone in my family feels that way.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · August 2015

Phoebe on Friends got a BFP hours after IVF?!?!

m6agua · August 2015

In The Switch at Jen Anistons "insemination party" and he switched the sperm sample. The sample is just in a cup at her house in her bathroom.

mrstmoose · August 2015

SATC where Miranda gets KU by Steve after having pity sex because he only had one testicle.

babytooth18 · August 2015

ninnerpoos said:

**Tangent**

@saladflambe
I'm going to be honest, you're "I do not say this is a judey way" - today I'm at a point where I want to say to you and to all the others who say "Im happy for them." It's ok by me for you to take this moment and judge. And to not be happy for them. Because what the crap?!
I admit I feel slightly selfish when I get blue after hearing another announcement, but for goodness sakes. I think it's understandable we all want to have us a moment to celebrate. Everyone around me announcing they have what I want does not actually make me feel happy all the time.
So right now, I'm going to celebrate honesty. And I don't feel like you should have to justify your feelings. You are human and this is a very delicate time.

Can I get an AMEN?! I think from time to time we have to let ourselves feel whatever we are feeling, cope with the feelings (cry, drink some wine, rant to DH), and move on. I have felt like this so many times where yes I am happy obviously, but I'm also looking at my situation and wondering when I will get that moment of celebration we all are waiting for, especially because we see how hard we are working towards this goal.

Before reading and lurking in this board, I thought having sex without protection would instantly get me pregnant. Thanks TV and movies! TTC is HARD! It's random and all about those odds. Why doesn't anyone tell us this?!

edit: to add this sweet and relevant gif

blackgirlmagic · August 2015

@saladflambe my little brother got is baby mama pregnant twice, first time with twins, second just one, all on the days he said they were using protection. And the first pregnancy she got pregnant with the break sex they were having. Who in the world has break up sex. They can barely take care of their babies and have no jobs. I am harshly judging them! I also have two other siblings that for pregnant by "mistake". I don't believe in mistakes while having sex. If you don't use birth control you know what you are getting yourself into.

hunnybunny17 · August 2015

*Miscarriage mentioned*
General Hospital (yeah, I know, a soap opera) did an infertility storyline a couple years back. The woman and her DH were TTC and went to the hospital when she miscarried. She found out she had a heart-shapped/bicornuate uterus and was told she couldn't carry to term. They had a surrogate carry their child. Fast forward 2 years, she's been misdiagnosed and actually has a septate uterus. But it doesn't matter because she'd been cryogenically frozen in the meantime and is now infertile. X_X

Edit: warning

KyCat · August 2015

It's funny, I was just thinking about this the other day. I can't think of any good examples right now, but I feel like there are countless TV shows and movies where the couple is trying to get pregnant and the wife runs in with the pee stick all like, "I'm ovulating! We must have sex right now!"

Like, it's really ok to wait a couple hours, and no, you're not ovulating, you might be about to ovulate.

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

Seriously I got a positive OPK yesterday afternoon and this morning. At neither time did I run to my DH and jump his bones.

pbsnowflake453 · August 2015

I remember on Friends Chandler decided to pee on all the sticks "just to be sure".

Also, on the show The King of Queens they have to get very creative to have sex while in-laws are visiting during FW. We've all been there, right?

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TheBorg7of9 · August 2015

How did Monica use th wrong??

pbsnowflake453 · August 2015

TheBorg7of9 said:
How did Monica use th wrong??

She realizes she had her dates mixed up, so she uses an OPK to see if she's "still ovulating". She gets a positive, so they have to figure out a way to have sex while babysitting.

TheBorg7of9 · August 2015

On How I met your mother, they go for testing after like 3 months of trying also.

cattlebride · August 2015

I know this isn't ttc but any baby birthing or labor on any show is like two good screams and mamas hair is perfect.

babyexpress · August 2015

@pbsnowflake453 oh my gosh. My FIL was staying with us for a full month last cycle and my first IUI. It was the worst

crzyforbabies · August 2015

cattlebride said:

I know this isn't ttc but any baby birthing or labor on any show is like two good screams and mamas hair is perfect.

Or the women's water breaks, and the man speeds her to the hospital. Then, when she gets there, she screams like a banshee, and is super rude.

dande2129 · August 2015

I've started watching Parenthood on Netflix and got addicted hard and fast.

A few days ago, I was at the point where Julia and Joel have been TTC a 2nd for like, a minute. She's worried that something is wrong because they got pregnant with their first right away. Joel goes in to have sperm analysis done and somehow it ends up being that Julia has intrauterine scarring and can't get pregnant.

Like, what? There was absolutely no dialogue about how advanced the scarring was, if it could be "fixed" with surgery of any kind, medications or other interventions that aren't surgery that could be tried --- it was just automatically, "I CAN'T HAVE ANOTHER BABY."

Also, it was via phone call. Like, the doc just called her up and was like, "Hey, you have this scarring and you can't get pregnant again kbye" and that was it.

Lulucooks · August 2015

*trigger warning, very sad*

And now for something completely different. I was surfing Pintrest and this came up and now I'm crying..... stupid Disney.

lalala2004 · August 2015

Lulucooks said:

*trigger warning, very sad* And now for something completely different. I was surfing Pintrest and this came up and now I'm crying..... stupid Disney.

