My sister in law, husband's brother's wife (I feel this is important because his sisters are brilliant) told me that I have to be careful of putting my hands over my head as I get further along because I could wrap the umbilical cord around the baby's neck. I just walked away. I posted on Facebook about two weeks ago that I could use a pedicure. Someone warned me it could send me into labor. At 16 weeks. I said "with all due respect, that's bull s***. I can not believe people believe this nonsense. Also, people have decided since I'm pregnant they can ask about my boobs.
I think I am really late to the party but I have gotten both of these too. The hands over head gave me pause during the few seconds it took to google, but a pedicure? Come on.
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
My MIL "favorite" thing to say so far is about how she can't believe we are having a girl considering he has already had one with a previous relationship. She just kept saying you can't have a girl we already have one.i just want to scream because I can't make the decision, I don't have a girl, stop ruining this for me. this is my first child and I don't want it to be my last even if I have five girls.
My sister in law, husband's brother's wife (I feel this is important because his sisters are brilliant) told me that I have to be careful of putting my hands over my head as I get further along because I could wrap the umbilical cord around the baby's neck. I just walked away. I posted on Facebook about two weeks ago that I could use a pedicure. Someone warned me it could send me into labor. At 16 weeks. I said "with all due respect, that's bull s***. I can not believe people believe this nonsense. Also, people have decided since I'm pregnant they can ask about my boobs.
I think I am really late to the party but I have gotten both of these too. The hands over head gave me pause during the few seconds it took to google, but a pedicure? Come on.
There are pressure points in the feet that are supposed to induce labor. But a week and a half passed my due date with DD I was massaging the hell out of them with no sign of labor, if only it were that easy!
I also seem to get alot of 'Are you taking prenatal vitamins, you know you're supposed to' which pisses me off. Like, no, I've done no reading, had no prenatal appointments and just have no idea about anything, thank goodness you were there to rescue me! Grrr...
About 10 minutes after I got to work today a lady on my team stares at me and says, where is your breakfast? I responded with, haven't gotten it yet (we have a cafe at our job). She continues to stare and flat out says, your huge....I stared at her for a second and she's like WHAT you knew this would happen ..I then respond with, that extremely inappropriate to say to anyone especially a pregnant woman. Even more so to someone who has severe body image issues and has had an eating disorder in the past. She says well I didn't know that. I said yea exactly why saying that to anyone is inappropriate. I then had to walk away before my true crazy came out, can't be on my meds while pregnant! Proud of myself for not actually throat punching her. Oh and she has made several comments on what I eat and stopped me the other day to tell me i waddle. For the record I definitely dont! Lol
Today I had a coworker ask to see my baby bump/belly, and then proceeded to tell me, "I wouldn't even know you're pregnant if I just met you on the street." Soooooo, basically she's telling me I look fat?! I have a low belly bump, then a belly button that is staying "in," and what I swear is my entire GI tract above my belly button. I just thought it was rude....
Ladies I love this thread! I got the beauty sucking comment, people asking how much weight I've gained, saying are you going to be upset if its another boy (seriously) and my personal favorite oh your having another already? You can't even legally drink yet! (I'm 20 married and work a stable job with decent income and my husband does even better) So I just look at people and say yup watch me next week on Jerry springer asshole and walk away lol
I think my sister in law is upset I won't tell anyone the names we picked out. But DH's fam can be so judgemental I'd rather wait. On top of that my mom keeps kissing my stomach. It literally creeps me out and I told her this but she doesn't care! What in the world!? Then all I get are ppl asking me if we have thought about how expensive a baby is... duh! I get it. Diapers and all that cost, but ppl do this all the time. I can't wait until I win the lotto to have a baby! All ppl want to do is out their 2 cents and scare the crap out of you. I don't care if you had 10 kids, I'll ask for advice when I need. Other than that, I'll do this MY WAY thank you!
My favorite is people constantly hounding me about names, then getting visibly pissed when I tell them we haven't decided and are waiting until she's born to divulge it. Then the suggestions as to "you should name her this it that"....thanks, but it's our kid and we didn't ask for input. Or "this name would be perfect and so cute"...again--not your kid!!
People telling me I can't drink. Thanks, I freaking know that and don't even want to!
My MIL on finding out we would find out the sex "oh, you can't just wait?".
All the time people telling me how horrible everything will be and how unprepared they are. I've spent a lot of time with kids, babysitting, nannying and I have 5 nieces and nephews I watched as babies all the time. Thanks, I think I'm pretty realistic and know things will be different now. I chose this, no need to tell me how terrible it will be.
