NBR - Tough Times

JamieA322 · August 2015

I recently posted in a thread about my dad's cancer. He has an incurable brain cancer. Just this week, we were informed that there is no more they can do for him. Any prayers are welcome.

I also wanted to ask if you have natural anxiety relief methods. I am trying my best to remain calm, but I am a true daddy's girl and this is tough. Thanks.

grapesoda1111 · August 2015

I am so sorry to hear about this, my heart hurts for you. You and your family will be in my T&Ps. Will he make it to meet the baby?
As far as stress and anxiety, I would recommend yoga/meditation. I used to do that a lot when my mom had cancer, we both did, and I found it very helpful. Also praying, that really did help me "calm down" with any tough parts with her cancer.
Again, I am very sorry and hope things go as well as they possibly can for you and your family!

thefithuntress · August 2015

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. My thoughts are with you and your family. Creepy internet hugs!

buckwheatpancakes · August 2015

I am so sorry for your loss and these tough times. We are going through something similar with my fiance's gma passing this morning from colon cancer.

Writing and spending some time reflecting might bring peace. Celebrate his life, not dwell on the suffering and death. It's also ok to cry it out and experience sorrow and pain. That may help you heal sooner. A warm bath and long naps help me when sad. I hope you and your family find peace and joy again soon.

lakesideknitter · August 2015

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Take care of yourself. As others have said, yoga and meditation are wonderful.

JamieA322 · August 2015

@grapesoda1111 They can't give us a time frame. They said everyone's brain is different, so it depends on the individual person how long it takes. Unfortunately, he is already losing cognitive function. The neat thing is that I am due 2 days before his birthday. My little one should bring some happiness to his birthday even if he isn't here to celebrate it.

Gapeach83 · August 2015

Praying for you. Creepy internet hugs. Also font hold it in all the time. Cry and let it out and take a nice bath. Also as PP enjoy the time you do have don't dwell on the time you dont.

JamieA322 · August 2015

Thanks for the support and advice ladies. It means a lot, and it helps to just talk about it with people not connected to the situation. Talking about it with family is too emotional.

AmoLovesAud · August 2015

My heart goes out to you and your family.

The only advice I can think of for helping is do what you feel your body and mind need to do. If you have to step away from everything and talk a walk around outside, go. Ask if your S/O can make any important phone calls you don't feel up to making at the moment. Its okay to lay down and cry yourself into a nap if you really want to let it out. Which, I know sounds stupid, duh its okay to cry, but when I lost my grandma earlier this year, I didn't realize how much I was bottling up until Hubs told me that it was okay to cry, and I instantly, totally lost it, and I felt a lot better afterwards. So I guess sometimes it helps to hear someone say its okay? I don't know, I just hope it helps in some small way, and I hope you and your family get through this rough time.

dsty1213 · August 2015

I'm so sorry! I'm praying for peace for you and your family. I think it's so sweet that your due date is close to his birthday. May that bring you joy and comfort whether he is there or watching from above.

Ceridwen77 · August 2015

This is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.

Squirtgun · August 2015

I am so sorry! I'll be praying for you and your family.
I hope you have someone in real life you can talk to as needed, whether it is your husband or a close friend. It can really help to have someone you can just talk to. PPs have also given great advice.
Other than that: do you sew? Or does someone close to you sew? It could be really special to make a quilt or pillow or stuffed animal out of some of your dad's shirts for your little one.

JamieA322 · August 2015

@Squirtgun I have a great support system of family and friends. My MIL sews. I'm sure she would make something for me. Thanks for the idea.

tayzav · August 2015

So sorry you're going through something like this. Sending my thoughts and prayers.

dogsombrero · August 2015

I'm so sorry. I love @Squirtgun suggestion of having baby items made out if his items. You may also want to consider the recordable books if your father is feeling up to reading a story once you set them up they keep the recordings even after changing the batteries our son loves his (GPs all live far away). Would your Dad be up to a special photos shoot? Other than that taking good care of yourself and maybe seeing a grief councilor to help you with constructive grieving processes.

Cook3133 · August 2015

So sorry for what your going through. We just lost my uncle (in law) to brain cancer a month ago, he lived almost 2 years longer then expected though.

As far as anxiety I have found that I just need to take a step back, eknowledge to myself that I am feeling over whelmed and take a few deep breaths or just a moments to myself.

Praying for comfort for you and your family

oliarnmom1517 · August 2015

I'm am so sorry you are going through such a tough time and my heart is breaking as I'm reading about your situation.. Sending you thoughts and prayers and lots of Internet hugs.. I know how hard it is to lose somebody close to you from something so serious.. My great aunt died of breast cancer and we were very close and when she died it was very hard and it's still hard around holidays but it does get better.. There will be hard days and there will be good days but it all gets better..