It's ok, she gets her Dumbo :-)

Lulucooks · August 2015

lalala2004 said:

Lulucooks said:

*trigger warning, very sad*

And now for something completely different. I was surfing Pintrest and this came up and now I'm crying..... stupid Disney.

It's ok, she gets her Dumbo :-)
---- qbf ----

She does ^_^ elephants just look extra sad when sad. Very expressive eyes even in cartoon form. And of course the pictures only showed that part, pretty sure it was captioned "saddest Disney moment". I was looking for tips to get to Disney, not expecting that! Lol!

Vicki1985 · August 2015

lalala2004 said:

Lulucooks said:

*trigger warning, very sad*

And now for something completely different. I was surfing Pintrest and this came up and now I'm crying..... stupid Disney.

It's ok, she gets her Dumbo :-)

The only thing we bought our baby was a Dumbo stuffed animal because we were team green until we found out we were going to lose him this made me think of my Noah and smile

StarbucksShip · August 2015

Whenever I see a storyline about discovering a positive pregnancy test in the trash. Off the top of my head I remember Parks & Recreation doing this and Friends. For once I'd love it if after all the uproar and sluething someone informs the characters that it was negative but after a long period of time the results could show positive.

benicode · August 2015

m6agua said:

In The Switch at Jen Anistons "insemination party" and he switched the sperm sample. The sample is just in a cup at her house in her bathroom.

Yes - very similar, on Will & Grace, they are bringing their own sample to the doctor in a cup, and almost switch it with Jack's soup for lunch.

Also on Forget Paris - they let him take care of himself and bring his sample to the doctor in a cup. I also think they were only trying very briefly before being tested/giving up.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · August 2015

m6agua said:
In The Switch at Jen Anistons "insemination party" and he switched the sperm sample. The sample is just in a cup at her house in her bathroom.

I have never seen this movie, but she had an insemination party?!?! That's a new one. I thought gender reveals were pushing it...

m6agua · August 2015

CherylAnn789 said:

m6agua said:
In The Switch at Jen Anistons "insemination party" and he switched the sperm sample. The sample is just in a cup at her house in her bathroom.
I have never seen this movie, but she had an insemination party?!?! That's a new one. I thought gender reveals were pushing it...

It's on Netflix right now if you have it.

OddOne31 · August 2015

In the movie This Is Where I Leave You one of the couples is TTC, and she says that she's done all the tests, nothings wrong, but he won't get his sperm tested. I hope no doctor would ever actually put a woman through all of that without testing the husband's sperm.

LadyMillil · August 2015

Kind of related. I'm watching Gilmore Girls now and am up to the episode where Sookie is pregnant because she went off the pill and didn't tell Jackson, and Jackson didn't tell Sookie that he never had a vasectomy so neither knew they were having completely unprotected sex. Do people really not talk about birth control with their spouse IRL?

dewdropdana · August 2015

I recently started binging on Parenthood too! When this happened, I was "WTF?! That's not even right? How can this be right?! Argh!" - Then proceeded to vent to DH about it (while crying and waving of arms) and work myself into a tantrum. Poor guy, he just sat there like a deer in headlights.

rachelkawesome · August 2015

LadyMillil said:

Kind of related. I'm watching Gilmore Girls now and am up to the episode where Sookie is pregnant because she went off the pill and didn't tell Jackson, and Jackson didn't tell Sookie that he never had a vasectomy so neither knew they were having completely unprotected sex. Do people really not talk about birth control with their spouse IRL?

I'm a lurker but had to respond to this - Sooki is an idiot and she and Jackson have the WORST relationship and it really annoys me! They don't talk about ANYTHING. I feel like they didn't even talk about whether or not they were dating at first, which wouldn't be annoying if it didn't become a constant pattern. Sookie just talks to Loreili about everything and I'm like "Stop talking to her, she's worse at relationships than you, talk to JACKSON."

And also I feel like because they are one of the only functioning long-term couples on the show, they are the model for what a relationship should be and I'm always like "This is NOT how a relationship should be!"

starviablu · August 2015

dande2129 said:
I've started watching Parenthood on Netflix and got addicted hard and fast.

A few days ago, I was at the point where Julia and Joel have been TTC a 2nd for like, a minute. She's worried that something is wrong because they got pregnant with their first right away. Joel goes in to have sperm analysis done and somehow it ends up being that Julia has intrauterine scarring and can't get pregnant.

Like, what? There was absolutely no dialogue about how advanced the scarring was, if it could be "fixed" with surgery of any kind, medications or other interventions that aren't surgery that could be tried --- it was just automatically, "I CAN'T HAVE ANOTHER BABY."

Also, it was via phone call. Like, the doc just called her up and was like, "Hey, you have this scarring and you can't get pregnant again kbye" and that was it.

I had the exact same thought in watching Parenthood! There was no backstory, they didn't even talk about any other option but instead just went straight to "I can't have baby".

And I don't think they ever really said why Robin was infertile.. Just that she was on how I met your mother. It seemed like the doctor just came to that conclusion after one appointment!

chicandbubbly · August 2015

Funny you posted this... just last night my DH was watching Ballers and one of the wives on the show randomly whips out a pregnancy test (BFP) and was like "I didn't get my period for a few weeks so I thought I would take a test." It's just funny because I would never let me period be that late without taking a test.

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