I have been wanting to find a funny and witty response to "how are you feeling?" Because EVERYBODY asks that. And I hear it at least a gazillion times a day
Ugh, same here! Really, I'm fine.
Or coworkers telling me to not do things with patients (help them stand, etc.) I know my limits. I've been a CNA for years, I can handle this right now. I'm not an invalid, stop telling me, "You can't do that!"
OMG I can't stand all the "you can't do that"s anymore! We're gearing up to move, and the amount of people who've suggested that I'm not capable of doing anything at all in relation to moving is ridiculous. Pretty sure I can put a box on the floor, fill it, and tape it up without hurting the baby. Its not like I'm planning to haul the couch out of here myself!
Haha, on one hand it's nice to have people concerned and wanting to do things for you, but on the other, it can get a little annoying and ridiculous. I was pushing an EMPTY metal rolling cart down the hall at school, and my tiny female asst principal and another teacher were freaking out and saying that I shouldn't be pushing it and they could do it for me. I insisted that I was fine. I'm also getting tired of the "How are you feeling?" question a million times a day. On the flip side, I guess if no one cared or paid me any attention, I would think they were rude and I'd be pissed, so there's that!
In our society we would NEVER openly talk to an obese person about their appearance in a way that hurt that person's feelings...but it's completely okay to offend a woman who is growing a human life?!?! I don't get it...
Haha, on one hand it's nice to have people concerned and wanting to do things for you, but on the other, it can get a little annoying and ridiculous. I was pushing an EMPTY metal rolling cart down the hall at school, and my tiny female asst principal and another teacher were freaking out and saying that I shouldn't be pushing it and they could do it for me. I insisted that I was fine. I'm also getting tired of the "How are you feeling?" question a million times a day. On the flip side, I guess if no one cared or paid me any attention, I would think they were rude and I'd be pissed, so there's that!
I agree that concerns come from a good place and I too would probably be upset if nobody cared. But "don't lift that!" drives me crazy. I have a 35lb toddler at home and I lift him several times a day, so I really will be ok. Also the answer to "are you allowed to eat that?" is always "yes" with various expletives inserted depending on my mood and how well you know me!
Hehehe, my DH's family is huge and very close knit. So I get a lot of calls daily if not sms' asking how I'm feeling . I think it's sweet because I'm a FTM and most of them understand that I find it a bit overwhelming sometimes. I find it odd because my own mother couldn't care less, I just don't appreciate comments from strangers though. I always have come backs in my head when reading such threads but I know that when the time comes and someone says one idiotic comment to my face eventually, I won't have a come back )
I definitely agree with the endless "How are you feeling?" inquiries. I feel even worse being annoyed by them, as I know those people mean well...but I am pregnant, not ill!
I also agree with people trying to "protect" me. The other day, my (male) boss kept insisting on carrying my purse to the car for me. My purse! I assured him I could handle it, seeing as many women continue safely weight lifting throughout their pregnancies, and I've been swimming a mile per day throughout mine.
The other day, a woman at work advised that I schedule a C-section so that I can plan around a specific date, instead of waiting to go into labor naturally. Apparently, that's what she did, and she found it much more convenient. WTF? Thanks for the advice, but I'd rather not elect to have major surgery (which isn't as beneficial to my baby as a vaginal delivery) for no reason other than my convenience. Some people, man.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
I don't get too many comments, but strangers stare! Sometimes I wish they would comment just so I can stop assuming that they're wondering if I'm pregnant or fat!
Last weekend, a family friend who we don't see very often learned I was pregnant and said, "Oh really!? I didn't notice!!" So, basically you're saying that you've known me my whole life and still just thought this strange shape I've developed over the last 25wks was normal?! Thanks for making me feel self conscious and fat!
I got the most tactful way of saying I don't look pregnant today. A woman in my small group said "I know you're pregnant, but you're carrying yourself so beautifully you'd almost never know! You look like a Greek goddess today!"
More people need to take a note out of her playbook. I've obviously gained weight in my belly and to those who don't know me I just look fat, but I felt less fat today!
I hate the "are you excited?" Question... Really, that's what you're going to ask? I am, but what if I said no? Bet you'd feel like a jerk!
Also I had a coworker comment to me while we were in the bathroom "if I'm in here and you start having contractions, I'm running and getting your husband" (DH and I work together) Gee thanks lady...but I was hoping you'd keep it a secret and deliver this baby for me
I think people just feel the need to comment. People who I never talk to normally or strangers feel the need to make a comment even in passing.
