Feeling unwanted

lonwilcoxon · August 2015

Many of you may have experienced increased libidos. I've always had a healthy sexual relationship with my fiancé engaging in intercourse a few times a week and we would cuddle up on the couch together in the evenings daily. However, now with my belly getting bigger and feeling aches and uncomfortable it's harder to cuddle on the couch like we used to. Moreover, we are hardly sexual... Once a week. This behavior is recent.. But it's very frustrating. I know maneuvering during sex is a little difficult with belly in the way. But I'm trying and we've talked about it but it seems like we can't put mind over matter. Does anyone have any tips? I've kept in shape during my pregnancy, I still try to keep up with my appearance (not crazy into makeup but I also haven't let myself lounge around in sweats.. Mostly because it's summer lol) How do I get him to find me sexy and initiate sex without thinking about hurting the baby..

TheSouffleGirl · August 2015

As far as I can tell, once a week is pretty good during pregnancy.

. I know it's frustrating for all of us, but I'd just say that this all sounds normal! I wouldn't blame being in or out of shape or makeup or worry that there's something wrong with you that you have to change externally to be more appealing. It's just what pregnancy is!

MamaOwl15 · August 2015

Remind your SO that you'll have to abstain for around 6 weeks postpartum so he better get some now while he can. ;-).

Capri8 · August 2015

Oh honey; once a week sounds glorious to me at this point. I swear we've had sex maybe once a month... If I beg. I know it's rough but we're becoming moms in their eyes and it's going to change things a bit.

intheversa · August 2015

I would love once a week. We kind of gave up on sex until after. It's not that DH isn't attracted to me sexually anymore, it's more he can't get past the baby being right there between us. I don't know if it's a fear of hurting her, or me, or just the fact that it freaks him out that she's inside me moving while we do the deed, but he just can't do it.

I would be patient with him. Maybe he's going through the same thing right now.

babyvelasquez2015 · August 2015

Once a week Is great. It's definitely tough sometimes with a belly so I recommend oral for your partner. It's a good way to keep a sex life while you are going through so many changes. You are not alone!

naka92 · August 2015

Once a week sounds like a lot to me right now! We've had sex once since my symptoms started, which was around 6 weeks. At first it was too uncomfortable for me with the constant nausea, then I got put on pelvic rest for a while, and now DH is kind of freaked out by baby being in there and moving around visibly. I can kind of understand it, her movements sometimes freak me out and I feel/see them constantly. I'm sure things will go back to normal at some point

VioletandRose · August 2015

My fiancée wishes he could get some once a week! I feel so bad but am just not into it. My sex drive is basically non-existent.

MirandaC1984 · August 2015

Echoing the response from others, once a week would be great. We've been more like once or twice a month. :-/ it's kind of nice to hear we aren't the only ones though.

mommav83 · August 2015

We go through dry spells then go for a few times in a week. He would love nothing more than everyday I'm good with a couple times a week but right now I would prefer sleep. With my first my now ex wouldn't touch me bc I gained a ton of weight (classy guy

jts2015 · August 2015

I know how you feel too

we use to have sex every single day until 2 months ago. I'm lucky to get one night every other week. He's affectionate still but I want sex !!!

gabrielafrnqyepez · August 2015

just as a thought , i dont know how sexualy conservative you are , but mb if hes not willing to do for you than mb try doing for yourself, and this might also lead to him being a bit more aroused and feeling like he needs to engage a bit more

ellisa&rob · August 2015

I have always had a higher libido than my husband, but it got significantly less frequent during my pregnancy. I can't remember the last time we had sex, he is afraid of preterm labor because the last time I got braxton hicks contractions when we were done and we still have while to go. What he will do though is help me get there. it still allows us to be intimate and connect, plus I feel better after and he doesn't worry about causing any premature labor. I have told him that when the time comes, it is going to be my preferred way to start labor.

kjacks6347 · August 2015

What is sex? Seriously though...haven't had sex since the middle of the second trimester. You go girl getting that in once a week! I WISH my husband would have sex with me right now lol. Hes very lovey and sweet though.

kmwl · August 2015

When I want some, I just remind him it's good for the baby. Sex during pregnancy has proven to speed up labor, prevent pre-term labor, and all those glorious endorphins...baby gets too! Sometime hubby has to take one for the team, but honestly, I don't think he minds.

millette2015 · August 2015

Even if once a week sounds like a lot to some people, if it feels like it's not often enough to you should do something about it! What if you were to initiate sex with your man instead of relying on him to be "in the mood"? Your initiation and confidence might be enough. Or try changing things up a little with some sort of sexy game or lingerie (if you can still squeeze in any lol). Lastly (and this has been huge for my husband and I) is not to wait until bed time. I am so exhausted now that it never happens if we wait until then. Good luck! Hope you're getting more action soon!

kmwl · August 2015

millette2015 said:
Lastly (and this has been huge for my husband and I) is not to wait until bed time. I am so exhausted now that it never happens if we wait until then. Good luck! Hope you're getting more action soon!

This! Afternoon delight is where it's at!

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