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I'm so sorry that some of you are getting comments about your pups. I thank heavens that people around me know better than to say one word about my sweet fur girl being anything but amazing with baby.
My issue is with "are you getting married?" and "are you excited?"
Whether or not we choose to get married has no bearing on the fact that this child is coming into the world.
And when people ask if I am excited, I want to tell them, "well, right this moment, I am seriously contemplating puking on your shoes, so if you call that excitement..."
The comment that is driving me nuts this week is from my MIL. We are staying at my in-laws this week (going home tonight!!!!) because my husband has meetings up here. I've been losing weight this pregnancy so my doc told me to just eat anything and everything that sounds good. Anyway, my MIL keeps saying "oh you don't want to eat this." Because idk she thinks I feel sick or something. I'm like Im the one who requested blueberry pancakes!!! It sounds like not a big deal, but it is so annoying when she's telling me what I WANT to eat or not eat. Shut up lady!! And @Steffi24 when people give me a suggestion for what we should name our baby it's immediate off the list, this is MY choice not yours!!
Had another nice comment today by the vet, oh dear your life is over?! I wouldn't have minded if she had said it in a more 'jokey' way, but she really seemed to get a kick out of it. I'm really looking forward to this next chapter of my life, and in no way feel that I'm going to be missing out on anything. People hey! Xx
And when people ask if I am excited, I want to tell them, "well, right this moment, I am seriously contemplating puking on your shoes, so if you call that excitement..."
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@mandijjunie I get the "marriage" question constantly. I keep telling everyone that we've done everything else bass-ackwards, we will get around to it eventually. We love our joined family, especially our kids, and we are perfectly fine waiting to get married. Plus, I can guarantee we'll have the cutest little ring bearer and flower girl (at least in my biased opinion).
My MIL is the worst for this. We live in a small town so I hear from friends every time this happens down the street etc. Every time she is even near a baby/little girl (street/shops/sports day/pub) she says 'I'm going to have one of these soon!!! I really want a girl'. She is so OTT. This is her first grandchild and we aren't finding out the gender... I can only imagine all the comments if it is a boy. Also we asked her (all immed family members) to be immunised and she got annoyed and said 'what so does the whole town need to get this???!!' WTF? Most of the town already has children so she is probably one of the few who actually needs it. She also tried to grill me on why couldn't i eat certain things/who told you that (um doctors, national dietary guidelines) and how she ate anything she wanted when she was pregnant. Um, times and research have changed woman! She also has said 'can I offer just ONE piece of advice...' Sooo many times I am questioning her maths skills. She's always been painful so I'm expecting a novels-worth of 'What not to say' over the next few years. Some people just don't have a filter between their brain and mouth.
I had my husbands aunt say " you're not doing one of those STUPID gender reveal parties are you?! Ugh they are so stupid " I just turned to her and said "we were actually. Don't worry, you don't have to come" F you! We also don't plan on sharing the sex.. At least right away (we find out in 2 weeks) people always say "but you'll tell ME right?!" No, not even close.
Just got into an argument with my mother about how grey and white are gender neutral and not "boy colors". Like seriously?
Edit to add: my MIL bought some clothes and they're all grey, white and cream obviously because we don't know the sex yet but she was just dying to buy something. So my mom is saying that my baby will look like a boy because the colors grey and white are boy colors...
My MIL gave me a book on how to properly teach my child good eating habits, and had a chapter book marked on how it all revolves around parents must eat healthy to be a good role model. Cuz I'm an idiot and don't know what a vegetable is.
I have two. First- I was taking my son to get an x ray so the lady asked me if I could be pregnant (I was like 4 weeks then) so I said yes. And after the x rays were done she asked how far a long I was, then asked me if it was my second- I said third and she just said oh and stopped talking. Right cause third babies don't deserve a congrats or anything like that.
Second- I've been really sensitive about my size this time around and people keep asking me "are you sure it's not twins" I don't know for sure if they are referring to my size, but it sure feels that way
At a kids birthday party today another mom (mother of 3) said "oh, I wasn't sure if you were pregnant or not so I didn't want to say anything." I'm a STM and have definitely popped; I have a nice rounded belly that is, I think, obvious. Five minutes later my cousin (mother of irish twins) looks at my belly and says, "well your belly popped quickly this time!"
Both comments made me feel like I look fat! Can't people just stop commenting about a pregnant woman size? If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all! The only thing you should say about a pregnant woman's body is "you look beautiful!" Or something equally as nice.