***ATTENTION STRANGERS! It's ok to not say ANYTHING!****
Some teeny skinny lady in Starbucks asked me how far along I was then said "are you having twins, omg you're going to be huge!?" I wanted to say "do you wanna be punched in the nose? No, I didn't think so, quit asking me rude questions!" That was my first encounter with a rude idiot. It took everythinggggg in me not to be rude back, like...everything. It ruined my whole day. Needless to say I'm measuring perfectly and I'm fine with weight. Stupid woman!
I'm the taproom manager at a local brewery in Colorado and a guy comes in yesterday, notices that I'm pregnant (it's finally becoming apparent to people, I guess), and suddenly can't talk about anything else...super annoying!
First he says he just heard a story that will soon apply to me and tells me about a woman who was asked to leave Victoria's Secret in Vegas because she was breastfeeding. So I ask him how exactly this story applies to me?? He goes, well you're going to be breastfeeding soon. I tell him that he shouldn't make assumptions about other people. I can't even believe the nerve of some people...I fully intend to try BF, but why a stranger thinks it's appropriate to assume that about a woman is beyond me!
I guess I wasn't rude enough because then later he saw me tasting a new beer we just tapped (i've been trying tiny sips here and there--don't flame me), and he's jumps in with "are you making sure you're drinking in moderation?" I turn to look at him, hoping scathingly, and said that's none of your business.
Again, not rude enough, he kept asking me questions about my pregnancy. I just ignored him til he left a while later.
So it didn't bother me when she first said it because it was in the middle of telling me how cute I look. But the woman I babysit for told me this evening that I look bigger every time she sees me... I see her every 12 hours. Yikes, I must be growing at a crazy rate!
people at work are getting strange since I finally started showing... yesterday I had two people buy me cookies and another lady I work with followed me down the hall asking if I needed help carrying my laptop bag. Thank you for the cookies and the offer but I'm really fine, I swear
My best friend moved several states away when I was around 8 weeks, but we text all the time.. "I feel like you've been pregnant forever. You're so boring now" really? I'm sorry that me not partying with you anymore is such an inconvenience...oh wait you live in Florida and I'm in Ohio so I wouldn't be anyway.
A woman in my office who I have NEVER spoken to before, asked me if I've had an "problems or complications" with my pregnancy so far. I'm sorry, but since when is it okay ask strangers very personal, medical questions? I've been lucky with an uncomplicated pregnancy, but what if I DID have complications? I swear, people don't think.
Sadly this is my second post on this board. People i interact with just can't seem to get it.
Walk in to get a pedicure and the lady asks when I'm due. So I get all excited because I love when people notice on their own. So I tell her. Then she comes back with "wow you must be having a big baby!"
I hate the "are you excited?" Question...
Really, that's what you're going to ask? I am, but what if I said no? Bet you'd feel like a jerk!
Also I had a coworker comment to me while we were in the bathroom "if I'm in here and you start having contractions, I'm running and getting your husband" (DH and I work together)
Gee thanks lady...but I was hoping you'd keep it a secret and deliver this baby for me
I think people just feel the need to comment. People who I never talk to normally or strangers feel the need to make a comment even in passing.
***ATTENTION STRANGERS! It's ok to not say ANYTHING!****
This. So much eye rolling. I feel like people have some robotic voice inside them that says "Alert, pregnant person coming. Must say something to them, even if you don't know them. "
I have strangers on the subway say random things to me all the time. Just because I'm pregnant, does NOT mean you're required to speak to me. You would be ignoring me if I weren't pregnant, why is this any different????
Sadly this is my second post on this board. People i interact with just can't seem to get it.
Walk in to get a pedicure and the lady asks when I'm due. So I get all excited because I love when people notice on their own. So I tell her. Then she comes back with "wow you must be having a big baby!"
Thanks.
WHY THE HELL do people think it's EVER ok to comment on a pregnant person's size? UGH.
I know this is a forum about what not to say to pregnant women, but I just wanted to give my fiancé credit when last night I belly flopped onto our bed and after asking me what was wrong and me telling him I feel fat, he said "I don't understand how pregnant women can look at it that way! You're doing an amazing thing and growing an actual human being! You're not fat! That's a baby!" Made me tear up because of how sweet he is and I don't even have to coach him on it!
