Let's talk about sex...

anewideefixe · August 2015

I tried searching but didn't find anything so I hope this is not a duplicate thread!

I have always loved sex with my husband but right now it's extremely uncomfortable.

I know it is normal but does anyone have any suggestions? We have tried lube and different positions but it feels like it burns. It also feels like he his hitting something in there. He hates that I don't enjoy it so he can't enjoy it. I don't want to go 9 more months like this! I'm jealous of all you ladies that are having amazing sex!

strlitemiss · August 2015

Play a game called just the tip. Then slowly add more until you've had a enough. The slow little teasing game is fun too

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RissKay · August 2015

I really don't think he's actually hitting anything. I could be wrong though.

Try some different kinds of lube. That's all I have to suggest.

A lot of the awkwardness can be mental. I had to get over that the 1st time around.

bpsproule · August 2015

I couldn't have sex for probably the first 10 weeks, i had the burning feeling too, and now it can get uncomfortable if he goes too deep.

slthomp92 · August 2015

We're in the same boat. I spot like crazy when we have sex, which we know is normal, but we limit it to just a few times a week now (which is WAY more often than I even really want to, which is also disappointing). We've just been easy and gentle. Praying the second trimester is sexier lol.

cMichelle0423 · August 2015

Unfortunately this was us during my last pregnancy. Everything felt so uncomfortable and even painful. We had a hard time using lubes because they would burn the crap out of my crotch. Basically a lot of foreplay helped and taking things slow. This time around in less uncomfortable, but I do end up very sore for a few days after we DTD.

kateryna72 · August 2015

Actually you might want to get checked out for a possible yeast infection. It's super common during pregnancy, and I was having a lot of burning/discomfort during sex until my doc found that I had a minor yeast infection during my last exam. Fun times.

MamaFroFro · August 2015

Ugh I totally know what you are talking about! It is awful. I was ok in the first tri and it was great, now it's painful. If I figure out anything that helps I will report back.

babymakes8ofus · August 2015

I'm not to crazy on sex either but we compromise. He rubs his tip just on my clit

hlmdeck · August 2015

I'm totally down with getting down, because I'm more sensitive.... But I've told H he has to make it a quickie until further notice for the exact same reason, it can start to hurt.

oxsarah7ox · August 2015

strlitemiss said:

Play a game called just the tip. Then slowly add more until you've had a enough. The slow little teasing game is fun too )

This is pretty much it right here! I spot when we have sex and have cramping, and when we use lube it burns a little lately. So we do the just the tip game for a little while lol. But another good thing is a little foreplay to loosen you up and stretch you out a little so you dont have to use any lube that might burn.

charliegoldengirl · August 2015

slthomp92 said:

We're in the same boat. I spot like crazy when we have sex, which we know is normal, but we limit it to just a few times a week now (which is WAY more often than I even really want to, which is also disappointing). We've just been easy and gentle. Praying the second trimester is sexier lol.

A FEW TIMES A WEEK? Sheesh. I'm feeling good if we get 'er done a few times a month at this point. Because we were on vacation we actually did have sex three times in one week a few weeks ago and I'm all like "sooo..we good til Sept?"

22snc12 · August 2015

strlitemiss said:
Play a game called just the tip. Then slowly add more until you've had a enough. The slow little teasing game is fun too )

This made me lol. I thought this was something my husband and I made up and named. :-)

dtaded13 · August 2015

I have the same is sure but found Reverse cowgirl? Not sure if that's the real name ☺️ but that angle seems to help and you control how deep

oxfordlanding · August 2015

If you feel like he's hiting something get him to aim to one side a bit. It's not the baby but he might be poking you which can be uncomfortable.

brushesnbrunch · August 2015

charliegoldengirl said:

slthomp92 said:

We're in the same boat. I spot like crazy when we have sex, which we know is normal, but we limit it to just a few times a week now (which is WAY more often than I even really want to, which is also disappointing). We've just been easy and gentle. Praying the second trimester is sexier lol.

A FEW TIMES A WEEK? Sheesh. I'm feeling good if we get 'er done a few times a month at this point. Because we were on vacation we actually did have sex three times in one week a few weeks ago and I'm all like "sooo..we good til Sept?"

H is lucky if he gets some once a month...

kkoloj · August 2015

I'm very sensitive and the lube I use is called Platinum Wet...all that other stuff burns me bad. I haven't needed lube for a while now because of all the cm. DH complains that we don't do it every day..I've got him compromised to every 2 to 3 days. It hurts after 5 min w me now and at least he thanked me for considering his needs the last time lol, because he knows I wasn't really into it.

minivanmafia · August 2015

RissKay said:

I really don't think he's actually hitting anything. I could be wrong though. Try some different kinds of lube. That's all I have to suggest. A lot of the awkwardness can be mental. I had to get over that the 1st time around.

Yeah you can hit the cervix. It is totally normal and won't cause any problems but its extremely common. I second the mental comment though, you got to get your head in the game!

OP: Same boat. Sex during my first pregnancy and this on (The third) is very uncomfortable. Sex during the second was fine… decipher that one? Ha.

mcklough · August 2015

This thread is blowing my mind (no pun intended... Ok maybe a little pun). I'm on pelvic rest anyways so it's not really an issue but the LAST thing I would want is sex right now. I feel like everything makes me feel sick and anything that even remotely raises my heart rate I'm at a risk of puking.

Thinking about sex is even making me feel nauseous.

chelenwhisarbo · August 2015

Til week 10 i couldnt get aroused. Haha after 10 weeks hit i seemed to want it all the time and couldnt get enough. He was shocked. But before it just was dry and uncomfortable. We didnt try lube, but i still really didnt want any at that time. So maybe in a couple weeks itll get better til then try some other stuff. My husband loves hand jobs, so normally thats what i did for him
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beccahanlon · August 2015

The last thing I want is sex when I feel like I'm going to throw up most of the day. My poor husband. He's very understanding but we have sex once a week at most. This baby is cramping on my sex life already!

DaisyTortilla · August 2015

We usually just take it slow. But we can't go more than like a couple of days without it. Different positions make me uncomfortable but he's understanding when I tell him I can't do it that way this time.