I'm also tired of people asking me how I feel. I have one person who asks this everytime she sees me, which is often. I know it is well meaning so I smile and say I'm feeling well, thank you.
I live in a small town in the north of Italy. When people stop me to congratulate me I have had on numerous occasions " Auguri, sai contenta?" .....which translates to "Congratulations, Are you happy?" WTF type of question is that. I blabber out a "yes, of course I'm happy" but next time I will say "No, actually I'm devastated and just booked the abortion for next week".....and see if they like that answer to their RIDICULOUS question!
Another one I keep getting that is really annoying is about how we will never do anything fun again once we have kids. We love to travel and go out of the country multiple times a year just for fun and to see new places. We just got back from Canada last week, our last planned vacation before baby arrives, and people kept telling us "Better enjoy it now cause you'll never go anywhere again once you have kids!"
I understand it will be more difficult and take more planning, but I seriously doubt we will become the couple who never leaves our town. We are looking forward to discovering cool new places with our kids!
So many things have happened this pregnancy, i may need more than one post! -MIL- they will teach you how to breastfeed at the hospital, no point in researching/going to classes. -MIL- you first kid will be your test child, you will mess everything up and they will never live up to your expectations #me&hubbyare1stkids -MIL- me and FIL want to wait to find out the sex of your baby until after birth, but I ca see that is impossible for you to do. -SIL- i know your theme is monsters, but since me parents bought him fox dolls, are you going to work that into your theme? #f@$kno -everyone 2 weeks after we finished researching and registering- i know someone who didnt like your choice of x,y, and z. They had twins so they know better than you with this being your first child! -myparents and other family- i hate the name you picked out for your baby, how about a new nickname suggestion everyday. -my parents- making your own babyfood from your garden will give your kid cancer, why cant you buy it from the store like normal people. -MIL- your not going to use pacifiers? Does your husband have bad teeth (yes)? He loved pacifiers and he breastfed for 3 months, pacifiers do not effect teeth or breastfeeding.
Kind of annoyed by my friends mum who was babbling on about a needle on a string to find out the gender... If it swings one way it's a boy if it swings the other it's a girl. I just laughed politely. She then rubbed my belly and hugged me goodbye. WHY MUST YOU TOUCH ME?!
I got told today that for 18 weeks, I'm barely showing and by 20 weeks I should have a decent size bump ..evidently they don't remember how I looked before being pregnant. Granted I don't show revealing clothes but still. Then while eating, I get "so, are you eating more now?" As I was on my 3rd ear of corn and 3rd piece of BBQ chicken. Thank God my husband was there because he pointed out that before being pregnant, I ate, I just didn't pig out at family cookouts. Now people expect me to eat more so I don't feel bad pigging out. My biggest problem is that I don't usually get full at cookouts, I seriously get tired of eating. My jaw starts to hurt..
I am very happy that mostly people have been great (esp family including MIL). But one thing that I've gotten a *ton* that really bugs me - I've told a few people who have all responded something along the lines of, "Well, I was expecting this news from you."
Like, yes, it's no secret we wanted kids, but it'd be nice if you were still excited for us?! Someone said again to me today and the first thing I thought was, "I have to post this to the vent thread!!"
I get that too. Hubby and I storm chase (behind storms, not in like crazy people) so we travel cross country several weekend a summer. Everyone has told us we won't be able to anymore, despite having a huge familial support system nearby us and prearranged babysitting duty with the youngest aunt until kiddo is older. I do plan on taking lo camping and traveling with us, why would we stop enjoying our hobbies instead of sharing with our kid?
MIL was telling me all about how she only put DH and his brother to sleep on their stomachs. She says it's ridiculous how drs advise baby's to sleep on their backs now. Umm...there's a ton of research behind that suggestion and i guarantee our child will be on his or her back while sleeping. I told DH I don't trust her right now to watch the baby overnight until he can guarantee me the baby will not be put down on his/her stomach.
Omg @MMLmeow my mother mentions this every time we have a conversation.. How much better it is on the stomach and how eventually the modern opinion will be reversed! I have to just hold my tongue. It drives me nuts!