I know this is a forum about what not to say to pregnant women, but I just wanted to give my fiancé credit when last night I belly flopped onto our bed and after asking me what was wrong and me telling him I feel fat, he said "I don't understand how pregnant women can look at it that way! You're doing an amazing thing and growing an actual human being! You're not fat! That's a baby!" Made me tear up because of how sweet he is and I don't even have to coach him on it!
That's sweet! Whenever I'm feeling dumpy, SO always knows what to say to cheer me up.
I know this is a forum about what not to say to pregnant women, but I just wanted to give my fiancé credit when last night I belly flopped onto our bed and after asking me what was wrong and me telling him I feel fat, he said "I don't understand how pregnant women can look at it that way! You're doing an amazing thing and growing an actual human being! You're not fat! That's a baby!" Made me tear up because of how sweet he is and I don't even have to coach him on it!
SO always tells me how beautiful I am and he can't get enough sex. He loves the way my body looks pregnant and always makes me feel better when I am feeling fat and disgusting. He gets mad and sympathizes with me when people say stupid things to me. At least there's one person who gets it.
I'm really annoyed right now, and I know it's irrational to be as angry as I am, but this woman I work with just said to me "Oh my god, you are SO cute right now. Do you feel cute? Because you are SO cute." Just for context, I hurt my hip, so I was limping around, kind of pushing my belly out and waddling into the kitchen. I was like "Not in the slightest, I feel fat and uncomfortable." and then stormed out.
She's like the sweetest person in the world, but I had the overwhelming urge to punch her in the face just now. She also likes to touch my belly button, which 1. just plain weirds me out and 2. makes me physically uncomfortable because it's been extra sensitive while it has been stretching out lately.
My bf: my back hurts my chest hurts my stomach hurts, babe I need to goto er to be seen (or) can you get me this, and this, and that, oh and those too bc it hurts to move.
Me: my back, chest, stomach, ribs, hips, are killing me, I feel like when I walk a baby is literally going to fall out of my vagina, I have Braxton hicks like a mofo and it makes it difficult to walk, that and I'm exhausted I can hardly function and I do everything already for a 2 year old, yet I can get my own glass of milk and you don't hear me complaining or saying I need to see a Dr about any of my problems!
My bf: your pregnant, your supposed to feel that way it's normal.
POINT IS I HURT TOO I MATTER TOO GET UO AND GET YOUR OWN DAMN BLANKET!
My mom and I were chatting about childbirth last night (a normal occurrence, since she is an L&D nurse), and I mentioned how I have no idea what to expect pain-wise, since I've never really been in excruciating pain before. I basically have no baseline to determine my pain tolerance.
She asks me if I get bad cramps, & I let her know that I don't, especially because I was on Depo for 7 years.
A guy I work with just went on a mini rant about how fat my feet are and how it's freaking him out. He's usually a pretty funny cool dude, but I just wanted to hit him. Yes. I have swollen feet. They are not cute. I am fully aware. Thank you for talking about how disgusting they are to you for a solid 2 minutes.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
When I mentioned that my baby is "big for her age" and in the 88th percentile according to the doc my co-worker said, "Yeah, you are definitely a lot bigger in the belly"
Should I be grateful that she just said "bigger in the belly"? Or terrified that my baby is going to be a 10 pounder?
So we are at the small park in my small town listening to a small town band play at the gazebo. And when I say small there was about 20-30 people there maybe, anyway my 3 lil boys wanted to stop and listen to the music and play on the tiny playground they have. I thought what the heck might as well. So my boys are having a great time and I am sitting watching them play and this lady comes over and says one of my boys is causing problems for 2 girls on the playground. That he's not listening and broke one of there shoes. I'm thinking ok doesn't sound like my boy but I had him come over and asked him if he broke a shoe and he said no, I asked him if he was being mean and he said no. Shelikr oh I had 2 boys to I know what it's like to have one like that that doesn't listen. I was like well he's 3. This pissed me off, then I realized the two girls she was talking about were 10! Seriously a lil 3 year old is not causing problems he was trying to play and they were trying to be miss bossy pants and of corse he's not going to listen to them! He doesn't have to. THEN she has the nerve to say oh are you getting a girl this time? Kind of sarcastically.... Oh bitch no you didn't! I said no I am having another beautiful boy with a big smile on my face! She's like oh... As if it's horrible to have a bunch of boys. What I wanted to say was how about you tell your rotten girls who are playing on a play set ment to be for kids under 6 to stop trying to boss around lil kids and tattle on 3 year olds! Get a grip lady!!