Soyyoyary · August 2015

I'm so sorry..

Motomama67 · August 2015

Lots and lots of prayers girl. I'm so sorry. Stay strong for your daddy and your LO and of course yourself. For the stress and anxiety, Try "rescue remedy" it's absolutely safe for pregnancy and nursing also 100% natural. Lots of wonderful reviews. Try to keep your head up.

nmwheel1 · August 2015

I am so sorry to hear this, sending positive thoughts to you and your family

ChiccoBeanz · August 2015

I am SO sorry to read this and I am sending you love and prayers.

justdoit93 · August 2015

My heart breaks for you. As PPs have said, try to stay calm and strong for your dad, LO and yourself. I also love the idea of making a teddy bear or something out of dads clothes..and when my husband was deployed last year we had a bear from build a bear with his voice in it for our kids and also a hallmark recordable book that they listened too every day and that helped a lot!! Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

lulamagoo · August 2015

I am so sorry.I have no words of wisdom, but will say a prayer.

wulfpackgirl · August 2015

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I was a daddy's girl too. I lost my dad two years ago to ALS. Hardest thing I've ever been thru. Spend every possible minute you can with him and take lots of pictures and videos. You can never have enough of those. The only good thing about terminal illnesses is you get to say goodbye and say everything you need to say. Some don't get that chance. The week my dad died I stayed at my parents house the entire week. We were all together pretty much all day and all slept in the living room (where my dad was in a hospital bed) on the couches. I don't regret a minute of it! The good news is I'm having a boy and his middle name will be after my dad. I'm due five days before my parents anniversary which is the day my mom is hoping for. Hugs to you!!

ColoradoHiker · August 2015

I'm so sorry. I work in the cancer field, and have a close family member also suffering from incurable brain cancer. I still can't imagine how you're feeling, but I will offer you creepy internet hugs as well. For stress management, I really recommend working out in some form- swimming, walking, hiking, elliptical, whatever. Or spending time with close friends for a girls night. Hugs.

JLW0504 · August 2015

I'm so sorry to hear this. I will definitely offer up extra prayers for you and your family.

As far as natural anxiety relievers, I know of none. Just relish the good memories and keep a steady breath.

Bettytteb · August 2015

I am so sorry you are going through this. I lost my mother to cancer when I was 14 and know the hole that it leaves in a life. You will get through this though. As far anxiety relief goes, I suggest taking walks or any other sort of physical activity you like, trying some meditation (headspace is a good app for guided meditation), and music. Also, you might be interested in checking out support groups in your area as it might be helpful to talk to others who are going through this. Best wishes to you, your father, and your family.

pink*sheep · August 2015

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family

VexedMommy · August 2015

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. *hugs*

knolliepollie · August 2015

I'm so sorry to hear this, I'll be thinking about you and your family.

modanz1 · August 2015

So sorry to hear this. I lost my dad 4 years ago and there wasn't anything that helped calm my nerves except time. I was also a daddy's girl, we were super close and losing him was the hardest thing I have ever done. My best advice to you is to make up your mind to celebrate his life rather than mourn it. Obviously there will be days of mourning, but after those first weeks of fog pass, say his name whenever you can, tell his stories, share your memories, laugh. I still feel my dad with me, thankfully that has never gone away. It is heartbreaking to know that my son will never meet his grandpa but I like to think that my dad had something to do with giving me this blessing in the first place. Good luck to you in the coming months. You will be in my thoughts.

Elyse1384 · August 2015

Sorry to hear this. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

ash413 · August 2015

I am so sorry you are going through this, thinking of you and your family right now.

You might think about seeing a therapist or pastor, if anything it will give you a chance to talk to some that is outside of the situation.

CarrieOct15 · August 2015

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Cook3133 · August 2015

I saw these and thought I would share. You could make one for your LO and take a pic with it and your dad to show them later.

mamavbs · August 2015

I'm so sorry

x

JamieA322 · August 2015

Thanks again everyone.

helsbels222 · August 2015

I am so sorry you have to go through this. May I suggest finding a support group for grief and loss. It may help talking to other young adults who are losing their parents to cancer. *hugs and lots of ice cream

kmkrushi · August 2015

No wise words here, but I wanted to say I'm sorry.

aishajohnson3 · August 2015

I deffinatly know your pain. I just went on maternity leave on July 6 and lost my mom on July 21. This pain is like no other. I'm trying to keep it together for my little munchkin but it's hard seeing as how i lost my father 1 year and 10 months ago.Its gonna be hard but i will keep you in my prayers,and ask if you'll do the same for me because everyday is a struggle for me. Thank you.

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