Just looking for a little reassurance.

Brittanybyrne · August 2015

So far my pregnancy has been fantastic! Except that I come from a family with three other sisters and a mom who are all very critical. I'm 24 weeks along and have gained 15 pounds. My doctor always says everything looks great and I'm super healthy. Granted I'm not the smallest girl I'm currently weighing in at 190, but I feel like that's okay. However my family has really been getting into my head about how I need to slow down on the weight gain and it's really starting to get to me! Any advice, or similar situations out there!?

VesperLove · August 2015

Are you freaking kidding me? You've only gained 15lbs at 24 weeks? I heart you (and hate you) at the same time.

Seriously though, you have about 16 weeks left. At 1lbs a week, average, that means you'll gain about 30lbs total. If you look at one of the websites that shows you how much weight you SHOULD gain during a pregnancy (all the vital stuff) you should gain 25-35lbs ... so you'd be RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE. Exactly where you should be.

They do say that someone who is overweight should try to stay between 15-25 gain ... but honestly, to only be 5lbs above that? That would be awesome.

I've gained about 15 so far and I'm only 21 weeks (tomorrow). I'd LOVE to stay around 30lbs of gain by the time I deliver.

Bottom line, they need to shut it. You're doing just fine. Just keep eating healthy, getting in a little movement (walking, etc), and you'll be fine!!

kimb311 · August 2015

Tell them to pound sand. And I mean that in the nicest way. If your ok with it and so is your doctor, ignore them. And that sounds about right to me. I'm only 22 weeks and have gained more than that

Mizuiro007 · August 2015

I had this issue with my previous pregnancy, granted I had gained a lot more by this point than 15 pounds and had some to spare before hand. I think my mom is so sensitive about my weight because she's always struggled with her's. She was actually thrilled when I lost weight during my first trimester with this pregnancy.

My advice is to focus on what the doctor is saying. They're going off of medical knowledge and a focus on yours and babies health over anything else. I found it helpful to shut down remarks with "the doctor is happy with my weight". The comments didn't stop but it made it easier to let them go and I didn't get as many to my face.

As long as you're eating as healthy as you can and following your doctor's recommendations no one else has any reason to have any concern.

*I really want to say that they can just show it put I have my grumpy pants on today.

hplunkett2883 · August 2015

They are being ridiculous. Honestly if your doc isn't saying anything I wouldn't let anyone get to you. And like @kyleneum13 said you seem to be right on track. Tell them you will not deprive yourself or your baby and they can either keep their mouth shut about your weight or just don't come around anymore. Just my opinion though.

rachel10488 · August 2015

Yeah that's ridiculous! I'm 20 weeks and was at my dr apt this morning and I gained 7lbs this month (ugh) and I was like "that's too much right, I need to slow it down?" And she's said "ehh it's fine. That's a lot for 1 month but you didn't gain too much the first trimester so you're fine"
I've gained 14lbs total and she said 15lbs is the recommended by 20 weeks. So you're even below that for my doctor's recommendation! Definitely don't worry. I am personally going to try to slow it down a little bit because I've been drinking a lot of juice and really just eating carbs and she said those will start to pack on lbs easier in the third trimester.

littleSkittle14 · August 2015

That's ridiculous. Just ignore them.

Every woman gains weight differently in pregnancy. As long as you're eating healthy (mostly), Your body is just going to do what it needs to do to make the baby. And your family can just get over themselves.

grkgdss00 · August 2015

My doc said they don't talk about the number on the scale, but the measurements of baby. As long as your baby is healthy and on track, that should be what matters. 15lbs at 24 weeks doesn't sound like a ton to me. If you are worried, talk to your doc.

navyblueladybug · August 2015

It's none of her business and if the doc says you're doing good, I'd listen to the doc. If it were my mom being critical I would just stop telling her how much I have gained and if she asks, ask her how much she weighs! That will probably put an end to that conversation

momotheflyinglemur · August 2015

Sounds like your family is being pretty inconsiderate to me. Like PP have stated, if your doctor thinks your doing well than I would trust their judgement and tell your family to shove it if they don't have anything constructive to say.

Take a page out of Thumper's book: "If you can't say something nice... don't say nothing at all."

GardenMama116 · August 2015

I feel your pain. My mom made a rude remark AFTER dinner the other night...I could've slugged her but instead told her that me & the baby are happy and healthy.

BostonBaby1 · August 2015

Sometimes you have to take things with a grain of salt. My last pregnancy, my mother mentioned that I was not eating for two. She said that literally five minutes after I announced my pregnancy. My best advice to you is to let it roll right off of your shoulders. If your doctor thinks that you're fine than that is what is the most important thing.

*typo

Taylovesbrad · August 2015

I just had to make up my mind to not care what anyone says about my size. It is what it is. Try to let it roll off your shoulders. Someone said hey chubbers to me early on and it made me bawl my eyes out. After that I decided I was done with caring. You are making a baby and your body has to change to do that!

Mamabear2u2 · August 2015

You just need to be listening to your doctor. With my son I gained 60lbs! And my doc was not concerned at all. So far this time it's not as much, but since my son is only 15 months I started this pregnancy a little heavier. Don't focus on the number as much as eating healthy, taking care of yourself and following doctors orders.

haylierm · August 2015

That's just ridiculous! Unless of course your doctor is expressing concern about the weight gain. But as previous posters have pointed out, you're a little more than halfway through and have gained about exactly half of what you're supposed to. Sounds right on track to me. I had gained 15 at my 20 week appt and that was exactly what the Dr told me when I asked about my weight. So you sound like you're doing better than I am

seahawksfans · August 2015

That's just rude. Every pregnancy is different among different women (the bump posts prove this!), so if it bothers you don't be afraid to speak up and ask them to leave you alone about it. If you are healthy, no problems with the pregnancy that is something to be very very thankful for weight does not matter in the least. Sorry you have to deal with this while you should be enjoying the experience.

kdlouhy · August 2015

Hang in there! It's hard when ppl are so hurtful.

Brittanybyrne · August 2015

Thanks everyone! This is just what I needed to hear!

rockinmathchic · August 2015

I agree with PPs! You need to tell them to shove it. I got all the same comments, even from my doctor, with my first. What really got me is that everyone said I didn't "look" pregnant or "looked" great for how far along I was but was gaining more weight than I was supposed to. I ended up gaining 40 lbs and I had to have an emergency c-section at 34 weeks. So likely I would have gained more if I went full-term. I literally "lost" the majority of the weight, right after he was born and was only about 10 lbs up from my pre-pregnancy weight, which was average (5'6" and 130 lbs). You're fine!!

Gfloria · August 2015

It sucks that people don't understand that gaining weight is very natural while you are pregnant. Enjoy this time and be happy you can gain weight. It has been very hard to gain weight on my case.

nalanmay · August 2015

My mom made a comment of gee you're getting a belly and you aren't that far along...I shot back with a nasty tone..well when you're pregnant this is what happens...she hasn't said much since!

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