Oh she is lucky my husband is the fire chief and I won't ruin his reputation in town with being "that" wife, and that one of his bosses was there or I would of let her have it.
A somewhat confused little old lady at the nursing home I work at asked me how the baby was today. I said she was good, that she was kicking me. And she said, "Then you know it's still alive."
What the actual fuck?! What a twisted and creepy thing to say!
I'm starting to wonder if people think it's rude to not say anything to a pregnant woman. Like they need to acknowledge we're making a human but they don't know what to say
I just love when people tell me how painful it's going to be and then are suprised when they tell me how much I'll need the epidural and I say, "I'm not having one" and then being told something condescending like, "oh, just you wait, you'll be begging soon enough!" Wow! That's super supportive and I didn't think I asked for your advice on birthing in the first place!
I just love when people tell me how painful it's going to be and then are suprised when they tell me how much I'll need the epidural and I say, "I'm not having one" and then being told something condescending like, "oh, just you wait, you'll be begging soon enough!" Wow! That's super supportive and I didn't think I asked for your advice on birthing in the first place!
Oh, I hate this. No matter what I say on ANYTHING, I hear, "You'll change your mind." Shut up no I won't! And even if I do, screw you!
I got a mani pedi to get myself relax after finding out I have gestational diabetes. The guy who did my pedicure asked me "how many are in there?" The woman who did my manicure asked how far along I was and then did the math in her head and pointed to my stomach and said "wow, so big!" WTF??? Hahah
A coworker asked me what we were naming the baby, so I told him. My other coworker asks what is that baby's last name.... it seemed like a weird question but I told him mine and DH last name. He responds, "well you never know these days"
I work for a dentist, and we were working on this freaking psycho lady the other day. I mean, I couldn't make her up if I tried. I won't bore you with the details, but while we are doing her dental work, she moves her arm around the chair to just rest it on my belly. I gave her this look and she's like "oh I just love babies, I haven't been around them since I was pregnant with my own (she's 54) you'll have to text me and let me know when he's here so I can come see him!"
I've only met her once before.
Oh and she also cried over the name we chose saying how beautiful it was. Cried.
I work for a dentist, and we were working on this freaking psycho lady the other day. I mean, I couldn't make her up if I tried. I won't bore you with the details, but while we are doing her dental work, she moves her arm around the chair to just rest it on my belly. I gave her this look and she's like "oh I just love babies, I haven't been around them since I was pregnant with my own (she's 54) you'll have to text me and let me know when he's here so I can come see him!"
I've only met her once before.
Oh and she also cried over the name we chose saying how beautiful it was. Cried.
I worked in Oral Surgery for almost 8 years and I swear people getting dental work/surgery are freaking nuts!!! I'm laughing reading this because I can seriously picture this whole scenario in my head hahaha. AWKWARD!!!
I work for a dentist, and we were working on this freaking psycho lady the other day. I mean, I couldn't make her up if I tried. I won't bore you with the details, but while we are doing her dental work, she moves her arm around the chair to just rest it on my belly. I gave her this look and she's like "oh I just love babies, I haven't been around them since I was pregnant with my own (she's 54) you'll have to text me and let me know when he's here so I can come see him!"
I've only met her once before.
Oh and she also cried over the name we chose saying how beautiful it was. Cried.
I worked in Oral Surgery for almost 8 years and I swear people getting dental work/surgery are freaking nuts!!! I'm laughing reading this because I can seriously picture this whole scenario in my head hahaha. AWKWARD!!!
Yes! I don't know what it is but it really brings out the crazies. And they all LOVE talking about my pregnancy. One guy on his way out asked me not when I was due, but when I CONCEIVED. Not sharing that with you, bud.
I work for a dentist, and we were working on this freaking psycho lady the other day. I mean, I couldn't make her up if I tried. I won't bore you with the details, but while we are doing her dental work, she moves her arm around the chair to just rest it on my belly. I gave her this look and she's like "oh I just love babies, I haven't been around them since I was pregnant with my own (she's 54) you'll have to text me and let me know when he's here so I can come see him!"
I've only met her once before.
Oh and she also cried over the name we chose saying how beautiful it was. Cried.
I worked in Oral Surgery for almost 8 years and I swear people getting dental work/surgery are freaking nuts!!! I'm laughing reading this because I can seriously picture this whole scenario in my head hahaha. AWKWARD!!!
