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Need to vent....

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I was married in October and ever science then I have been asked two questions that are starting to wear on me. "How is married life?" "Any babies"? The marriage one fine whatever but do not ask that if you don't know the woman personally because telling so one you hardly know that yes you had two babies but they are in heaven is what I want to say sometimes and not so nicely! It is no ones business and I don't want to tell everyone. It is bad enough with social media is flooded with everyone else's baby bumps and not mine. I can be happy for others it just wears on me sometimes. I wish I didn't have a chemical and ectopic pregnancy but it did. I am thankful for this sight though I don't know what I would do without you ladies to talk to.
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  • ceclarlinetloceclarlinetlo member
    I hear you on that. I also hate it when people who know you but don't know about the losses say things like "I'm still waiting on babies!" I actually got that from someone who had 5 miscarriages herself, you think she would know better.
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

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  • vallericvalleric member
    That's my reason for avoiding get together a on my husbands side, since his extended family doesn't know, they would all ask.
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  • babbysweet2babbysweet2 member
    A waitress asked last night at my Inlaws favorite restaurant and I was like no not yet and I will have a glass of wine please lol
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  • carrieandrcarrieandr member
    Every two months, the lady that cuts my hairs asks if I'm pregnant yet. Once right after I had a miscarriage.

    My dental hygienist used to ask every six months if I was dating anyone. I said no so many times, I started dreading my dental appointments!  Now that I'm married, she says she hopes I have a big belly next time she sees me.

    Hopefully I'll get pregnant again soon.  I don't think my hair stylist and dental hygienist can take anymore disappointment. ;)
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
    BFP 2/16/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks      •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
    BFP 9/24/18  •      CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













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  • OsteoblasticOsteoblastic member
    Ugh, yes. And what also sucks is the "are you pregnant..?" After you say you have a headache, stomachache, fatigue or have been feeling moody. I get that all the time from coworkers. Nope, definitely 100% sure I'm not pregnant because if if it were possible for anyone to know, it would be me with all my BFN sticks. Not a funny joke.
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    Me(28) and Husband(39): 10/5/2013, TTC since 10/2013
    Metformin 7/2014, BFP 8/14/2014, MC 11/1/2014
    Dx: PCOS, cycles 38-72. As of 6/2015 trying to lose weight and fix cycles with diet and exercise!!
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