Can I vent about how frustrating it is to get "advice" shoved down your throat over innocent conversations about convertible cribs or etc.? I don't give advice to my friends on how to raise their children when we all know they are doing a terrible job at times or drank a bottle of wine during their pregnancy. This especially includes opinions from strangers and women that gave birth 30 years ago. I feel much better now lol. If I want your advice I will ask for it. For now let me look gliders and cribs in peace
I was at a bridal shower this weekend and I told an older woman I was pregnant (I'm 19w4d and definitely popped). She responded with...."Ohh....I just thought you just had a big belly". No she was not sarcastic. Then later I was talking to another older lady who's daughter happens to have the same due date as me who told me "Wow you're a lot bigger then my daughter! Are you sure you're not farther along?" I know neither of these comments are that bad but both in one day when I'm already feeling sensitive to the weight gain kind of made me want to devour an extra few cartons of ice cream when I got home. And really?! Why is it not taboo to talk about the size of a pregnant woman to said pregnant women when you don't even know her??
We were moving and some friends came over to help... I was moving pillows and blankets because my friends (not SO) wouldn't let me. My SO knows i wont do anything that would be to difficult for me.
Re: can we have a vent about dumb things people say to us?
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
I then had to walk away before my true crazy came out, can't be on my meds while pregnant! Proud of myself for not actually throat punching her. Oh and she has made several comments on what I eat and stopped me the other day to tell me i waddle. For the record I definitely dont! Lol
Hey pudgy!
yea... I don't think I tatters at ALL but for the record I haven't popped, I'm almost 19 wks, and I've gained 3 lbs.....
My issue is with "are you getting married?" and "are you excited?"
Whether or not we choose to get married has no bearing on the fact that this child is coming into the world.
And when people ask if I am excited, I want to tell them, "well, right this moment, I am seriously contemplating puking on your shoes, so if you call that excitement..."
I'm really looking forward to this next chapter of my life, and in no way feel that I'm going to be missing out on anything. People hey! Xx
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Edit to add: my MIL bought some clothes and they're all grey, white and cream obviously because we don't know the sex yet but she was just dying to buy something. So my mom is saying that my baby will look like a boy because the colors grey and white are boy colors...
Second- I've been really sensitive about my size this time around and people keep asking me "are you sure it's not twins" I don't know for sure if they are referring to my size, but it sure feels that way
Both comments made me feel like I look fat! Can't people just stop commenting about a pregnant woman size? If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all! The only thing you should say about a pregnant woman's body is "you look beautiful!" Or something equally as nice.
I'm also tired of people asking me how I feel. I have one person who asks this everytime she sees me, which is often. I know it is well meaning so I smile and say I'm feeling well, thank you.
And every time I'm somewhere with alcohol people feel the need to make sure I'm not drinking. I find that so insulting!!
WTF type of question is that. I blabber out a "yes, of course I'm happy" but next time I will say "No, actually I'm devastated and just booked the abortion for next week".....and see if they like that answer to their RIDICULOUS question!
-MIL- they will teach you how to breastfeed at the hospital, no point in researching/going to classes.
-MIL- you first kid will be your test child, you will mess everything up and they will never live up to your expectations #me&hubbyare1stkids
-MIL- me and FIL want to wait to find out the sex of your baby until after birth, but I ca see that is impossible for you to do.
-SIL- i know your theme is monsters, but since me parents bought him fox dolls, are you going to work that into your theme? #f@$kno
-everyone 2 weeks after we finished researching and registering- i know someone who didnt like your choice of x,y, and z. They had twins so they know better than you with this being your first child!
-myparents and other family- i hate the name you picked out for your baby, how about a new nickname suggestion everyday.
-my parents- making your own babyfood from your garden will give your kid cancer, why cant you buy it from the store like normal people.
-MIL- your not going to use pacifiers? Does your husband have bad teeth (yes)? He loved pacifiers and he breastfed for 3 months, pacifiers do not effect teeth or breastfeeding.
Le ugh
Kind of annoyed by my friends mum who was babbling on about a needle on a string to find out the gender... If it swings one way it's a boy if it swings the other it's a girl. I just laughed politely. She then rubbed my belly and hugged me goodbye. WHY MUST YOU TOUCH ME?!
My biggest problem is that I don't usually get full at cookouts, I seriously get tired of eating. My jaw starts to hurt..
Like, yes, it's no secret we wanted kids, but it'd be nice if you were still excited for us?! Someone said again to me today and the first thing I thought was, "I have to post this to the vent thread!!"
I get that too. Hubby and I storm chase (behind storms, not in like crazy people) so we travel cross country several weekend a summer. Everyone has told us we won't be able to anymore, despite having a huge familial support system nearby us and prearranged babysitting duty with the youngest aunt until kiddo is older. I do plan on taking lo camping and traveling with us, why would we stop enjoying our hobbies instead of sharing with our kid?