Yes! I don't know what it is but it really brings out the crazies. And they all LOVE talking about my pregnancy. One guy on his way out asked me not when I was due, but when I CONCEIVED. Not sharing that with you, bud.
Re: Things not to say to a pregnant woman. .....
Also the answer to "are you allowed to eat that?" is always "yes" with various expletives inserted depending on my mood and how well you know me!
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
I don't get too many comments, but strangers stare! Sometimes I wish they would comment just so I can stop assuming that they're wondering if I'm pregnant or fat!
Last weekend, a family friend who we don't see very often learned I was pregnant and said, "Oh really!? I didn't notice!!" So, basically you're saying that you've known me my whole life and still just thought this strange shape I've developed over the last 25wks was normal?! Thanks for making me feel self conscious and fat!
More people need to take a note out of her playbook. I've obviously gained weight in my belly and to those who don't know me I just look fat, but I felt less fat today!
Really, that's what you're going to ask? I am, but what if I said no? Bet you'd feel like a jerk!
Also I had a coworker comment to me while we were in the bathroom "if I'm in here and you start having contractions, I'm running and getting your husband" (DH and I work together)
Gee thanks lady...but I was hoping you'd keep it a secret and deliver this baby for me
I think people just feel the need to comment. People who I never talk to normally or strangers feel the need to make a comment even in passing.
***ATTENTION STRANGERS! It's ok to not say ANYTHING!****
"I feel like you've been pregnant forever. You're so boring now"
really? I'm sorry that me not partying with you anymore is such an inconvenience...oh wait you live in Florida and I'm in Ohio so I wouldn't be anyway.
Walk in to get a pedicure and the lady asks when I'm due. So I get all excited because I love when people notice on their own. So I tell her. Then she comes back with "wow you must be having a big baby!"
Thanks.
Me: my back, chest, stomach, ribs, hips, are killing me, I feel like when I walk a baby is literally going to fall out of my vagina, I have Braxton hicks like a mofo and it makes it difficult to walk, that and I'm exhausted I can hardly function and I do everything already for a 2 year old, yet I can get my own glass of milk and you don't hear me complaining or saying I need to see a Dr about any of my problems!
My bf: your pregnant, your supposed to feel that way it's normal.
POINT IS I HURT TOO I MATTER TOO GET UO AND GET YOUR OWN DAMN BLANKET!
They just don't understand -.-
"Do you ever stop peeing, other people might have to use the bathroom too!"
When I mentioned that my baby is "big for her age" and in the 88th percentile according to the doc my co-worker said, "Yeah, you are definitely a lot bigger in the belly"
Should I be grateful that she just said "bigger in the belly"? Or terrified that my baby is going to be a 10 pounder?
Hint--it was the latter.
So we are at the small park in my small town listening to a small town band play at the gazebo. And when I say small there was about 20-30 people there maybe, anyway my 3 lil boys wanted to stop and listen to the music and play on the tiny playground they have. I thought what the heck might as well. So my boys are having a great time and I am sitting watching them play and this lady comes over and says one of my boys is causing problems for 2 girls on the playground. That he's not listening and broke one of there shoes. I'm thinking ok doesn't sound like my boy but I had him come over and asked him if he broke a shoe and he said no, I asked him if he was being mean and he said no. Shelikr oh I had 2 boys to I know what it's like to have one like that that doesn't listen. I was like well he's 3. This pissed me off, then I realized the two girls she was talking about were 10! Seriously a lil 3 year old is not causing problems he was trying to play and they were trying to be miss bossy pants and of corse he's not going to listen to them! He doesn't have to. THEN she has the nerve to say oh are you getting a girl this time? Kind of sarcastically.... Oh bitch no you didn't! I said no I am having another beautiful boy with a big smile on my face! She's like oh... As if it's horrible to have a bunch of boys. What I wanted to say was how about you tell your rotten girls who are playing on a play set ment to be for kids under 6 to stop trying to boss around lil kids and tattle on 3 year olds! Get a grip lady!!
Oh she is lucky my husband is the fire chief and I won't ruin his reputation in town with being "that" wife, and that one of his bosses was there or I would of let her have it.
Sorry for the long rant
What the actual fuck?! What a twisted and creepy thing to say!
A. I'm not sure how to react to that, especially when I've never met you before.
B. Why? Why are you sharing this with me; a woman you've never met who is very pregnant. It was terrifying and so sad...
I've only met her once before.
Oh and she also cried over the name we chose saying how beautiful it was. Cried.
People really have no filter!